Would you change your religious beliefs to marry the person you love?
By Metatronik
@Metatronik (6199)
Pasay, Philippines
September 13, 2011 1:55am CST
All of us knows where this question came from but of course I also want to ask other people here regarding their point of views of changing religion. Since this is mylot and we are not in Ms. Universe beauty pageant to answer that one sentence of question I want you to justify your answer if why or why not?
1. What is your conviction?
2. How are you going to handle it?
3. If you are not decided to change your religion why do you still need to refused him if you can still convince that you have strong beliefs in your religion?
4. How are you going to convinced your partner regarding your religious beliefs?
5. Are you going to convinced your partner that instead of you are the one who will change the religion then he/she must be the one to do it? How are you going to do that?
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16 responses
@chiwasaki (4694)
• Philippines
13 Sep 11
First I won't change my religious beliefs if we are getting married. I won't force him to our religion and he must not force me either but I will try to reach out as much as possible. Religion should not be a hindrance to love. And love is not just the reason why we need to change religion, it should be one's faith, one's belief deep in his heart. Anyway, I might not probably fall to a person that has an extremely different religious belief than mine.
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@Metatronik (6199)
• Pasay, Philippines
27 Mar 12
That is totally right. religion shouldn't be affected in relationship and it should never ruin just because of that. All we need to do it to respect each other's beliefs.
@viney17 (688)
• Philippines
13 Sep 11
im a teenager and i already heard that very same question from a muslim friend of mine (im a catholic-christian)
my opinion, i would change my religion for the sake of the one i love, i think my god would understand since he is the all knowing, kind God i knew he always help and guide me everyday and every second of my life because of him i'm the guy i am now. I think without my religion the girl i love wouldn't return the same feelings i have for her because i would be entirely a different person. I know my god knows and understand my feelings. but my only problem would be the things im used to do like going to church regularly praying, i mean im doing that for the whole years of my life, but i will try to move on for the person i love.
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@Metatronik (6199)
• Pasay, Philippines
27 Mar 12
If that is your decision then does your girlfriend encourage you to change your religious beliefs or join her beliefs? So meaning what if you didn't change your religious beliefs is there any bearing for that?
@secretbear (19448)
• Philippines
29 Sep 11
Hi metatronik!
Firstly, I will not change my religion just to marry the person I love. I am not very religious but I am already comfortable and satisfied with my religion. I would not want to "transfer" to another God. How am I going to handle this? Of course, I will stand by my beliefs.
Secondly, standing by my beliefs doesn't mean I have to convince another person about it. My religion taught me to respect other people, other religions. If a person of a different religion has a different set of beliefs than mine, then I will respect it and I will not try to convince that person to believe in my beliefs. If I respect that person's religion, I expect that he will respect mine, too.
Lastly, I will not try to convince my partner to switch into my religion. It is his decision if he will switch or not. If he does not want to, then fine by me. I will respect that. If he insist that I change my religion for his religion, that's not a sign of respect so we'll probably break up.
If neither of us can't change religion and we still want to marry but our religions prevents us from marrying in any of our churches, then so be it. We can always marry ourselves.
@Metatronik (6199)
• Pasay, Philippines
27 Mar 12
That is totally good idea secretbear and I really like what you have posted that your religion taught you as well to respect other people including the religion. Honestly we don't really have the right to forced or push anyone to change religion. It must be really coming to our mind and heart if we want to change it. More so it must be all about religious beliefs if anyone decide to change not because of the person you love because in the first place you are not going to worship the person you love.
@Metatronik (6199)
• Pasay, Philippines
27 Mar 12
I understand your point and don't worry about it if you don't want to elaborate your answer anymore especially for a fact that we only have one God. I believe for that matter as well.
@wilsongoddard (7291)
• United States
14 Sep 11
No, I wouldn't change my religion just to be with the man I love. However, that was never a requirement here. He accepted me as a Christian, and he will accept whatever reasonable path I were to choose.
