Friends I need your help to solve this situation. Please give your suggestions.
@chaitra001 (3278)
Bangalore, India
September 14, 2011 5:33am CST
HI All,
First of all I will ask sorry with all my dear Mylot friends for not being touch with you all for very long time.
I need your help to try to solve this situation. My sister was also working in my company in the past 1 year. She completed her probationary period and was working as an employee.. For some reason out of some frustration our boss scolded her very badly infront of few people which is very bad. She did not back answer him but took the scoldings for not her mistake and came home with a decision to quit the job. After listening to her me and my husband also thought its better for her to quit that job so she resigned it on friday night.The same day boss replied her as if there is no mistake from his side but lastly a sorry (He did not copy the mails to other management people). Later Monday one of the manager called my sister and asked her to come back. But she is too much hurt and not ready to go back there. Even I feel what she doing is correct but I am still working in the same company. So friends please let me know your opinions on this issue.
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21 responses
@dpk262006 (58678)
• Delhi, India
14 Sep 11
Hi Chaitra!
Welcome back to mylot. Hope you are too busy to join us here. I think your sister should not take it too seriously, if she is a sincere worker and performs her duties diligently. What her boss said could have been on the spur of the moment or temporarily outburst. S/he might have regretted it later. We are human being and we commit mistake during the course of our job. I think, if she is being recalled, she should try to forget the incident and go back and rejoin.
Welcome back to mylot. Hope you are too busy to join us here. I think your sister should not take it too seriously, if she is a sincere worker and performs her duties diligently. What her boss said could have been on the spur of the moment or temporarily outburst. S/he might have regretted it later. We are human being and we commit mistake during the course of our job. I think, if she is being recalled, she should try to forget the incident and go back and rejoin. @chaitra001 (3278)
• Bangalore, India
14 Sep 11
Hi Deepak!
Happy to see you respond first. Yes I was too busy with work now I am working from home and will be working from home next 2 months so got back chance to look into Mylot and participate here. Yes but the way he is behaving is she has done some mistake. but the manager is trying to convince her to come back but not the boss. I have seen my boss scolding others very hastily infront of others which is not correct. So I am in confusion what to suggest her now.
@dpk262006 (58678)
• Delhi, India
14 Sep 11
You or she could tell the manager about the behavior of her boss and I still think, she should go back.
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@telmesh (1793)
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14 Sep 11
The rebuke in front of others was definately wrong, even if your sister was in the wrong, she should have been ask into an office to explain. Depending on employment law and the worker - company agreed procedure. She should have had the right to complain about her treatment and the position of resigning might have been avoided. In any case the fact that you work in the same company should not be a worry.
@chaitra001 (3278)
• Bangalore, India
16 Sep 11
I am not Unhappy about my position.. but i am unhappy about some situations..
@chaitra001 (3278)
• Bangalore, India
15 Sep 11
Hi Friend.. Thanks for your suggestions.. Yes he should have been called her and discussed things in a different way instead of shouting infront of everyone.
@waflay (2737)
• Nairobi, Kenya
14 Sep 11
Hi, I think she should not rush for quitting the job instead she should try transfer if possible. So far, other managers are not aware of her resigning mail, I think it could be good if she takes this chance to ask for transfer before resting her mind on quitting her job.
Some people do such nasty things to derail someone's future. The do this because they fear someone's potential might be noticed by other people, so to fear for defeat, they defame someone's for their selfish gains.
@chaitra001 (3278)
• Bangalore, India
16 Sep 11
Hi friend.. ours is a private company and a very small one.. there is no way she can get transferred.. So she took the decision to quit as it will be very difficult for her to work in that environment..
@rollylolly (2843)
• India
14 Sep 11
Hi chitra nice to meet you . Everything is dependent on your sister . See has faced the situation . She must have felt very insulted and so she decided to resign . You must respect her decision . If she is unable to adjust with the attitude of the boss shouldn't she be given liberty to quit her job . It won't be a problem to get another one . Let her take time and take her own decision . You may continue in the same job as you had no role to play in this . Good wishes to your sister .
