in bed with someone else
By alina
@swissheart (6482)
Romania
September 8, 2011 2:53am CST
what would you do if you caught your partner in bed with someone else and he told you ...hey baby it's not what it looks like...I mean you're in bed, naked, and you tell me it's not what it looks like? then what is it? I know I know...you were cold
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@jdyrj777 (6530)
• United States
10 Sep 11
Im 55 now and i figure the main reason i wanted a companion for was to have a large family. Ive already raised my children by myself. So now i figure what do i need a male for??? Im happily single ever after. Not looking either. If i happen to run across a likely candidate i will think about it. The creep i caught wasnt the first time i caught him. It was the last though. It was a couple of yrs ago, he was 55 then and she was 18. While she was there he told her it was ok to talk to me on the phone because i was just an old b!tch. I guess he must have told her his plan for her to give him a son and she took off. Cause a couple weeks later he is calling me and telling me how much he misses me and wants to see me. So i asked him what you miss an old b!tch like me??? Glad i didnt have kids with him.
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@StephanieAnnC (4274)
• United States
10 Sep 11
I'm glad you made the right decision. I bet you'll find someone new soon! Good luck! 
@cream97 (29087)
• United States
10 Sep 11
Hi, swissheart. If my partner ever had to tell me that is is not what it looks like, then I will tell him, "Oh, yes I know, it does look like you need an azz whipping"!
I will be very upset and heartbroken if something like this was to happen to me.
I will be very upset and heartbroken if something like this was to happen to me.@StephanieAnnC (4274)
• United States
10 Sep 11
Exactly. He shouldn't even try to explain. It's blatantly obvious what he was doing.
@StephanieAnnC (4274)
• United States
10 Sep 11
Honestly? I think I'd hysterically break down into tears. He disrespected me and the relationship. He broke my trust and that's what a relationship is built on. I see no reason why he would feel the need to do such a thing. And even if he did, he could have broken up with me before he had to resort to that.
I'd most likely throw them out and slap him in the face. There's no need to discuss anything. He showed me his true feelings. He's gone. The end.
@anonima73 (153)
• Puerto Rico
12 Sep 11
I made a joke on my other comment but I'd also, honestly, react like this. I don't have a boyfriend at the moment but my future husband will HAVE to be a person who I can trust my life in and if he were to do something like this...I think I'd just break down crying, slap him and tell the lady she can have him, he's ALL his. I'd then go to my parents or friends home and cry an eternity.. I already distrust men and if my future husband were to do this..I'd completely not trust love anymore and remain single for the rest of my life. Then again I'm just 16 :P
@hardworkinggurl (37063)
• United States
9 Sep 11
Oh my this would be devastating to deal with and personally I could not see past him there naked with someone else. I would not even give him the chance to explain what his version of it could be as my thought is that I would never for any absolute reason be in bed naked with someone else for no reason. So for me it would not be forgivable and I would have to end the relationship.
@StephanieAnnC (4274)
• United States
10 Sep 11
Exactly! He disrespected me and the relationship. He's gone.
He disrespected me and the relationship. He's gone.@hardworkinggurl (37063)
• United States
10 Sep 11
Good riddance, chow, adios is all he would hear. Too bad some think that words would comfort the sight of betrayal. 
@naija4real (1291)
•
8 Sep 11
I will give her the benefit of doubt by telling her to explain to me why she did that thing to me. I will try to be calm and then listen to her. I will forgive her and then warn her not to repeat such a thing again.
I will give her a first warning letter. If she repeat such an act again, then it is assume our relationship can no longer work out. I will send her packing. I am not the type of person who punish person at first act. I will forgive and then let that person change for the better. I think men are more guilty when it comes to cheating in a relationship.
@swissheart (6482)
• Romania
8 Sep 11
I don't think I could do that..now about forgieving him..I don;t know what to say: you have to be really in love with someone to be able to get over a thing like this. maybe I would do it if I really cared for that person. but I would definitely feel hurt and I would need some time to think about it on my own
@swissheart (6482)
• Romania
8 Sep 11
I say the same thing that I wouldn't forgieve him because this didn't happen to me. but there are lot's of things that could make me decide the contrary. definitely I would feel devastated and I would need some time to thrust him nagain
@yfchin83 (127)
• Malaysia
8 Sep 11
No, I can never forgive him for doing such a mistake. This is way too much for a woman to accept. Just imagine if you were found in bed with another guy, can he forgive you too? If the relationship is going on smoothly, what excuses does he has for sneaking behind your back? This just implies that he is willing to put your relationship on risk in order to have a mere short satisfaction with someone else. If such, definitely he is not worth forgiven.
