Just a stupid joke
By WakeUpKitty
@WakeUpKitty (8694)
Netherlands
September 12, 2011 1:10pm CST
Your bf calls you and tells you he won't be there since he will make a trip with his dad. So he might be come back after Christmas.
He has no job so time enough to travel and starting today it would take at least 80 days to travel (and come back).
You sold your car to pay for the trip, had to arrange a lot to be with him at Christmas also because he wants to marry with you.
How would you respond on this news? (Wedding is of, selling your car was for nothing and you can't cancel the journey anymore).
Later he calls back and says it was just a stupid joke and his way to find out how much you love him.
Is this guy nuts or is this normal behaviour?
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10 responses
@SpikeTheLobster (6403)
•
12 Sep 11
It may be "his way to find out how much you love him" but personally I think it's more likely to be "his way to find out how hard you can hit him". 
That's just dumb. But then I guess there are some pranksters around who do worse. I know I'd be seriously peeved if my lady did something like that to me. Seriously peeved.
That's just dumb. But then I guess there are some pranksters around who do worse. I know I'd be seriously peeved if my lady did something like that to me. Seriously peeved.@WakeUpKitty (8694)
• Netherlands
12 Sep 11
There is nothing wrong about testing if someone loves you at the start of a relationship but I do think it's wrong if you don't show it yourself at all.
To me it would be prove enough if someone would travel half the world for me, sold his car to pay for the trip. I would not dare to tell I wouldn't be home at that moment.
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@SpikeTheLobster (6403)
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12 Sep 11
"There is nothing wrong about testing if someone loves you at the start of a relationship".
I respectfully disagree, completely. Trust is essential. Tests are unnecessary.
@WakeUpKitty (8694)
• Netherlands
12 Sep 11
Hmmm I do believe nearly everyone is testing the other (but not in this way).
I agree what you say about trust (thanks for reminding me of that).
@Netsbridge (3253)
• United States
12 Sep 11
Your relationship with this man appears very risky. Marriage is supposed to be a step up for a woman. Why would you want to marry a man without a job and a man you have to sell your property to support?
I think you are very insecure and this man knows that weakness and is taking advantage of your insecurity. My advice is: Until he gets a job, gets his own place and stops depending on his dad, you probably are better looking elsewhere for a husband.
@Netsbridge (3253)
• United States
12 Sep 11
Wakeup, why would you sell your car just so you can visit a boyfriend? If this man wants you to visit him, then he should send you a ticket. And if you simply miss him, then you can communicate with him by phone or online rather than sell your property - which implies you are not that financially capable.
Anyway, I already gave you my advice: I think this man knows your weakness and he taking advantage of your insecurity.
@WakeUpKitty (8694)
• Netherlands
12 Sep 11
I sold my car to pay for the journey to visit him.
I don't support him in any other way (so I dont give him money or so).
Of course it would be great to marry a rich guy but that is not necessary for me since I am able to take care of myself.
For the rest I do believe by now you are right. Big change the marriage is of.
@angel_kaycee (1112)
• Philippines
14 Sep 11
what i think about this is that he never meant to do such a stupid joke or was he playing fools with you. i think what he was trying to do is to be a little bit surprising, or sweet or a little dramatic and romantic. but i guess it didn't turn out too well so you misunderstood it. or maybe it was a test of love. he wanted to prove himself how much you really love him and how far you can go for your love. i'm pretty sure, he got all the answers he wanted. now he knows how much you can sacrifice for him, to be with him. 
(sigh) i envy you, i don't think i have the guts to do the same although i wanted to, and how willing i am, im not that confident and brave enough. i wonder if bf can do the same?
(sigh) i envy you, i don't think i have the guts to do the same although i wanted to, and how willing i am, im not that confident and brave enough. i wonder if bf can do the same?@WakeUpKitty (8694)
• Netherlands
14 Sep 11
He told me he would go travel with his dad (that's fine with me) but as he told me he wouldn't be there as I arrive in his country I told him it's over if he is not there.
Later he called back and said it was just a stupid joke to test me.
Personally I don't believe a word of it. I think he just said that to calm me down because I was angry with him.
He will never make such a sacrafice for me he has a simple answer: I don't have money. That says enough to me. It means: since I don't have money I don't need to prove anything or do my best at all.
I don't feel it as a sacrafice I will make a great journey out of it with or without him.
He already knew long before that I would come over, asked me for weeks when, was counting the days, I told him how I payed for the journey several times so he already knew what i did for him. There was no need to test me again with a stupid joke.
@waterproofpaper (139)
• Philippines
13 Sep 11
You were being test not how much you love him, "but how important he is to you and what else can you sacrifice for the sake of your love,". You might get mad, but its ok and feels so good to start over again with him or with somebody you can say you will do anything for love.
@WakeUpKitty (8694)
• Netherlands
13 Sep 11
.. what else I can/will sacrifice for him you mean.. I don't think this has anything to do with love. I never said I will do anything for love although I do way more for him as he ever did for me. His excuse is: You know I don't have money.
@WakeUpKitty (8694)
• Netherlands
13 Sep 11
well then he must be clown and since I don't like clowns...
@shanemae (1025)
• Philippines
13 Sep 11
haha! this is silly. that boyfriend might be in doubt of his gf's love. i think this is too much for a prank. if i were the girl i would feel bad about it. i might slap his face for doubting my love for him.
@WakeUpKitty (8694)
• Netherlands
13 Sep 11
I doubt if it was a stupid joke he made. I think he just said it because his gf told him that if he doesn't show up if she arrives in his country and also is not there at their wedding, it's over!
@mods196621 (3652)
• Philippines
12 Sep 11
A silly joke of an abnormal behavior of your bf. Even i cannot accept that easily and i will get annoyed with him for doing such thing nonsense. Sorry to say that but that was really i can say coz even me hate that joke. What he think about it.? anyway that was his style of getting to know of something he want to know maybe by himself. So goodluck.
@WakeUpKitty (8694)
• Netherlands
12 Sep 11
Well now he knows what I think about it (it was not the first time he came up with stupid jokes). I told him it will be the last time I will come over and this time just because I can't cancel the journey anymore.
@yoniarnon (1079)
• Israel
26 Sep 11
Sure he is a nuts!
I hate tricks Although some weeks later it become jokes and you share it with others like you did, but this trick was to crazy!
@tyleika (232)
• United States
12 Sep 11
Normal behavior? I know not. This is all out nuts and after this he would know just how much I love him and it would not be a joke. Don't nobody got time for jokes if you wanted to know all you got to do is ask. Start out with small things before you try and take it all.
@WakeUpKitty (8694)
• Netherlands
13 Sep 11
A wise advice but I am afraid he is too simple to understand and practise that :-(