@chaitra001 (3278)
• Bangalore, India
16 Sep 11
Hi rollylolly.. nice to meet you too.. yes I think you are right.. she is the one who have to decide and I respect her decision.. Thanks for suggestions..
@ARShams (82)
• Pakistan
14 Sep 11
In case her immediate boss isn't the chief of the organization where you and your sister work/worked she should rejoin and continue working and you too as devoted workers there.
However, that if in case her boss repeats his/her ill tempered rough attitude again and again , she can approach the chief to make him/her aware of the situation. I think such a decent policy may work miraculously.
@chaitra001 (3278)
• Bangalore, India
15 Sep 11
Hi Friend.. He is the chief of the organization.. and I have seen him shouting on my other colleagues many times.. this is not first time..
@chaitra001 (3278)
• Bangalore, India
16 Sep 11
yes you are right.. my sister is getting married next month 6th so she will try to find her new job by December.. I am planning to quit soon.. I have to find a new job soon and resign here..
@ARShams (82)
• Pakistan
15 Sep 11
Then such rough boss deserves 'goodbye' because his/her employees have traded their time and work only with that project, not their honor and respect. However, until you find an honorable and suitable job you may continue there yet try your utmost to find another better job as soon as possible to get rid of that idiot (if really he/she is) fellow. Further to that, I don't think your your sister should rejoin that project if she is wise very caring about her self respect.
With regards,
ARShams
@atulmalla (229)
• United States
14 Sep 11
Hello chaitra! I think what your sister did is absolutely correct. Anyone get hurt when he/she is humiliated in front of others. I would have done the same thing and hit that Boss in his face before re-signing.
But if you and your sister are earning a really good amount or if she doesn't get job anywhere else, it would be wise to join the company again. But remind that Boss that not to insult her again
@chaitra001 (3278)
• Bangalore, India
16 Sep 11
Hi Friend.. yes you are right.. I feel money is not important here than self respect.. I think she took right decision.. Thanks for your suggestions..
@atulmalla (229)
• United States
16 Sep 11
You are welcome chaitra! I am glad you are now happy about your sisters decision and supporting her.
@KrauseHome (36447)
• United States
22 Sep 11
Personally this would be a hard one to deal with, and I think if the company is truly Sorry and apologetic to her, why did they not say something to her earlier and try to work this out, or were they not aware? Something must have happened to make them aware and it is a shame it had to get to this, but your Sister might be making the wisest choice to want to not work there anymore for sure.
@MsTickle (25180)
• Australia
23 Sep 11
Obviously good jobs are easy to find over there. I say your sister should continue with her decision to leave this place.
If that was me, having my sister there would make all the difference and I would so appreciate having her there with me and I would certainly go back.
Your sister maybe needs to grow up because this is not the last time she will be hurt or embarrassed at work. Something else will turn up for the other workers to gossip about. Nothing ever stays the same.
@kkanaka (886)
• Singapore
16 Sep 11
I dont think she should leave the job for that.
How can you guarantee that she will not face same kind of situation in another company?
These kind of things do happen every now and then.
She should just stick around and make the boss feel guilty for scolding her.
By quitting she has solved the boss's problem as he wont be frustrated anymore and would be relieved to see her go.
Why give him/her the satisfaction.
If it was not you sister's fault then why she should quit?
And even if it was her mistake she should just take this as a learning and not take it negatively.
Then every now and then she will have to keep looking for new job.
@wrangel15 (1443)
• Philippines
16 Sep 11
For me it is okay if she return to the company but she must talk to the one who scolded her first. That is to inform her boss that she was really hurt is not used to being scolded in front of people. This way, the boss would really be sorry and will not repeat it again. We don't know but there may really be a reason why she was scolded but still, many would agree that scolding a person in front of people is really wrong for professional people.
@jdyrj777 (6528)
• United States
15 Sep 11
I understand your sisters feelings. The person who scolded her for something that was not her fault needs to call a meeting and apoligize to her in front of the same people that she was embarrised in front of. Sadly enought though people in high places do not like admitting they are wrong. They will probably just blow it off and hire someone else.
@allknowing (137771)
• India
14 Sep 11
Spur of the moment reactions are not to be taken seriously. The fact that one of the Managers has called her back is an indication that it is a directive from the one who scolded her. These kind of happenings are not new. Getting back will make her a heroine and you too will be comfortable working there.
