When there's a 3rd Party involved... can you take it or can you still forgive?
@kccrystalsachi (117)
Philippines
September 8, 2011 6:27am CST
It's when you just don't feel it but you are really aware that there's someone else involved with your relationship. And this "someone" else demands so much time and attention from your partner. What would you do? Would you choose to let go, would you forgive him or her or would you rather fight for your love of this person even if there is a third party involved?...
What would you do if this happens to you and your partner. Reality is, your partner has someone else and you're still together.
Please share your thoughts here. Thank you and happy mylotting!
5 responses
@lipstick2009 (1236)
• Philippines
9 Sep 11
Definitely i would not.I may forgive but I for sure I cannot forget.I just can't imagine how he would tell me he loves me and yet he has the nerve and feeling to sweet talk to somebody else, or touch somebody else. It is never true that he was just tempted or it was just for fun.Cmon, tell that to the marines! He's got feelings too, its just that he doesn't have a choice maybe that is why he came back to me or that he perceived I am the better choice.
@kccrystalsachi (117)
• Philippines
20 Sep 11
Very well said. Exactly. We have the same thoughts on this. Feelings will always be involved when you deal with being with someone or having to choose someone to be with even for a night or 2. I appreciate you sharing your thoughts. Thank you for this.
@chiwasaki (4694)
• Philippines
8 Sep 11
If that will happened to me, I'll talk to my boyfriend first. If he admitted that there's a third party while we are together, I'll probably break up with him. It is hard to accept that he cheated on me. If he still insists on our relationship, I'll give him a chance. But he has to choose, it is either me or the third party he's involved with.
@kccrystalsachi (117)
• Philippines
8 Sep 11
Nice decision, too, chiwasaki! I like your idea of giving the chance for your boyfriend but yes, letting him choose at the same time rather than still being in a relationship without knowing that the 3rd party would still be part of the relationship. Thanks for your response!
@Amanda81587 (3042)
• United States
8 Sep 11
Wow if I found out that my boyfriend was with someone else and was cheating on me I would leave instantly. I do not think it would be fair for me to allow this to go on. I doubt my boyfriend would like for me to have someone as well. So I would definitely not let a third person in on my relationship. They can have him all to himself.
@haopee (493)
• Philippines
8 Sep 11
It depends really. Why fight for a person who can't stay loyal to you? When people say love is blind, I usually answer, "That is why our mind exists, to help us decide with our other senses."
It's a very bad situation to be caught between deciding to keep someone and give him a 3rd or 4th chance or let him go because the pain is no longer worth it. As a rule of thumb, I tend to give second chances but with a little precaution this time around.
But before all that, you should also ask your partner if he's willing to continue with your relationship or not because sometimes some people tend to hold on without realizing that it's already been decided by their counterparts that it's over.
@kccrystalsachi (117)
• Philippines
8 Sep 11
Very well said. Thanks for your opinion. This is really not from my own situation. It's just that, I'm saddened by my friends who are into this situation now. Good thing, I'm not on this aspect but if this would happen to me, I'll take your word too. Considering and giving chances but with a little pre-caution.
Thank you for your thoughts! Really appreciate it. :-)
@jeztrose (1405)
• Philippines
9 Sep 11
having on that situation is really hard to handle,,before you will have your decisions..you must first confront him on why he did such thing to you?ask him if have you not do what all he wanted?since all of us are not perfect,we sometimes comit mistakes in our lifes..and regret it later on..also ask him if where is he more happy?being with you or with someone else..you must consider some factors on that..i think he has a reason on that..so whatever his answer be..that's the time you can decide if to let him go or give him chances..
