What do you think she should do?

Hi Ted, Well, first and foremost, she has to do what in her heart, she feels is the best thing for both her and her baby regardless of what anyone else may think. It's a tough spot for sure. If it were me, I'd get a job and save as much money as possible prior to the baby arriving. If she has a supportive family, that would be the best situation. She could get help with caring for the baby and from people who truly love the child. Would it be possible for her to to take a couple of night courses? It would take her longer to attain her dream but she still would be able to. I would probably put college on hold for a few years until my child was in school. I don't think I could comfortable juggle school, full time work and still give my child the time the he/she would need from me. The baby will grow so quickly and you can't get those days back. School will still be right there waiting.

I'm assuming, knowing your views on certain things, that you're fishing for whether she should abort the baby or not. No one else has mentioned this possibility so far. Some people find it horrid and unthinkable (which I believe you do) and some people find it to be a viable, if sad, option. Personally, I would not take it upon myself to advise another person in these circumstances, because no one can truly know what another individual is going through. Making it through school with a baby and without a loving partner would be tough, but a very determined and resourceful person might be able to do it. Alternatively, she could put off school for a few years. If such a young woman lived in your community, struggling in this fashion, would your family help her (even if she didn't share, for example, your religious views?) Would you. for instance, allow her to rent a room in your home for a very cheap price, (or perhaps, free?) Donate childcare when you can to assist her so that she does not have to consider the alternative of abortion? (Since it is impossible to convey tone of voice in writing, let me assure you that these questions are honestly curious, and not accusatory in any way.)

Apply for scholarships, grants and loans, and give it at least a try. Sue the guy for child support as well. Either that or find a local community college where she is if she has some family support there. You do not have to travel 2000 miles to get your basics, you can go to a local community college and sometimes you can take your classes online. If she is determined she will make it. However, buddy boy still should pay child support.

If it was me I'd choose a college closer to home where my family could help me care for the child. I'd divorce the husband if he was really set on not being a family man and get child support, that would help out with the baby's expenses. I'd attend college and probably go for a 2 year degree so I'd be trained in something to help me live more comfortably the rest of the way through college. Perhaps an LPN degree or an EMT, especially if it was related to the degree I wanted. Or become a truck driver, that's one industry that is suffering a lack of personnel and pays well. Sometimes what we want isn't what we get, sometimes we get something better that we didn't expect. The fact that her plans might have to change aren't necessarily a bad thing and after all, she will have a beautiful child to inspire her.

I think she should follow her dreams and go to college. A little bit of pain and struggle in the beginning would give her success later on. That would be best for her and her new born kid. Her education at this point would help her earn more in future and also would fulfill her dream, giving her kid a better standard of living. Now that she is alone she has to think about the present and also plan her future with her kid.

wow that's too much for a young woman, but she should pursue her dreams,she'll struggle doing that while pregnant but it's also for their future. that's really a difficult situation.

I wouldn't know. She has to carry that much load to go through life, I guess. She is a very unfortunate woman. She should do whatever is necessary to reach her dreams, if she's really determined to reach them that is.

Well, she has her life and the baby to take care of. The chance she has to pursue her dreams is only realizable if she goes to college and complete her course of study. The child will require all essential need- which she should be able to provide no matter what. What I'm suggesting is, life can be hard to start but things change in time, she should do it for the baby and her own life. Going to college and working can be hard but she needs them both, she has no other alternative but to face the reality and make it in life.