Drifting from your friends?

I know exactly how you feel. Though I maintain a few longterm friendships and recently got back in touch with my best friend from grade school, I have an incredibly difficult time making and keeping friends. I think part of it is the fact that I am a very introverted person. I don't do small talk, am not into pop culture or anything popular, and I am very goal-driven and career oriented, sometimes a little too much to be overly social. Sometimes when I would get invited places, I would have to pass because I had dance. I also have a lot of social anxiety and often fear that if people were ever exposed to the real me that they wouldn't like me - I will be the first to admit that I am extremely weird, counter-cultural, oxymoronic (I am always interested in the complete opposite thing as the one you would expect someone like me to be interested in) and I am very into "dark" things. I am not what you would call a happy person (although I have successfully fooled a lot of people on this one), but I don't like to rain on other people's parades either. Basically I am just not an easy person to get to know. When I was in school, my elementary school didn't feed into the middle school I went to and my middle school wasn't one of my high school's feeder schools either (my family never moved - I just didn't go to my neighborhood's base school until high school). As a result, I did not get to keep in touch with any of the friends I had in elementary school (this was before the days of Facebook, mind you), and I didn't have that many friends in middle school or high school. For the most part, I am fine with having few friends. There is no drama, no wondering who's going to stab who in the back next, we never have an argument or fight, and none of us like to push the others' buttons. We have all seen each other at our worst, but we all respect each other for who we are and for the most part know each other very well and want to make each other happy. I hated this when I was a kid because I was an only child, so if one friend couldn't get together on the weekend, I had no back-up so I would get very lonely. Now that I am older and don't have to worry about that anymore, it's all good. Having more friends wouldn't hurt though.

i tend to drift away from my friends too even from the friends i used to be so close to and we were inseperable back two years ago i had so many friends but now i have hardly any i think boredom has alot to do with it and people just so caught up in their everyday lives they just tend not to make time for friends in their lives for me i know its my depression causing me to drift away from my friends i dont text or call them back and they just dont understand what im going through but its ok ive always been a loner anyways

I think its all about growing and moving on. At least that is how it was with me. I decided I was ready to quit the partying and settle down, get married and have kids. All of my friends wanted to continue partying and most of them still do. Now I have a loving husband, 2 wonderful kids and our friends all have kids, my old friends are those old people sitting at happy hour we used to say we didn't want to end up like.

For me not if I find friend for now I will make it until the end.

Hello samz, i have drifted from my friends and the reason being the time.When i was in school i had so many friends but when i left school and joined college we all entered into the new world and apparently forgot each other and then i left college all us forgot each other and now when i am married and have kids and the offline work i don't get time to get back to those friends more often.However when we have some special occassions we do meet.But its really sad when i think of the past and repent for the friends i lost with time.

A few of us still meet on a monthly basis while a few other of my friends and us have drifted apart. All these being that they have different lifestyles than us. Some are married, some aren't. The ones who're married have their own concerns and discussions about in-laws and children and the ones who aren't married talk about their dates and so on...

The past year or so I have felt like I was drifting away from some of my friends. It just seems my circle of friends I constantly spend time with has changed and those i used to spend every weekend with, I barely talk to. I don't know if there was one specific cause or simply that we just drifted apart and went into two different directions with our lives.

There are a lot of reason why friends drift apart. As we interact with other people we discover something new and prefer the company of those new found friends until you find another set of friends. Location is also another factor, you may have friends in one place but due to the distance you slowly drift apart once you are more familiar with the place. And then there's the petty things some friends fight about. There are a lot of reasons why friends drift apart that's why in the long run there are only few who you can truly call true friends because they're there for you no matter what.

Hey, that is not new, and it actually happen to me too. I remember in college, I kept 3 to 4 good friends, but now, we are drifting apart. Most of them got married, and start their families. For me, I am still myself, and single. Not find the right one yet. I missed the old days, and sometimes, I really daydream about it. What about you?

This has happened to me. After my studies i got a job at an MNC and was there for almost 3years. At that time i was a part of a group that went through training together and got placed at projects that were at the same location. We became very good friends some of them even close friends. After 3years i changed my job location and suddenly in due course of time phone calls became less and i lost touch with most of them. Sometimes its just that moving away from that group, adjusting in your new place, new people you just loose contact with old friends.

I also tend to drift away from friends. I believe you start meeting new people as you continue living your life basically. You can observe the biggest development of your life during school, and continuing studies after that. As your interests change from your friends, you tend drift to new groups who share your interest. This also occurs after school, at work etc. I guess in a way, for some people they just need to continue changing their lifestyles in order to keep themselves entertained. This comes with the sacrifice of friends especially when they resist on venturing out of their daily routine.

I have drifted from my friends before what made me drift away was they had a problem with one girl and that girl i was friends with her they started talking about me and saying all these bad things just because I hung out with someone they didnt like its sad because I knew them since I was little and it ended because of something silly. True friends dont tell you what to do or, talk bad behind your back and judge you for who you hang out with.

There are certain friends that I have been through a lot with and we haven't seemed to have drifted to far away we always keep in contact at least every now and then over the phone. I think sometime people feel out of sight out of mind. When friends are not around they find new friends sometimes to get over the alone factor. In some cases people just change, or move and it is more difficult to keep in contact. Personally I think the reason for drifting varies.

i also experience drifting of friends since i was in my preschool years up to the present. its sad that you can't keep the same persons as your friend but maybe because people's preference changes so drifting happens. another factor would also be the places you are now, i guess people adopt and try to mingle with others as what i do and get another bunch of good friends. well, in my case i keep in touch with my good friends i have in my high school and college days.

Yes, I have drifted from a lot of my friends and I hate to admit that. Some of them have moved away, some just slowly stopped talking, some have passed on, but I try to stay in contact with the ones I do have and have been recently stumbling across some old ones, lol.