I am, however, finding myself being drawn into his religion. That isn't him pulling; I am the one who nudges him out the door to go to services. I am the one who chooses to get involved with things that are going on at temple. Even when he can't go to services, I often choose to go by myself.
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@anitha123 (252)
• India
15 Sep 11
The one we love should accept us as it is. It doesn't matter what we are and who we are. No one can be compelled to accept another religion. It is a completer faith of one themselves. But in some cases people are locked inside certain situations which is making them to accept different languages.
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@Metatronik (6199)
• Pasay, Philippines
27 Mar 12
That is good decision if that is the case that you won't change religious beliefs.
@saralee90210 (14)
• United States
13 Sep 11
Many people change religion for different reasons. For people that choose to change their religion in order to be with a loved one, I think that if they are comfortable with the change, then it is okay. It is really all about faith and love. If you are a religious person and have a belief in a higher power, it doesn't matter what you believe in, as long as you believe in something you feel safe and secure with.
@yanzalong (18987)
• Indonesia
27 Mar 12
I will make her change hers. And i will prove to her that mine is the truth and she also has to prove to me that her religion is right. What do you say about it.
@Metatronik (6199)
• Pasay, Philippines
27 Mar 12
That is good point saralee90210
We have different beliefs and reason of why we want to change religion especially if it has something to do with your relationship. I think I don't find anything wrong if in case that they had changed their religion because of the person they love. I can't explain further though I believe they have think that for multiple times with their decision.
@salonga (27775)
• Philippines
14 Sep 11
I will not change my faith in whatever circumstances. I have resolved to remain faithful to my faith and to place God above all things so neither the person that I love could change this. Nope I will not convince the man I love to change his faith at all but rather I would explain to him why I am that committed and dedicated to my faith and would also explain to him why I believe my faith is the right faith and why my God is the only true God. Now if he accepts and believe my God then good for him and for me. If not then goodbye is the next word to say.
@Metatronik (6199)
• Pasay, Philippines
27 Mar 12
That is right decision. The most important thing in relationship is RESPECT to each other even the beliefs especially in terms of religion. There is no right or wrong decision for that as long as a person must have objective regarding to his/her decision.
@mammots (3209)
• Philippines
13 Sep 11
i am not going to change my religion for the sake of the man i love and want to marry and i would not convince him to change his religion either. i am going to respect his religion. turning my back on my religion just for the sake of a man i love is a very shallow and selfish reason to have. and i'm sure i would not remain happy forever. my religion has molded me into the person that i am today and i would not be complete without it. the love of a man would not be enough to fill the void the change is going to create in my life. it would be like being in hell!!!
@astrologyall (2)
• India
13 Sep 11
I do not think that religious change can change our emotion and feelings as a human. Then, why we should feel difference in case of love or marital relation. I can change my religion without any fear as I am changing nothing. In fact, there is no need of changing religion when people is in love and if they lead life understanding each other.
@vikku2001 (258)
• India
13 Sep 11
Hello astrologeall and mammots
I agree with you astrologyall.Mammots it is not the religion who mold us into human, its our surroundings like parents, school, friends.Religion never touches it.Our emotion and behaviour is a reflection of our nature.So don't take it to religion.
@Metatronik (6199)
• Pasay, Philippines
27 Mar 12
I think at some point mammots has a point as well. Maybe with the help of religion then she became a better person who understands the good moral values and to have strong faith to God. Because of the religion she was guided into the right path.
@anitha123 (252)
• India
13 Sep 11
Definitely not. Religious is just a Belief and everyone is strong in their belief which cannot be change in the middle. There are also cases in which certain people don't believe in any religion. In that case it is very to adapt to changes since both are nothing to them.
@Metatronik (6199)
• Pasay, Philippines
27 Mar 12
I agree everyone is really strong in their beliefs that is the reason why others has conviction to fight for their own religious beliefs.
