Thank you , what it means to you?

@janevi (888)
Philippines
September 12, 2011 8:31pm CST
Saying thank you is as simple as ABC. It is even automatically said if somebody does something for you. But does it really mean something to the one saying it? Is it also being received as something that is really coming from a grateful heart? When some favor is done to us, we can't help but utter these words full of gratitude but I seldom hear the response "YOU'RE WELCOME". Are these words not common anymore? I remember when I was still very young, we are taught to say thank you and you're welcome all the time. Saying thank you with all our heart is sharing the BLESSING we received. Answering YOU"RE WELCOME is receiving the blessing and at the same time, an invitation to do the same to the person who said thank you. Isn't it, it's nice? Doing a favor for a person you receive a blessing and the blessing will be kept on spreading if we simply answer you're welcome.:-) Younger generation these days are short of these simple valuable words. They may be just mere words but it carries a very valuable blessing to each one who says it and responds to it. Are these words still part of everybody's vocabulary?
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19 responses
@DiaJ88 (170)
• Singapore
13 Sep 11
Hi, I still reply 'your welcome' to a simple 'thank you'. Whenever I think that there's nothing to thank me about, I would reply, 'No worries, it's nothing'. I belief a simple 'thank you' could make up someone's day. It's a manner of showing your gratitude to a person who have helped you.
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@janevi (888)
• Philippines
13 Sep 11
Keep it up DiaJ88. Whether they acknowledge it or not, as long you are happy in doing a favor to them, and you welcome whatever comes next, you are still okay. Sometimes, it is really very hard to good but it is possible .:-)
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@Judy890 (1644)
• United States
13 Sep 11
I always say Thank you when someone opens the door for me, picks ups things that I've accidentally dropped or sneezing I also do the same for them but rarely get a "you're welcome" Some people are so rude and dont have thank you or any polite words in there vocabulary.
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@janevi (888)
• Philippines
13 Sep 11
Hi Judy!.:-) Just like what sabrene said, it depends on how one is brought up in their family though environment also plays a role. What we can do at elast as of the moment is spread do it everytime we have the opportunity to say it. :-) Have a nice day.:-)
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@bagarad (14283)
• Paso Robles, California
13 Sep 11
Great topic! Children learn their manners from their parents, and I remember my own parents always reminding me to say thank you until it became a habit. I was also taught to write thank you notes for gifts or hospitality. But it is work for parents to teach their children and keep reminding them until the habit is formed, and many parents who work don't have the full care for their children anymore and aren't always with them to help them form these habits. Now they are starting to teach manners in some of the schools here because parents aren't doing it. But deeper than that, the whole concept of gratitude is lacking in many children. They take things for granted and feel entitled to everything they get, as though it is owed to them. This displaces gratitude, since the two attitudes aren't compatible. This may be why so many young people are unhappy. They have not learned to appreciate what others do and don't experience gratitude or count their blessings. Instead they only think about what they still want and don't have. When I was in high school, a group of us spent a lot of time together and we often had parties. About half were at my house, and the other half were at Bill's house. Bill was my boyfriend's best friend. Both Bill's parents and mine thought it was good for us to bring our friends home so they would know them. Probably every week we were at Bill's house or mine or both. Long after we were all married, and our parents were old, I thought about Bill's parents again. And I decided to write a letter after all those years since I had seen her just to thank her for the way she and her husband had opened her home to us and always welcomed us. She wrote me back how much it meant to her. When people get older and are looking back at life and wondering if they had made any difference to anyone , the gift of letting them know how much you appreciated something they did can make their day.
@janevi (888)
• Philippines
13 Sep 11
Thank you bagarad :-) It is the parents' responsibility to educate their children in preparing them for life. Formation of children to become good persons, really starts at home. But just like what you've said, absentee parents cannot do that to their children. Forming the habit of gratefulness should start in the early stage of growing up of children until it become part of themselves or until it becomes natural to them. If this responsibility is not done in the house, who could then be the one to teach them? Perhaps being part of the society we can share the task in forming them, right? :-) So that one day, we may receive a letter from somebody we do not know, how we created an impact in their lives by simply showing them how to become a well-behaved individual.:-)
@mohkanari (1957)
• India
13 Sep 11
Thank you is the words of gratitude for a favor received.It contains a tone of humbleness.By saying welcome we acknowledge the attitude of humbleness as well as invite the other one to provide chances again to do good things. Everyone is happy to do good things as well as receiving good things.Saying "thank you" and return You are welcome" both are expressing there happiness. I think these are great words.
