After all, I think my investment fail
By kingparker
@kingparker (9673)
United States
September 11, 2011 7:37pm CST
Remember I had posted a discussion about a friend who is at Honduras, and he desperately need to borrow some money to buy an airplane ticket back to Atlanta here. He called me up several times, and I agreed to help him out as an investment to see whether he will pay me back or not. I did pay for his ticket online, although it is $240 for one way. I just hope that he will pay me back as soon as he came back. On Sept 8th, I believe that he board that plane and back here. But I haven't heard from him though. I don't know if his cell phone still work or not, only on facebook I sent him several messages to ask whereabout. He didn't answer either. an hour ago, I saw it on facebook he made friends with another, so I believe that he is already back, and he might be okay. Now, I just need to know whether he will pay me back that money I let him borrow. Seems like he not answering my message, nor ignore me already. I deeply regret to help him out on this, and my investment to help this friend totally fail. Is that a valuable lesson to teach me not to trust people? Especially when it comes to money, I shouldn't let friends to borrow it anymore.
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9 responses
@choybel (5042)
• Philippines
12 Sep 11
I think you are a good friend. Just think of it as a good deed. Maybe you could give him more time to come up with the amount to pay you back. He borrowed from you, right? It just shows that he doesn't have cash yet. Anyway, I hope he will pay up so that you will no longer have this problem. 
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@janevi (888)
• Philippines
12 Sep 11
You definitely helped a friend but you lost your money in the process of helping. There is a saying that, to maintain good relationship with a friend, don't let money go in between for it would surely ruin the relationship. With that experience, the lesson i think is when you help in monetary form, consider it as a donation or something you already have spent and never expect that it will be returned. IN that way, you won't have any regret in helping. In reality, helping a person does not need to expect something in return.
But I also understand the hard earned money is not easy to forego. Just let it pass and don't expect that he will pay you. What you should bear in mind is that, at least you have helped him. If he is going to pay you back, well and good,if not, then consider it as your loss.
Don't let this experience hinder you to help others in need in the future. Nurture that being a' good Samaritan' attitude for your reward is in heaven. :-)
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@kingparker (9673)
• United States
13 Sep 11
I think so, maybe he is not getting his money back yet, so he is not contacting me at the moment. I try to keep this hope up. But I just want my money back, so I can pay it off from my credit card. I take it out from my credit card to pay for his ticket. He should let me know whether he arrived safely, and when he gonna pay me back that money.
@derlilaStern (1756)
• United States
12 Sep 11
That is really horrible!! 
It is sad how many people like that there are out there!
I once lent $550 to a friend so she could go on vacation with us. She said she would pay us back. The vacation was for 1 week. After 2 days being there, she called her Dad who paid a crazy amount of money for her to go home early. She was 'home sick' and 'didnt have enough money' I was furious that she would have her Dad pay so much money when she owed us for the vacation!!!
Later she said that we 'guilt tripped' her into going on vacation. 
I wish someone would guilt trip me into going on vacation!! She paid back $50. But there other $500? She still owes two and a half years later. Sadly, she taught me a lesson to never loan a friend money. For any reason.
Of course, karma isnt nice!! She is definitely getting hers now, and I just sit back and smile to myself. 
It is sad how many people like that there are out there!
I once lent $550 to a friend so she could go on vacation with us. She said she would pay us back. The vacation was for 1 week. After 2 days being there, she called her Dad who paid a crazy amount of money for her to go home early. She was 'home sick' and 'didnt have enough money' I was furious that she would have her Dad pay so much money when she owed us for the vacation!!!
Later she said that we 'guilt tripped' her into going on vacation. I wish someone would guilt trip me into going on vacation!! She paid back $50. But there other $500? She still owes two and a half years later. Sadly, she taught me a lesson to never loan a friend money. For any reason.
Of course, karma isnt nice!! She is definitely getting hers now, and I just sit back and smile to myself. 
@ybong007 (6643)
• Philippines
12 Sep 11
If there's one thing that would easily destroy a friendship it is money. Countless of friendships, even as close as parent-child relationship are ruined because of money. In your case, I think there's not much you can do except cross your fingers and hope that he pays you back. He's being silent and keeping away from you is already a sign that he's avoiding you for obvious reasons but if he is really a friend the least he can do is tell you that he's back but has no money yet to repay you.
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@knicnax (2233)
• Philippines
12 Sep 11
That's sad to hear. Sometimes I wonder why some people value money more than friends. Like in your case, if I were your friend, I would have told you immediately when I got back and tell you when I can pay. For example, I can't pay immediately, I would also inform you. If you tell me that you need the money, then I'll find a way to repay you soon. It's sad why some people are like this, but I think it's wrong to lose trust in people. I guess you should be more choosy as to who you will lend money to, but don't generalize everybody :)
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@marie2052 (3691)
• United States
12 Sep 11
Anyone can take anyone for their money. unfortunately it does not just have to be a friend.
I know my husband felt guilty if he did not help his adult kids, only to be never paid back.
And same with me I have a daughter and son that when you help them whether it be money or a possession once they get what they want they consider it theirs and you since you are mom you do not have to pay her back.
I am now VERY selective in how I assist my adult children.
I hope your friend does not leave you stranded without the money. I know in this economy that is not the kind of friend or family member anyone needs.
Bless you for helping that person though.
God will look down on you and smile for helping them!
@huilichan8 (1378)
• Singapore
12 Sep 11
Has he got his paycheck already? Cos if yes, then there is a possibility that he is trying to avoid you. Where money is concerned, I think you should only lend to people whom you know well. From what you had mentioned in your previous discussion, I don't think you know him well.
You should take it as a lesson if he is indeed trying to avoid you. Don't lend money to people that you are not close to. Also, don't lend money to people whom you do not know well. For me, whenever I lend people money, I don't expect them to return. So, I won't get disappointed if they decide not to return the money.
@FarahJane1011 (180)
• Philippines
12 Sep 11
That's a lesson learned. You should not easily give your trust especially when it involves money. We really have to be very careful, it may be a friend or even to our relatives.
I just want to ask if this friend of yours is your long time friend? How long have you know him? Sorry i was not able to read your old posts. or did you just happen to know him through facebook? Because other option to get the payment is to go to his house and claim it. Otherwise, that's really a problem. Better charged it to experience and learn from it.
My advice is to take extra careful and not to give your trust easily.
