back biting

Um - what kind of friend are you? It's easy to feel "sorry" for something you enjoyed doing at the time. MUCH harder to bite your tongue and not do it in the first place. Although if you said these things on Facebook you're forgiven. That site would incite Mother Theresa to be spiteful.

First of all, this isn't the correct topic for this question. But it's ok. If you really feel guilty and bad for saying that, maybe you should tell her that you said that and that you feel really bad for it. If you do so, and you are really good friends, she will understand and forgive you. If she doesn't, try to reward her. Try for more time and do something creative to apologize. She will end up to forgive you. Rod

"Back" biting. The word "back" is reason enough to have this discussion under Health! (Laughs) Veronica, be informed that anything said to another is bound to hit the airwaves. If you ever intend to not circulate something, then it is best not to tell anyone.

The best thing that you can do is simply make sure that you don't do anything like that again. Everyone talks about people behind their back, it's just a fact of life, so there isn't really all that much point in getting upset and down about it. Are you sure that your friend won't find out about what you said to someone else? If there is any chance at all that she might find out about it, then you might want to talk to her about it so that she finds out from you rather than finding out from whoever it was that you were talking to about her.

Depending on how many people you told, you could go back to the same people and say you feel guilty and were wrong to say what you did. That would be the best way. If it ever does get out at least your friend will know you realized how wrong you were and tried to correct it before she fond out and 'caught you'

That's Sad! Why do you have to do that? And even if you think she won't be able to find out, that's not for you to do. Why not start telling your friend about what you did. At least when the "news" get to her, she will not be surprise that it comes from you. You are going to hurt your friend either way, so better to be honest with him or her. Good Luck!

Just stop. Since it's already out there, you can't really do anything about the guilt feelings. You just have to make sure that you don't make it any bigger by saying more things about her. And when she finds out, as they usually do, just admit it and apologize.

This stuff happens all the time. It depends on what have you told about her. If you were talking about things that disturb you and why she doesn't "attract" you anymore and you think they are true, you should say that to her. You could tell her and she could fix her weaknesses if she realizes she is doing it wrong. Don't know really what to say. Are you good friend with her?