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@janevi (888)
• Philippines
13 Sep 11
Yes it is a word of gratitude and the acknowledgement of one's inadequacy and acceptance of her/his present situation that leads to humility.:-) That's very true mohkanari. As the bible says, "blessed are the cheerful givers' for they shall see God and maybe experience heaven . Heaven because one becomes so happy when someone is happy with what she/he has done for him/her. Let's propagate it.:-)
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• Saudi Arabia
13 Sep 11
Exactly! Humbleness and Arrogance are like water and oil...they don't mix!
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@shanemae (1025)
• Philippines
13 Sep 11
i love hearing this word janevi. the word thank you makes me feel warm. when i give someone a favor and when that person replies thank you to me that would mean a lot! because when i say thank you, i really mean it. i am a nurse and i had training in the hospital. when my patients say thank you too me that would lift my spirit that just mean that they feel well taken cared of and that really means a lot for me.
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@janevi (888)
• Philippines
13 Sep 11
I agree with you shanemae. "thank you' are just two simple words but it can uplift the spirit of people taking care of other people like you.:-) It can inspire a person to do good and give her best.
@Sabrene (24)
• Saudi Arabia
13 Sep 11
Saying the magic words implies how you have been brought up. It's a part of mannerism. These proverbs/sayings prove the same. Do unto others as you would have others do unto you. What you give out comes back at you like a boomerang. Give respect and take respect. I like your topic of discussion.
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@janevi (888)
• Philippines
13 Sep 11
Thank you sabrene.:-) It's part of how one is brought up or an acquired attitude, it sis still important to know how to say these words.:-) In addition to the sayings, " whatever is inside flows out to the outside". If goodness wells up inside, for sure, goodness flows out .:-)
@ckyera (17331)
• Philippines
13 Sep 11
Hi Janevi! I usually say thanks for people who do me a favor or in any appropriate time. I say thanks most of the time but don't usually receive a 'you're welcome ' response but some do smile after hearing me saying thanks. On my part, whenever someone say thanks to me, I just respond with a smile, sometimes I do say welcome or no problem, depends on the situation. i think this is really a good habit that each one of us should practice coz it can create a brighter day for us and send some good vibes.
@janevi (888)
• Philippines
14 Sep 11
Acknowledging the blessing can vary from person to person.A welcome can be smile just like what you did or simply a nod or a thumbs up would suffice. But for a person who has been done a good deed hearing the word welcome form the person who did the good thing, is like a hug or an assurance. :-) Carry on! God bless you.:-)
• India
13 Sep 11
Like all our friends have said it is a sign of good upbringing. Children need to be taught these basic manners like Thank you and Sorry. One should feel for it and say thank you which in turn pleases the person. Every service taken should be acknowledged with a thank you, that shows the personality of a person. I have come across many people who do not have this attitude of gratitude and behave as if we were indebted to do those things for them. I feel very sorry for such people. Happy mylotting.
@janevi (888)
• Philippines
14 Sep 11
Saying thank you is indeed very basic and yet many forget to say it every time that somebody does a favor to them. Making a habit of saying it makes you more sensitive to the little blessings you have everyday of your life. Building the right attitude among children is one of the wealth that parents bequeath their offspring that is permanent and noble.:-) Thank you for your sharing.:-)
@ebuscat (5935)
• Philippines
13 Sep 11
For me they said an appreciation to the things you done and said it's a good attitude ever.
@janevi (888)
• Philippines
13 Sep 11
That's true. a grateful heart always remember.:-) good is developed through the years of practicing it until it becomes natural to a person.
• Philippines
13 Sep 11
I don't know about everybody, but thank you and you're welcome are certainly part of mine. Yes, I've noticed that some of the younger people do not bother to express gratitude and appreciation. It will not cost anyone anything to say these magic words and spread blessings around. I am glad that you brought this up. This could serve as a wake up call to some or even to many. Thank you janevi! God bless you always.
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@janevi (888)
• Philippines
13 Sep 11
Thank you very much for appreciating the topic i posted.:-) Sometimes, we just don't know how these words can affect people around us. Simple and yet value-laden words.:-) There are even stories about a THANK YOU book. It is good for children and maybe teenagers as well so that they will be awakened to strengthen their good moral values.:-) God bless you too bamikalipal
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@jennbart (1330)
• Philippines
13 Sep 11
It means, you are graceful. You say Thank you because you are pleased with whatever help that was extended to you. I say thank you as it doesnt cost a thing and it shows that you are educated enough to tell the other person how appreciative of the help or gesture. It says a lot about a person's character if such individual can say a word of thanks as not everyone says this.
@jennbart (1330)
• Philippines
13 Sep 11
Sad thing is, even if thank you is FREE.. a lot of people doesnt say this. Thanking is free,yet a lot of people still " cannot afford" it.
@janevi (888)
• Philippines
13 Sep 11
that is really the saddest thing. it is the great irony.it is free and yet many cannot afford to say it. i just hope that it won't be buried in the oblivion of many distractions in our society today.
