I need your humble opinion..

most important in a friendship is trust and being able to resist because the other friend. But when a friend makes your numbers and talk behind your back to me this is not a friend. still thought well maybe you want to have friends but it does so to please others. go even stay friends you always keep in mind and do not share very personal things. nice day!

Hi Dia! I think you did nothing wrong. You have actually done your best in helping that ingrate friend of yours. If she fails, it won't be your fault. The problem with her is she got too sensitive when you reminded them about their respective task. Actually, I would have been pissed, too if I was told that. Here I am doing my best to help a friend, and that is what she actually thought about me? That's really unfair. Your friend is an ingrate. She doesn't look at the things you've done for her. She's the one with the attitude problem. If I were you I will tell the lecturer about it and I would just ask him/her if I can do the project by myself as the rest of the group has boycotted me. No sense waiting for them. No sense waiting for your friend because it seems she won't be changing her attitude and even befriended someone who is like her, lazy. Actually I think, she's been jealous of you the whole time! Only a jealous person would say that to a friend. Only an envious person would backstab her friend. Personally I think, you're better off without her. Good luck!

Girl you have an attitude problem. To be honest you do. The reason I said this is that you feel and you know its her loss not yours and yet you are deeply affected by it? Why? Because you think you are the greatest loser. Because If I'm you I'm happy that we are not friends anymore. And I'm much more happy that she has another lazy friend. Now when you get high grades and they both flank all of the times. Who will graduate first? And who will get a job first? In ten years after. After graduated and having a good job. You find her still jobless or maybe a house wife. But you. You're working good and earning good. So good luck.

I think you did the best you could. It's her own fault now if she slips on her grades. You were just trying to help her out.

Hi dia. I feel sad to know about your lost friendship. To think of it, you had down nothing wrong about it. It is obvious and obliged for a leader to remind or follow up the members of each task to have it done. And as for the members it is an obligation to accomplish the assigned task. And I believed that task is pretty simple to be done and her reason was not an excuse for not completing the task in time. In fact, in the first place she have no interest about the task or shall I say, she does not care about it. Which means she does not care at you at all even she affected your performance because of her. All she care about was herself. And her lazy world. In other words, she is not really a real friend. Because true friends understands the feeling of others and always help each other in times of ups and downs. Nevertheless, true friend never hurts someone who are important to them. My suggestions, forget about her attitude. Move on your life as normal, never be affected by her. Whenever you are come across to her again, just stay cool and act as normal. But limit your closeness to her. You can help her if you want but with conditions. Conditions that can change her life to a better person. First option, is to ask to change her attitude then you will help her. If it does not work proceed to second options. But this condition if for testing her only if she really meant to be your friend. Life for example, before you help her, ask her to help others first. Give her a mission or objectives or goals. It's up to you what is the subjects or related to your school academic. Follow up and observed her if she accomplished it. I know there are missions she will be having difficult time to have it done. Because not all the times she can get good feedback or respect from the person she help are bad attitude too. In short, make her realized the way it happen to you when you had helped her. By then she will realized and regret the things she did to you was wrong. But if the condition does not work for her and does not regret, then she has a problem with herself and needs to give a lesson. This time you are not involve with her anymore. Let her go and focus on your future. Let others give her a lesson to regret. I know there come a day when she will regret and return to you a new person that worthy to be friend...

i feel for you dia. I don't think you did something wrong because as what you have said you've been reminded by your lecturer about the project and as a responsible leader you did only your part. What i think is that your friend has a problem i mean she's insecure about you. maybe she doesn't consider you really as a friend because if that is the case when you had medical problem then she could have taken over in your behalf if she cares about you and herself. it's really hard to help others who do not also help themselves. you really did great since you had the patience to help her even though she resist it. i think your other friends are right. she was no good. maybe you can talk to her if not possible then maybe in other means like letter just express yourself in that letter. then wait until she softens. after all you only did what you think is right. i hope you fix this soon. still be her friend but don't make yourself stupid again.

Hi, DiaJ88. Welcome to myLot! It is not your fault at all. You did the best that you can. Your friend just did not put forth enough of effort to get the power point presentation off to a good start and rolling. If the whole entire group failed, it was because of your so called friend. I mean she did not even try to work at this project. So, the group failed because of her lazy actions. If she wants to go around and make fun of you while calling you nicknames, let her go right on ahead. She can be mad all that she wants to, because the fact of the matter is that, she is the reason why the entire group failed in the first place!

Sounds like she is the one who has problem, not you though. Don't feel upset about it, and can you be with another group instead of this group? You can tell your professor that your teammates trying to boycott you, and you are no way to work with them anymore. In such circumstance, if it is okay you can switch your team, and you can still finish that project on time, and not going to fail. Anyway, we all go to school and trying to get a good grades, I don't that is a problem.

I am sorry this happened to you. You did nothing wrong and even went out of your way to help someone. Your goodness is not taken away by others rudeness. We live and learn. All you can do is your best and continue to try to help others and don't be discouraged by this. Not everyone will appreciate your efforts, but know you are doing the right thing and in the end that is really what counts. All the best

You played your part to the fullest and only a negative thinker or a trouble maker can search for faults in your characters. Well, people are different and you cannot force a concept into a mind that is not ready to receive the same, as long you know your goal in life then let no one come and take it from you. If she was your friend and goes around your back calling you nicknames, then know she was defeated that she can't face you because of shame. Let her return to her place in class. ..you can take a cow to drink water but you cannot force it to...

If it were me if they were trying to change then they deserve my friendship. However, friends go through both ups and downs and if she can not handle the fact that you want the team not to suffer over something like that apparently, she is going to drag you down if you let her. You have to make your own decision and put up with it or stand up for your self and let her be her, she will regret it later if she ever decides to grow up.

hi dia.. i feel so sad after reading your discussion, i feel pity on both of you since you lost your good friendship.. but i think it is not your lost it's hers.. don't waste your time on a person who doesn't deserve anything on you..you have tried your best to help her.. and i guess you did it well..the only problem is your friend..she is not concern on herself like you did and she doesn't see how good you are to her..and get blinded by the devils around.. i hope that after that situation in your life.. you would find another friendship better than you had with her..