Envy and Jealousy Kills
By redphile
@redphile (2264)
Philippines
September 11, 2011 1:10am CST
I believe that too much of a something will kill a person or eventually will kill the personality of that person. Being envious or jealous is something natural for a person, but if it is too much, it causes the person to act on it or do something to get what he or she wants and most of the time it ends up to something bad. It could be with a parent or husband or wife or boyfriend and girlfriend. It could be because of an item or product or something that you were deprived of and not able to take it now. It could be because of anything. We should just be able to stay strong and learn how to control our feelings. Sometimes we just do things that is out of the way to please ourselves. Me, I just try to calm myself, or if there's something I want that I cannot have, I keep telling myself that it is not for me, and there's something better out there for me.
How about you mylotters?
How do you handle feelings of envy and jealousy?
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7 responses
@huilichan8 (1378)
• Singapore
11 Sep 11
I agree that jealousy/envy can kill. I am not prone to jealousy but I do envy a lot of people. How I handle feelings of envy? Well, I tell myself that someday I will have those things that other people have and which I actually want (I don't want certain things that other people have though.)
@huilichan8 (1378)
• Singapore
11 Sep 11
When I said that I don't want certain things that other people have, I am not referring to bad things. For example, some people may have happy marriages but I don't want a happy marriage becos I don't even want to get married in the first place.
@redphile (2264)
• Philippines
11 Sep 11
Yes I get your point, I think that these emotions are somehow normal, because if you don't feel anything at all, that makes one a sociopath right. But then having too much envy or jealousy is what we are trying to prevent so as to make sure that nothing bad will ever come out of it. It is something that is controllable and we should just learn how to manage our feelings and emotions whenever it comes up. Wanting things or something that you don't have is just normal, which can be achieved with hard work and perseverance.
@huilichan8 (1378)
• Singapore
12 Sep 11
Yup, I agree that it can be achieved with hard work and perseverance. Hv a great wk!:)
@celticeagle (166761)
• Boise, Idaho
12 Sep 11
I feel envy and jealousy on here all the time. Some of the greatest responses. Wish I had said that. Jealousy of the young enthusiasm for writing and the motivation. Yes, I feel the envy and the jealousy. Only change is that I don't act on it like I used to. I am just not up to being a fool anymore. Isn't worth it to me anymore.
@celticeagle (166761)
• Boise, Idaho
13 Sep 11
Because, to me, envy and jealousy are a waste of time.
@redphile (2264)
• Philippines
13 Sep 11
How come? As long as you are being true to yourself, and continue the passion for writing, I'm sure you will find your forte and will be comfortable in writing like the others. Like what I said, envy and jealousy are normal emotions, as long as it will not lead to something not good. I do not consider myself as a good writer but since I am expressing my own thoughts and emotions, I am able to come up with good responses. Just always stay positive and you will definitely find what you are looking for! Never give up for something that you want especially if it will benefit you in the future. There is always a way!
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@GemmaR (8517)
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11 Sep 11
I think that being jealous of people is not a healthy way to live and we need to be careful that we don't waste too much of our time during our life wishing that we had some of the things that other people have who we might know in our every day life. I was jealous of someone once, but then I realised that thinking like this was not going to change everything and it wouldn't make me feel any better just because I was spending my time thinking about how lucky other people are. You should think about the things that you have that other people would be jealous of and remember that there will always be people who are jealous of the things that you have, just as you're jealous of the things that they might have.
@redphile (2264)
• Philippines
11 Sep 11
Yes we should all learn how to accept the things that we have and the things that are not meant for us. Not everything is for you. There may be better things that you deserve. There are things out there that are unnecessary in life and therefore we must learn how to distinguish which is important and which is not. Envy and jealousy are two passionate emotions that is controllable, and we all can learn from it as long as we have the strength and don't let it take over us. Everyone is lucky over another and it is a fact. There are things that other people have that I don't but it doesn't mean that one is better than the other.
@Judy890 (1644)
• United States
11 Sep 11
I never get jealous or get envy of anyone, If I want something that someone as in something for instance a material thing. I'll look for a job and get it. If I see two couples walking by and holding each other and kissing I will not get jealous I will go find someone who can teat me the same an be able to kiss me and hold me and such. Some people are jealous and envy others because they feel insecure about themselves so they talk bad about others and do stuff to hurt them, usually in the news we will see a crazy ex who kills her ex boyfriend's girlfriend because she is jealous of how her ex is treating her new women. If you want something that someone else has go get the same.
@redphile (2264)
• Philippines
11 Sep 11
That is what I am talking about that we can always find a way to get it one way or another but still keeping the peace to one's self and to another. It doesn't have to kill another or even kill your personality just because you don't have that material thing that you are wanting or that person that you are longing for. It is all a matter of time, that there will come a time that you will have what you want by hard work and perseverance.
@kry893 (222)
• Canada
12 Sep 11
Of course we will tend to be abit jealous and envious but if we can just try not to let our emotions control us, I think we'd be able to handle jealousy well enough. I can't say I don't have such feelings because it's just human feelings. But every time that arises, I tell myself that, why do I even need to feel envious for ? what for ? Will it make me happier ? I'm sure not. Then, those thoughts and feelings will just go away.
@redphile (2264)
• Philippines
13 Sep 11
Yes both are human feelings and there comes a time in our lives that we don't handle it as well as the others, but like what I have mentioned in my previous responses, there's always a way to manage our emotions. The questions that you are asking are things that we should be asking ourselves, will being envious and jealous make me happier? If it does, is it good to be happy out of bad emotions? If you analyze yourself and realize that what you are doing is over the top already, then you have had enough and should learn to let go, and be contented with where you are now.
@mohkanari (1957)
• India
11 Sep 11
Envy and jealousy are there from the origin of man.As you said it will gradually kill the one with it.He/she may be hard working to achieve the aim,but they can't sleep peacefully.That is enough to cause all kinds of health problems.It is very difficult to overcome these passions.Trying to analysis oneself, getting frank discussions with well wishers, getting counseling ....all are some ways there. Certainly it is one's fortunate to get escape from these passions
@redphile (2264)
• Philippines
11 Sep 11
I totally agree with you that there are a lot of ways out there that will definitely help overcome envy and jealousy and preventing it from taking over one's personality. It causes danger to man and to himself therefore it is something that we should learn how to control because we never know what to expect and it may be too late unless we have tried the so many ways to control it. Yes, sleeping peacefully will be difficult but we can always find a way to be able to overcome the temptations that takes over one's personality. It will be fortunate, as you have said, for one person to escape from these passionate emotions.
@hafiz008 (450)
• India
11 Sep 11
Yeah you are right, envy and jealous can cause danger to another even result to killing.It is mainly because we are not aware of the blessing we have from the God. In order to reduce or handle it smoothly one man should be religious mind. If will console himself that if didn't get in this world he will get in the heaven. One must understand that life is test and one has to pass the test. If God had given more wealthy to one and not to another, God will look what will he will do with his money and what the poor man do without money or he will steal or just something like that.
In another view if you must look those person who are low to you, it means you must look those people who are not blessed as you, then you will understand how blessed you are.
@redphile (2264)
• Philippines
11 Sep 11
That's right, we must know how to be contented with the things that we already have and be thankful for it. I think like you do and whenever there is something that I am wanting to have, and I can't get it. I think about those other people who doesn't have anything at all, and I tell myself that I am still lucky despite of all the hardships that I experience in my life. Envy and jealousy are two major emotions that are normal but controllable so we should just learn how to be strong and fight off any temptations that leads us when we are envious or jealous.