@chaitra001 (3278)
• Bangalore, India
14 Sep 11
Hi friend, I dont think so.. because few people doesnt know what the matter was since she was silent people think its her mistake and see her in a differnt way may be they will think she is not a good employee so its a difficult situation for her there daily.. I am sure that boss will not be sorry infront of others so it looks like she did some big mistake..
@macayadann (1235)
• Philippines
16 Sep 11
Boss is always the Boss as in customer is always right. I hope the way she was scolded is of an educated manner and not to the extent that he has degraded her whole being. Meaning just pinpointing the wrong which made him furious. It is really hard for the Boss to accept his fault although deep inside they knew for themselves they made a mistake. Just like conservative parents that will never vow to their children's view point. I know that his Boss will just try to make up silently to ease the pain he has caused your sister. Just tell your sister, if it is not too much hurting then just go back and even prove to his Boss that she is an asset to the company. Just shrug her shoulder and start all over again.
@shanemae (1025)
• Philippines
14 Sep 11
hi there chaitra.i'm a new mylot member. i would want to share my opinion about this. this must be difficult for your sister. it's not easy to be scolded with or without the presence of anybody else but i think she should just take it lightly since its part of the job. did this boss know that he did wrong? cause if not somebody should confront him. it's not because he's the boss no one could tell him that he is wrong for your sister just support her emotionally. if she did nothing wrong so why become depressed? just talk to her and let her express what she feels.i have been scolded and it has become a part of me. this scolding would prevent her from doing the wrong thing next time so let that scolding be charged to experience. :)
i hope you resolve that soon.. :)
@chaitra001 (3278)
• Bangalore, India
15 Sep 11
Hi Friend.. Welcome to Mylot.. Thanks for sharing your opinion.. but do you think other co workers will be normal with her.. they just comment infront of her as if she did some mistake.. so it will be very difficult for her to work in such environment.. So i feel her decision might be right..
@neildc (17239)
• Lapu-Lapu City, Philippines
15 Sep 11
i can only say that looking for a job these days is very hard.
you cannot easily find one that will give you good benefits.
i know you like the job and the company you are working right now.
so if i am on your sister's shoe, i will comeback to work and forget about the boss scolding.
@Professor2010 (20162)
• India
14 Sep 11
Hello welcome back
See quitting a job is easy, but getting a job is not that easy at all in this age of competetions, it is bad , she was scolded in front of others..
well time is the greatest healer
In my opinion she should continue in the job and search for another, only after that she should kick this job..
Thanks for sharing
Have a nice day ahead.
Professor ‘@Bhuwan@’. .
@akp100 (13640)
• India
14 Sep 11
Hi chaitra
See you after long time. Hope all is well..
About your situation.. I think your sister has done okay. I mean with frustration your boss shouldn't scold here in front of all other. But still if he is saying sorry that your sister should have think about it more. I mean if you and she done work at the same place then it can be advantage in many ways. But only in situation where your Boss is wanting her back because of her good work.
See you after long time. Hope all is well..
About your situation.. I think your sister has done okay. I mean with frustration your boss shouldn't scold here in front of all other. But still if he is saying sorry that your sister should have think about it more. I mean if you and she done work at the same place then it can be advantage in many ways. But only in situation where your Boss is wanting her back because of her good work.
@Rosa26 (2618)
• United States
15 Sep 11
If I would be her I would do the same.
Not body have the right to treat the others like if they are garbage that is not correct and was in that company to give a service not to be treated like piece of sh...
"Respect means treat the others as you want to be treated" If he doesn't appreciated her and didn't respect her,he doesn't desire her in that company.
@nasapiyush (147)
• India
14 Sep 11
Hey chaitra001
I think what your sister is doing is correct but she should also think of herself there is no benefit of getting angry . She is angry with her boss not to her job. She should think of her selves not getting angry .
Anger is not the solution of any problem be calm and think of the job.
In my opinion if she liked to continue her work if that incident would not have happened she surely should join back.
And see this also company is approaching her she should join the job again.
