Cheating boyfriend

hi mrsmistress, i really think that you're just so in love with your boyfriend that you forgot thinking about yourself..it seems like your boyfriend is getting used to cheat on you since he knows that no matter what he'll do, you would still accept him..it is actually not a good thing.he's abusing you and your love for him..i think its better if you give yourself time to think about yourself..then find another person who could love you and no other..you will never be happy with someone you can't trust..i have experienced this before, but what i did was i dumped him even though i loved him so much..i chose to hurt myself at that point than to hurt myself over and over again coz i know i can't trust him anymore..and now, im with someone else who loved me for who i am and he loves no other but me..youll be happy too..stay positive,..he's not the only man in the world..there's another man who deserves your love out there..

Why don't you both try an open relationship? You can love each other, and be with other people without worries.

Still want him after was cheated for 12 time, your behavior is not crazy or madly in love, but just plain stupid. Your boy friend must be having all the fun poking around after each re-acceptance by you.

Hello and welcome to myLot! I won't call you crazy as I do not know you and matters of the heart cannot be judged by anyone. Personally I would not have let him cheat on me once and allow him a second time. Reason why I would not allow this is that I can't see me tolerating this from someone who is suppose to love me. Forgiving one time now means you have 12 times and I could not deal with this. Surely someone who loves us would not hurt us this way. I do hope you understand that maybe you are loving the person way more then he deserves. At any rate I wish you well and perhaps take some time to think about what about him really keeps you loving him?

It sounds like you accept his being with others and that gives him the allowance to continue and stay with you. He gets to have his cake and eat it to. If that works for you then I say go with it. But, you must be careful about your own emotions around it. I have a friend who is much the same as you describe. She cries and moans each time he betrays the relationship and I am at the point where I do not have sympathy for her in that situation. If you choose to continue to go back, you also choose the knowledge that you are not enough for him.

I don't think you are crazy, but i do believe that you are in some sort of comfort zone with your relationship with him. As well i am not a doctor but think that there is something going on with you if you cannot stay away from him. Are you sure you know what true love is, or is it infatuation? I used to do the same things with girlfriends and realized it was a kind of relationship addiction, i didn't feel validated unless i had a girlfriend, therefore it was hard to give up unless i had another one i could jump to. i think that unless i can learn to be alone and love myself i cannot be with someone else and love them. Obviously this boyfriend doesnt feel the same way about you that you do about him, so what are you getting out of the relationship? How can you be with someone you can't trust. jealousy sucks and obviously you must be worried and jealous if any other girl gives him attention because you cannot trust him. Grow a pair and move on and find someone who treats you respectfully and the way you should be treated.

Hi, Mrsmistress69. Welcome to myLot! I think that you are truly, truly, really, truly crazy in love with your boyfriend. I think that you should just dump him 12 times instead of always going back to him 12 times. Don't let this guy just use you and play all over you. You are so much more better than that!

I am so sorry your boyfriend has been cheating on you for this many times. I think you should just dump his sorry a** and move on. Find the person who respects you and loves you. If I were you I would dump him the first time he cheats on me and never look back, regardless of how much I love him.

Plain crazy LOL. But seriously, you need to leave that guy. Him cheating on you for a dozen times ain't funny at all. Sometimes in life, we should need to use our head than our hearts.

I'm sorry to say but in my opinion you are plain crazy. I I were you, I will not forgive him anymore after cheating me 12 times. I think that he is just playing with you knowing that you will accept him anyway even if he cheats you. I suggest that you just find another man.

No, I do not think you are crazy at all. Another way of looking at your situation is you have accepted your role? Some people even consider sharing an alternative life styles and do not call it cheating. Like they say, what is good for the gander is good for the goose, I guess.

You love him; but, does he love you? He cheated on you twelve times.