A lady adopted a baby from Pakistan
By maximax8
@maximax8 (31047)
United Kingdom
September 13, 2011 8:06am CST
In my home country a Pakistani is married to a British man. They had a baby boy with medical assistance. A second try failed to get a baby sister or brother for him. They agreed there only other alternative was adoption. They had the idea to adopt an unwanted baby from an orphanage in Pakistan.
To get approved as adopters the system took around 8 months and was very detailed. It involved references from family and friends, finding out about previous relationships and many nosy home visits. I think all of it was quite stressful and bothersome. A panel meeting happened and approved them to become adoptive parents.
The husband and two year old son stayed in England. The lady went to Pakistan alone and found it to be a dangerous country. She had to meet the woman that owned the orphanage. She waited for news of a baby that she would be adopting. She wanted a healthy baby girl. Amazingly she got given one but the baby girl was quite unwell. For a few days she went to intensive care in hospital. The British visa and paperwork took months to be completed.
Now they are at home together as a family very happy indeed. The baby girl Amara is very well now I am pleased to say.
What do you think of the adoptive approval system in your home country?
Was the lady sensible to adopt a baby or should she have carried on trying to get pregnant with medical assistance?
Was it risky of her to travel to Pakistan alone?
How do you think that little girl will get on growing up?
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5 responses
@puneetchhokra (214)
• India
14 Sep 11
i dont know why u did this as adopting a baby from pakistan is not so good
@AmbiePam (88834)
• United States
13 Sep 11
It takes a long time to adopt a baby in the United States. And it is very expensive. You can go through the state, and technically it's free, but in reality it's not. You still have lawyer fees and all of these other things you have to do that cost money. If you go through the state you are most likely to get an older child, not a baby. My sister and brother-in-law are in the process of adoption through the state. You have to foster the children for a little while, and then adopt, and then there is follow up, but then it is all over. But if you do adopt from the state, at least in my state, they get a start up for their college education. I know my sister and brother-in-law are open to any age child, and they would love to be able to keep a family together. Like if there was a 4 year old girl who had a 9 year old brother. My sister and BIL would love to be able to adopt both so they could keep the family intact.
My sister does not want to do an open adoption. We know a couple who went that way, and during the 6 month period the birth mother had to change her mind, she DID change her mind. Five months into having that baby and loving her as their own, the birth mother decided she wanted the baby back. And the couple had to give her back. So my sister doesn't want to do that, even if she would get the chance for a baby, and not an older child. She couldn't stand the thought of having to return the child.
@Hatley (163776)
• Garden Grove, California
14 Sep 11
hi maximax8 Since she was Pakistani it makes sense to try adopting
a Pakistan orphan baby. She really was very brave to go there alone and I feel it would have been good if the husband had
accompanied her. but they do sound like they love the child and I am sure they will give that baby all their love and a good home and a lovely life.Here in the United States its fairly entailed bu t I doubt its as time consuming as that in Pakistan.That child will probably be a very happy little girl in my way of thinking. also adopting was probably not as expensive as that of medical assistance.Also they saved that little child from living in poverty and without love which I think is wonderful all children need parents.loving parents.
@tigeraunt (6326)
• Philippines
13 Sep 11
hi maxim,
it was very kind of her to think of war torn pakistan, but i think she knows because she is from there. she probably thinks that having a baby from that place is saving one life and making hope for this life.
i think people who has the capacity to adopt should adopt children from war torn countries. and i am very happy about amara. she's a lucky girl.
ann
