Harmfull childhood:how this reflect to your life?

It really depends on the person's subsequent choices in life. Personally, I believe in divine intervention. I believe God gives us chances to make choices that would either reinforce the good in us or reinforce the bad in us. We could make a decision to harbor the unforgiveness and thus turn into bitter, angry, hurtful, stonehearted people, or to make a decision to swim against the tide and become good people in spite of our past. I've come from a tough background myself. I would have to admit that it's not easy to forgive. I'm glad though that I "met" God as a teenager, and thus, even if I'm inclined to stay hurt, stay unforgiving, He makes me melt and forgive people and live a light, unencumbered life. If left to my own devices, given my past, I'm sure I would have killed myself a long time ago... Or massacred the ones who hurt me. Thank God He never let me. :)

I'd like to picture childhood experiences as a tree. Imagine inflicting damage on the tree while it's still young. When the tree grows, you'll still see the damage you did on it. It's like life experiences. Even if people say that time heals bad experiences, the whole experience is still there. It might appear less prominent but it'll always be present.

Our childhoods can have more of an effect on us than a lot of people are willing to admit. If you think about it, a child learns everything that it eventually knows from the things that its parents teach it when it is a small child. If something bad happens to that child in the beginning of its life, then at the end of the day it's obviously going to have an effect on the way that they think and also the way that they are able to live their lives in the future. I know that I was bullied as a child and even now, as an adult, it sometimes comes back to haunt me and means that I am unable to live my life in entirely the way that I would normally like to.

I believe that psychological damage is inevitable for a harmful early childhood. As for whether they really turn good or bad (in terms of whether they commit crimes etc.) , it depends on what type of harm it is. For instance, physical abuse since young could lead to bullying and exploiting others so that they would never feel bullied again. Alternatively, if say your teachers are for some reason always biased against one for his/her looks, perhaps one would turn to be extremely vain to avoid bias from anyone else. In that case, it doesn't really turn the person into any villain. Hence, we see that such psychological damage, from my 2 cents worth, is exhibited throughout a person's personality and sense of self-identity for the rest of their lives. Some seek treatment with psychologists who help them to eliminate such fears, perceptions etc. derived from their childhood, but otherwise perhaps sometimes I feel many characteristics and personalities of friends can be linked to their past. It is only a matter of whether you know it or not, after all bad childhood is usually in the category typically known as 'deep dark secrets'. No child is strong in my opinion unless their survival is threatened. (they are still absorbed in the material world and have not fully developed their sense of self against the material world). I think the intensity of the mark the abusers left won't really matter from what I see. The impact is all the same. Its the interpretation of the child that matters, which usually results in either phobia or revenge. As for which path the child chooses, I think I will leave it to nature for now. Feel free to comment. =)