I don't know what to do???

@vera0571 (165)
China
September 9, 2011 8:10pm CST
four years ago,I started a discusstion that fall in love with an old friend,still be friend or be lover.I choose the lover and we have spent together for half year. Now we are broken up because of some reason but not from our side. we've been not talling for two week,I don't know If we can still be friends,and I don't know should I talk with him,and I don't know how to stop miss him,but it's really no results.I am so heart broken...
4 responses
jeztrose
@jeztrose (1405)
• Philippines
10 Sep 11
that is indeed really hard for both of you..since you started as friends and now it is very difficult to start all over again..but if you two still love each other then i think you must fight for it..have a talk to resolve things out.. that would be the best thing i guess for you two..
vera0571
@vera0571 (165)
• China
10 Sep 11
i want to talk with him, but he is hide me these days.it's tough time for me,need someone to support me...
vera0571
@vera0571 (165)
• China
10 Sep 11
dear Jeztrose,thank you so much,I feel little better now
jeztrose
@jeztrose (1405)
• Philippines
10 Sep 11
oh.. so sad to hear that.. i guess you are in much pain now knowing that he is hiding you and don't have any plans to talk about it.. yes.. i guess you need someone to talk to ..and share your feelings..coz it's hard when you are feeling alone in this kind of situation..
ckfree
@ckfree (105)
• Indonesia
10 Sep 11
Not easy indeed relieve the pain of heartbreak. But my experience is how long we can forget our beloved spouse, it depends how long we began to fall in love with him. To eliminate the sense of heartbreak, at first tried so hard to hate him and see all the evils and shortcomings. Until the feeling didn't need him anymore. After a normal feeling, then don't hate him or love him
vera0571
@vera0571 (165)
• China
10 Sep 11
Thank you.I wish I can.but whatever bad result will come,I will never hate him.
ckfree
@ckfree (105)
• Indonesia
10 Sep 11
Yes, it's the right attitude. Surely there is wisdom behind it all, surely someone would come better than ever, be patient
Angel
@nanayangel (7879)
• Philippines
10 Sep 11
Hi there Vera 0571! Well, judging from the situation, with you guys being apart because of some outside forces, shows that your situation is much more complicated than your average couple. I think the best thing to do is to decide how committed you two are in making the relationship work. If you decided to fight for it, then, by all means, just always be honest about your feelings. I hope you two will be able to sort it out.
vera0571
@vera0571 (165)
• China
10 Sep 11
Thank you,dear.We have apart three months before,but we cherish this relationship, so we go back together again last month.But now,he gave up,he loves me but he did't want the family relations be worse. I am so sad not because the outside forces,but because of him. I am really disppointed of him,why he can stay with me and fight and loyal to his own feeling...
labli09
@labli09 (70)
• Philippines
13 Sep 11
Hi vera! i havent been into situations like yours but base on my understanding about your discussions about the guy hiding you,it must be very complicated right?if your ex lover is like that, maybe you should move on.he's not fighting for his love for you and thinking about it must be so painful for you.if his love for you is enough, he should even talk to you to clear that matter but no,he's escaping your problem. i have been so hurt before,its true,youll miss him so much but if youll continue to miss him, you cant move on and you will remain being hurt..do you like that? i was so stupid before, it took me 2 years before i decided to move on,i wasted 2 years of my life for that person who cant even fight 4 me..you better think of it vera..dont waste your time on a person who cant fight for you..move on..i know you can do it..