@chiyosan (30184)
• Philippines
21 Sep 11
well i think it is WHAT i think it is. there could be no other reason. =)
maybe i could check if his ***k is still standing up or so just to make sure! hahah but that meant the end for us. no way i would be accepting any explanation from the bf ever again. no not going near him, will immediately call it quits.
@carolscash (9492)
• United States
8 Sep 11
I would walk out and that would be the end of that relationship.
@StephanieAnnC (4274)
• United States
10 Sep 11
And through that act, he broke my trust into little pieces. Not to mention my heart as well. It's over.
@ladygator (3465)
• United States
11 Sep 11
Well, this would be one of those moments that unless they were shooting a movie, that the thought that pops into my mind is "if it looks like a duck, and quacks like a duck then...... ITS A DUCK!!!" So with that in mind, as I aim this weapon toward your head, tell yourself the same thing!
@knicnax (2233)
• Philippines
9 Sep 11
I would get mad. I'd let all hell loose! I'd get my hands on the girl he's with and slap them both hard, on the face. I'll argue with my man and ask the details of who the girl is. I'd learn her name and her address, her phone number. I'd ask my man to explain everything. He wouldn't cheat if he's happy with me, right? so there's an explanation as to why he's cheating.
I'd give him another chance (but he has to earn it) if this is the first time he did it, but I'd make him feel that it's effin not alright.
@ckciasigurl (2081)
• Italy
17 Sep 11
hi swissheart maybe that's the time that you will talk to your husband if what is the problem , maybe you assessed your self why he do that also maybe because you are not giving your time as we all know boys need some s3x .
@atulmalla (229)
• United States
8 Sep 11
When you see your boyfriend with someone else, it is not always necessary that it is his fault.
You know, many girls are really attractive and many of them know hoe to seduce a man.
So, the fault may also be of that chick who seduced your boyfriend to have some fun!
@swissheart (6482)
• Romania
10 Sep 11
they act like they are trying to proof something.they keep asking stupid questions like who's the man? who's the best....things that would make you loose any mood. this happened to me and it also happened to friends of mine and personally I don't really like it
@anonima73 (153)
• Puerto Rico
12 Sep 11
My conversation:
Husband:Baby it's not what it looks like!!!
Me:It's ok sweetie are you having fun?
Husband:What are you talking about?
Me:I'm going out for a bit ok?
Husband:Wait don't go!!
Me:No no it's ok because I love you SO MUCH I can't even wait one more minute to go search for our divorce papers. *Blows kiss* . See ya later dear. Give me a call when you finish. I'll be waiting at the office.
*Closes the door on his face.*
@ShepherdSpy (8544)
• Omagh, Northern Ireland
8 Sep 11
"It's NOT what it looks like?" The explanation that followed that statement must have been a beauty!
(Was it even remotely believable?!)
(Was it even remotely believable?!)
@UmiNoor (4523)
• Malaysia
11 Sep 11
I pray and hope that this would never happen to me. I trust my husband and I don't think he will do such a thing to hurt me. But if on the off chance that he lost his mind and does the unthinkable, I would probably just walk out on him and take my children with me. I would probably be so devastated and would not forgive him.
@sender621 (14894)
• United States
10 Sep 11
How can you deny what it is. What it looks like is exactly what it looks like unless your partner is being held there against their will. Why deny what is going on. When your caught you are caught and you have to own up to your discretions. if i found my partner in that compromising position i would be so hurt and devastated that my lover would hurt me in that way. Forgiveness would come in time but i don't know that i could forget the pain so easily. i would want to turn my back but then again i would not want to give my lover that power or satisfaction. @macayadann (1235)
• Philippines
10 Sep 11
Not even a single question asked, I will leave him and forget my relationship with him no forgiveness to spare.
@moneywinner (1864)
• Brazil
10 Sep 11
I would leave the house at the moment, because in the moment of stress, no good thing would result of the situation. I would probably do something that I would regret later, so, is better to talk with the partner when I would be more calmer.
@AishaBR (345)
• United States
9 Sep 11
He would even get a chance to finish his sentence because POW I would of hit him in the mouth. I would then contiue to hit him and then go after the female because more than likely she would have know that he had a fiance so she desevers to get some of the beating lol. Or if I am in in nice good mood I would say Oh ok and walk out and came back late and throw all of his things out of my house. I would not give him the benefit of the doubt in that situation.