@janevi (888)
• Philippines
13 Sep 11
It may not cost a cent, but the positive effect it can create or make to a person's life is forever. :-) The one saying it can have a positive impression and can even lead to making friends as well.:-) Being educated in its truest sense will always be grateful and unbiased.
@katie0 (5203)
• Japan
14 Sep 11
After the "I love you" I think having grattitude is very important so I like when the one saying really mean it, I think it's beautiful, it's the appreciation for what we've done for someone else.
@janevi (888)
• Philippines
14 Sep 11
Yes saying these magic words can really make a difference in one's life. Moreso, if it is already a habit and people around you becomes contaminated by it, the is always a SMILE on everyone's face.:-)
13 Sep 11
hi:) I always say thank you whenever someone done something good for me, and I say welcome when someone thank me, I think this words are very important to everyday living, to express my gratitude,it was taught to me by my parents and teachers while I was growing up, and also saying these words can bring happiness to me, I don't know why but I feel happy whenever I said thank you and welcome:D
@janevi (888)
• Philippines
14 Sep 11
That's very kind of you. :-0 Keep it up. It is said that Gratitude is the Language of the Heart.:-) I guess if one will make it a habit to say it, it would surely be the language of the heart.:-)
@cow_boy29 (236)
• United States
13 Sep 11
it is very proud if yu say thank you to someone that help you finish you do
@janevi (888)
• Philippines
14 Sep 11
Maybe giving a positive approach in producing remarkable results by somebody was inspired to do more good things because of your thank you can really make you proud.:-)
@bingskee (5234)
• Philippines
13 Sep 11
i have to say it is not common to hear 'you're welcome' anymore. my children usually responds in the mother tongue - 'walang anuman' which is equivalent to 'no problem'. i guess in whatever form it is reciprocated, it can be accepted. it is always the act that matters to me.
@janevi (888)
• Philippines
13 Sep 11
Action speaks louder than words, as one of the famous saying goes.:-) Words of appreciation and gratitude are very important for the children to learn. It doesn't matter what language you use as long as they know what it means, to them and to other people.:-)
@toniganzon (72553)
• Philippines
15 Sep 11
Sometimes i'm very sad that people abuse this phrase. They just say them without meaning them at all. So sometimes i'd rather hear them with all sincerity than just hear them from someone saying them like they're coming out of the nose and not from the heart. For me how often they are said don't matter much. What matters is how sincere the speaker is in using them.
@jricky1 (6800)
• China
13 Sep 11
I always say thank you to everybody who helped me,i think it's kind of polite to other people.And we all need to say this word who in favor of us,of course,nothing is not granted to us,thus,i would like other people know that they appreciate our gratefulness.
@janevi (888)
• Philippines
13 Sep 11
That;s a good practice jricky.:-) keep it up! It does not hurt a person if you will say thank you to whatever favor he has done for you. You can gain friends in the process.
• Philippines
13 Sep 11
I believe every person still keeps the good values to others by saying "thank you" and "you're welcome". Younger genereations still saying the words "thank you" in their mind but never saying it to the person they are grateful because they don't understand it... One of the reason they did not say it because they did not see the practice in the family... Which means they don't used to say it especially when they undergone bad experiences whether in the family matter or the community they had adopt are wrong doings and good values are not exist no more in the community... Meanwhile, when younger generations are taught well in school or in a community and guided by the family, then saying "thank you" means a lot to a person who offered the help to the people needed it most. This means that person are grateful and appreaciated for your kindness to others. And that's why you should say "you're welcome" also to them beause it means that you are helping them with all of your heart.
@janevi (888)
• Philippines
13 Sep 11
and the question is, what made it hard for a person to say these words of gratitude to the person concerned. It may not be practiced in the family but you are taught in school. Learning is not just for the mind to improve but learning has to be lived out so that there will be some improvements in the way you do things. If it is not practiced in the family, knowing that it is good, why not start it?:-) Being grateful is a thing not to be ashamed of to say. it is meant to be expressed because this might the only word a mother or father is longing to hear from his/her son or daughter. Be generous in giving compliments so that blessings will just flow continuously.
@Sabrene (24)
• Saudi Arabia
13 Sep 11
Hello again, janevi. Thanks for responding to my response. I, actually signed up right that time and you were the first I responded to. I just checked your page and I liked your slogan too! "The fewer needs you have, the happier you become." Let's have a discussion about this too someday, shall we?
@janevi (888)
• Philippines
13 Sep 11
Sure sabrene.:-) i would be glad to :-) I noticed that too. I'm so lucky that you responded to to topic I posted and the first one at that. :-) this slogan always reminds me to remain simple and grateful for whatever i have.:-)
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