How To Get A Three Yr Old to Listen..
By ily12011
@ily12011 (108)
United States
September 13, 2011 9:34pm CST
Parents,
I am a young mom. I'm still learning new things about parenting.
My daughter is 3 almost 4 and she will not listen. i tell her no and she just keeps on going. when i yell she screams and tells me "don't tell me what to do". i have no clue where she got that from but it drives me crazy. also when i yell she will whine non stop and throw fits, and carries an attitude. I need some ideas on how to try to stop her from doing these things. Please Explain.
4 responses
@Amanda81587 (3042)
• United States
15 Sep 11
Ummm well I would suggest some time out. Sit her down and tell her she can not talk to mommy that way. Or bring her to aunties and auntie will set her straight. And give her pickles and tomatoes 
@Amanda81587 (3042)
• United States
15 Sep 11
Sure you can come pick up her cousins any time now. 
they would like to stay with there te te anyways. Just give her pickles lol she is really mouthy how did that happen.
they would like to stay with there te te anyways. Just give her pickles lol she is really mouthy how did that happen.
@UmiNoor (4523)
• Malaysia
14 Sep 11
I remember the time when my children were three. It's a time when they wanted to assert their independence. Whatever I tell them to do they would say no. It's a phase they're going through. Nevertheless, you need to be firm and set boundaries for her. Children at this age will test you and see how far they can go. Don't play their game. Set rules.
For example, if you're going out with her to the mall, make sure to prepare her. Make sure it's not her nap time and make sure she's fed. If she has a favorite toy, bring it along. Now you need to tell her what you expect from her. If you don't want her to buy anything, tell her so. You can say something like "Mommy only bring enough money to buy such and such so no toy or candy". Make sure she agrees and set a punishment if she breaks her promise and remember to follow through.
If in the event that she does throw a tantrum at the mall, follow through with the punishment. Don't give in or she will learn that throwing tantrums is a way to get what she wants. Don't ever hit your child in public. Talk to her calmly. And above all, don't get angry at her. Just calmly pick her up and leave the mall.
@ily12011 (108)
• United States
15 Sep 11
Yeah I have a problem with following threw with it cause I feel bad,, and she just is very whiny when u yell or tell her no and that what gets be aggravated cause there is no reason to whine,,she just likes to touch everything and get into everything except her toys, she has no interest in them, lol but yeah I need to work on following threw with it,
Thanks for the advice,
@UmiNoor (4523)
• Malaysia
15 Sep 11
Firstly, I think you need to make your home child-proof. Lock all cabinets, all doors and just let only things that she's allowed to touch be within her reach. All other stuff need to be hidden and away from her reach. It's better if your house is bare of anything dangerous. This will only be until she's old enough to understand what she can touch and not touch. This way you don't need to always be yelling at her not to touch this and that.
This is possible for your own home. But when you're outside at someone else's house or the mall, then you need to prepare her before you go. Tell her firmly that she's not to touch things that don't belong to her or run around in the mall. Set a punishment like you'll cut the visit short if she doesn't behave. And follow through.
I know sometimes the easiest way is to just give in when your child is whining and throwing a tantrum. It can be embarrassing when you're in public. If the embarrassment is what bothers you, try to bring your child to a private spot and talk to her calmly. Talk softly because this way she'd be quiet just to listen to what you have to say.
Don't worry. It's just a phase. But if you don't train your child not to throw tantrums now it will carry on until she goes to primary school. You can do it. All the best.
@bingskee (5234)
• Philippines
14 Sep 11
these toddlers begin to assert at the age of three maybe because they are beginning to distinguish things, people, actions, manners. they try to imitate and they experiment.
i have to agree that you need to set rules. these little children start to test and when you give in, they know they got you. 
@kalyani_marathe (16)
• India
15 Sep 11
Hi,
I have a similar problem with my daughter... Yelling at her has never helped me! Now I have started setting boundaries strictly and I am also giving rewards! When I promise her something I follow through and in return I get what I want her to do... It is a fair bargain so far. Give it a try!
@kalyani_marathe (16)
• India
15 Sep 11
I make sure that rewards are not always toys and chocolates. She likes to play outside. When she does something for me I play with her. We have fun together. We draw, we dance... we have fun. And when she is in good mood, it is easy to mold her.
