What Makes One's Heart Confused?
By Jelminrie
@Jelminrie (358)
Philippines
September 7, 2011 2:20am CST
What makes one's heart confused?
I mean in a relationship you and your partner have things in common and that is the factor that you Loved each other, but then sometimes, one or the other party becomes confused about his or her feelings towards the other party.
What do you think are the factors that can cause one's heart to be unsure to the one they have committed to be their partner or someone to love?
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6 responses
@Jelminrie (358)
• Philippines
7 Sep 11
Could it not be possible to just support each others dreams or purpose in life? And still be with each other?
@yfchin83 (127)
• Malaysia
7 Sep 11
Both men and women have their own individualistic thinking and wants in life. It is not easy to maintain a relationship. In the initial stage of the relationship, you might find yourself compatible with your guy in terms of interest, hobbies, favourite food, etc. During the later stage of a relationship, it will intensify into something with much more commitment like marriage, buying a house, having a family, etc. If both parties does not have the same priority in life, it is impossible to achieve the target in the near future. This is when the problem creeps in. When there are differences in thinking and goals, it is difficult to support each other with encouragement and love.
@waflay (2737)
• Nairobi, Kenya
7 Sep 11
A long time love relationship has this kind of negativity. It usually result from 'doubts' and a thought of wasting time from one party in a relationship. If one person is not that committed to such a relationship, the other person will feel unappreciated hence being confused or dilemma whether to end the relationship or to continue to wait.
@Jelminrie (358)
• Philippines
21 Sep 11
In this kind of situation is this a sign of having an empty relationship, relationship without the love, so that will give us the doubts of thinking if the person is thinking if he/she is jutwaisting his/her time..
@Dominique25 (9464)
• United States
7 Sep 11
I think there are many different things that can cause us to feel confused about our feelings. We could be getting advice from family, and friends that can cause us to feel differently. Even our own self doubts can trouble us, and cause us to second guess ourself. I think it's important to take the time to step back from our current situation and look at the things that are happening in a realistic way. This will go a long way in helping us have confidence about the decisions we will make.
@Jelminrie (358)
• Philippines
21 Sep 11
Taking time to step back will really help when we are in this ind of situation because sometimes present things that happen give us overwhelming feelings and sometimes it leads us into confusion and not very good decisions.
@RitterSport (2451)
• Lippstadt, Germany
18 Sep 11
hi jelminrie I think first of all its the experience how different we are at times. We had a long distance relationship for three years before we got married so that was a real challenge spending so much time together as newlyweds. I found out some things which really bothered me, like my husband shutting up like a clam instead of talking to me in times of crisis which didnt make me happy. Oftentimes I questioned whether this decision of getting married to him was a good one but now 6 years later the waves have calmed down a bit.
@kry893 (222)
• Canada
10 Sep 11
Confusion can happen if one partner thinks about their ex partners and then they start to compare, silently, of course. This then brings back those old times when they have felt for another and they would wonder if the current relationships is better or vice versa. All these will lead to doubt, uncertainty and lack of happiness.
@WakeUpKitty (8694)
• Netherlands
7 Sep 11
As long as you feel happy, secure, have enough self esteem, are stabil nothing can hurt you. Other people mostly do make you feel confused. By questioning your relationship, your partner, your choices, etc.
It will take common sense and a good chat about what is bothering to take that away so you won't keep seeing ghosts who don't exist at all. A confused heart is breaking more relationships as the fact to have nothing in common.
