Do you think my BFF cares about me...?
By anonima73
@anonima73 (153)
Puerto Rico
September 11, 2011 10:21pm CST
Me and my BFF have been friends for 6 years now and going strong but at times I doubt if we really ARE friends. Like for example, for a month now I've been anxiously awaiting an activity in which she will sing live on TV in my country. I've never seen her sing in person and she knows how much I wanted to go and cheer for her but just today she told me I can't go because the special guest invite that was saved for me was suddenly given to my EX. Supposedly her mom decided without her consent but I have it hard believing that..my BFF has lied to me before about this type of thing.
She NEVER likes to spend time with me. We live in the same town, live 10 minutes away by car, go to different schools that only takes one hour to walk by foot to the other and yet we NEVER see each other. I haven't seen her in person since I started high school much but we chat EVERY DAY. I tell her how I want to spend some time together every now and then but she always says "She' busy" "She can't" "It's too much trouble" but she spends a lot of time with her school friends, they visit each other, go out, spend time in music activities, go to church, etc. but she never has "time" for me...
I always laugh it off and tell her it's ok I understand she doesn't have the time but it's seriously always hurt me. We don't even call each other by phone, the rare times I see her she doesn't even wave a hi at me and keeps walking ignoring my existence.
I don't want to feel needy but I want to confront her and know..because her family doesn't like me much either...she once told me how her family thought of as a bad influence which I ain't I'm just atheist while she is pure catholic..I've never forced my beliefs on her or anything...
Anyways the point is do you think this "BFF" that always ignores me, doesn't do any slight gesture to meet me or anything is my real friend? We like to chat all day bu that's about it...
2 responses
@gk655321 (236)
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12 Sep 11
It sounds to me like she isn't too much of a friend. It maybe because her family is strict or that they don't like you in general, but that's no excuse really because it leaves you feeling bad. She may really want to be friends with you, but feels pressure from her friends/family to stay away. I'd say let it slide and try to hang out with some better people. She may come around one day, but until then just try to focus on yourself a little more and the things that make you happy.
@anonima73 (153)
• Puerto Rico
12 Sep 11
Honestly I think this too..but I just commented on the invite on facebook saying "I wanted to go... :(" Her mom commented it was cancelled and it was for next Saturday. It sounds like they can still invite more people. THAT'S what I mean by my BFF lies...to me she's my ONLY friend but to her..she has a lot of friends. She doesn't like other people to see us together...so yes it's part due to pressure but I don't really think a REAL friend would stop meeting me "her BFF" just due to embarrassment. If she does, which she is, then she's not a real friend but I can't just stop talking to her she means to me.
@anonima73 (153)
• Puerto Rico
14 Sep 11
Ok. It's just that when some body holds a person dear the hardest thing to do is to let them go. I will try not to expect much from her but in a way it is based on hopes she will one day be what I hope her to be. I've gotta drop this thought sooner or later since people will never change as we want them to. We just gotta accept them for who they are, defective and full of contradictions.
@emjay86 (640)
• Philippines
12 Sep 11
She is no BFF! Doesn't sound like one at all. It is really freaky the way she must have changed. I disgust people like that. Calling themselves your friend but then the location of your friendship has definition. It just can't be anywhere. It's as if she doesn't wan to be seen around you publicly. Get her off your system, I know it hurts. You deserve someone better.
@anonima73 (153)
• Puerto Rico
14 Sep 11
I wish I could but she's the closest and only person I can call "true friend". I understand it's due to her religion and she's probably scared of people's judgment if they saw her with me..but..can't help myself but forgive her and wait for her to someday realize that what she's doing hurts my feelings more than she thinks.
