How do you feel after you insulted someone (intentionally or not)?
By alnilam
@alnilam (969)
United States
September 12, 2011 3:38am CST
I know for myself that I sometimes can be a bit too quick on the tongue and say something before thinking - this sometimes results in me unintentionally insulting someone (not with curse words or something)... More in a way that I say something in a way and they understand it the other way.
Sometimes after that I feel a bit horrible and do apologize but sometimes I feel like people these days are too easily insulted by things some say. Sometimes it have to repeatedly reassure people that what I said came out the wrong way and they just don't want to understand and try to persuade me I did not think what I did...
However there are times, that I am really stressed and become a bit hard on people, and in my anger mode insult someone. It feels good at that time, but as soon as I cool off I really feel guilty. I hate the way I react when I am angry, I do not think the person who got insulted deserved it...
How do you feel after insulting someone?
7 responses
@WakeUpKitty (8694)
• Netherlands
12 Sep 11
If I say something and someone else is understanding it in a complete different way I will be very surprised and explain (at least try to explain) what I mean to say. And that this is not what they do hear.
I don't feel awefull or bad in these kind of cases I just don't understand why people hear different things as from what I am saying.
Insulting someone one I would never do just so for fun or to break someone. If I would try to do that I would do it because they stepped at my soul at least 1 million times. And no I don't feel quilty or bad about myself one single moment.
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@alnilam (969)
• United States
12 Sep 11
Trying to explain can be impossible sometimes :)
I to would never insult someone for fun or to break them, I never understood how people could do such things, high school is the perfect case - I never was the one being insulted or did the insulting (well except at PE but that does not count, none of us took offence on those insults lol) but I witnessed it far too many times and what it did too the person being insulted it was just sad.
@alnilam (969)
• United States
12 Sep 11
I also think it is getting worse. The other day when my mum was walking her dog in the morning she came across some youngsters that seem to have been parting the whole night, she said they were really offensive and were calling her names for no reason at all. And this is not the only time it happened.
I remember when I was in high school and I also did party till the early hours and we also seen older people who were walking around but none of us never would go so far to insult them, sure we might make funny remarks about them between ourselves here and there - we we're young then hehe but we did have respect for others. Something that seems to be lacking in the youth nowadays.
@WakeUpKitty (8694)
• Netherlands
12 Sep 11
Schools are great crime scenes.. don't know if it's getting worser but little children already love to insult people/adults. On the street, seems to be normal. I tell myself that if people are older and had a lot of life experience this also is a reason why they hear different from what I say. Mostly I am able to talk about it with them, with just a little part you can't. Then I give up. You can't change someone's opinion about you/what you said if they don't want to hear what you say. And there is no need to feel bad about that yourself. Try to let it go and not poison your life.
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@a_year_older (636)
• Malaysia
12 Sep 11
I apparently say hurtful things sometimes without realising it. I would only notice afterwards when I think back on what the conversation was about and how the person reacted that I realise my words could have been misunderstood as something hurtful.
I feel guilty when I realise that I hurt someone's feelings but if my words were misunderstood, I actually feel less guilt. Maybe it's because I don't expect the person to be so sensitive.
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@GemmaR (8517)
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12 Sep 11
I am one of those people who don't tend to think before they say things, so unfortunately I find myself in that kind of situation an awful lot at the moment. I always apologise to the person and then will try to explain to them that I didn't mean what I said, and will also try to let them know what I did actually mean when I said those things to them in the first place. I feel guilty a lot of the time because I am well aware of the fact that I do put my foot in it a lot when I'm talking to people, but apologising really is one of the only things that I can do to be honest with you.
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@xxtine (7)
• Philippines
12 Sep 11
when i feel that i have insulted someone unintenitionally i really feel bad. and to compensate with my feeling of guilt that i have offended someone i usually apologize. if i insulted someone that i intentionally did i will not feel bad at all, because knowing myself i really have a long patience and if it reached to the point that i have to insult somebody then i must say that he deserves that.
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@alnilam (969)
• United States
12 Sep 11
Well I guess you are right, some people might just deserve it - I would probably not feel bad then at all - gladly I have not came across such a person in a while. I have a long patience also but when I am angry (no matter the reason) the patience drops close to level zero lol.