@Triple0 (1904)
• Australia
13 Sep 11
If I was confronted with this situation, I would definitely keep my religion but before marriage, you should have considered this during your relationship. I have family and relatives who marry into other religions but they still keep their religion. My friend married a Buddhist while she was Christian. She still kept her religion and her Buddhist husband was willing to marry in a church. I guess it isn't much of a problem as long as both religions can co exist during your marriage. But do consider it before taking a step further as religions that completely oppose each other can ruin a relationship.
@Metatronik (6199)
• Pasay, Philippines
27 Mar 12
At least at that point they are open to each other that they have different beliefs that they still want to remain eve if they are already married. If I were to asked if I should change my religion for the sake of the person I love. My answer there would be it depends if I want the beliefs, I would change just because I have reason that relates to religious beliefs not because of the person I love itself. Because as for me it sounds like my world is turning around to the person I love and he is the one that I am worshiping not the God.
@vikku2001 (258)
• India
13 Sep 11
My conviction is that there is no need to change anyone's religion.If we truly love and understand each other then it is not necessary to change our religion.Instead we can live together after marry with some adjustment.We should try to know each other religions and try to make each other comfortable when they are doing their religious rituals.Of course we must be in true love.We will try some different place where these religious things does not matter much.We have only one life so we cannot leave our true in this religious view and we cannot leave our born religion also.
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@Metatronik (6199)
• Pasay, Philippines
27 Mar 12
That is good to hear about you for having strong conviction in your religious beliefs. Of course we don't really need to change as we can just do is to adjust as well.
@deer04 (96)
• Philippines
13 Sep 11
Religious belief is like a t-shirt, any branded or local shirt are you wearing right now casual or formal it is no relevance meeting other persons personality. Coz when you put it out your t-shirt we are the same human body inside in our t-shirt. like what we are believe in God. there's a lot of many religion made by us human, but when we pray we are believed in One GOD. As we are growing up in one human body.
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@Metatronik (6199)
• Pasay, Philippines
27 Mar 12
That is good example because I agree we believed in one God.
@innocentkadz (29)
• Philippines
13 Sep 11
for me there's no need to change your religion just because of that viewpoint. yes, i understand some why they needed to do that. but religion is not the reason why i would marry that someone. i believe that respect, acceptance, and understanding are important in a relationship. that is also true in any couple with different religion. you will marry that someone because you have already embraced all in him/her-that include his/her belief and customs. so there's no need to change your religion just to fit your partner's shoes. but nevertheless respect for one's religion is a very important matter to consider!
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@Metatronik (6199)
• Pasay, Philippines
27 Mar 12
I agree the religion shouldn't be the reason that would ruin the relationship or not to be fallen in love with each other.
@modeofevasion (86)
• Philippines
13 Sep 11
I will not change my religious belief to marry the one I love. I'm not saying that I will not marry him, nor will I make him change his belief. In most cultures, marriage is deeply embedded in religious belief, that is why it becomes an issue for some. However, in a practical sense, relationships can exist with different beliefs, with or without marriage. If I come to this point, I, however, will be praying for him to accept my belief if he has a different one.
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@Metatronik (6199)
• Pasay, Philippines
27 Mar 12
That is another good point, if you don't want to change your religious beliefs it does not mean that you are not going to marry the person you love. All you can do is you must have respect each other's belief by not imposing something to each other.
@mommyboo (13174)
• United States
9 Apr 12
If you love someone, then religion doesn't matter. That is my opinion anyway, because if things like religion or politics matter THAT MUCH, then you don't really love each other.
Also, people who believe different things can get along FINE as long as neither one tries to impose on the other or change the other or limit access or what is available to each other BASED on the different things each believes.
For instance - one likes meat, the other thinks it's unclean. As long as the meat eater can eat meat in peace and the NON meat eater can choose NOT to eat meat in peace - meaning one eats it, one doesn't and nobody says anything or complains, then all is well. I think this should apply to everybody in accordance with different opinions and beliefs. You do your thing, the other person does theirs. NO interfering with what anybody else does, but also no forcing another person to be denied whatever YOU don't believe in.
@abhinalstrikr (4111)
• India
14 Jan 16
I think religion came into knowledge after we created them.love is not based on any religion rather we are bound of many things