Why do you love your parents?
By alnilam
@alnilam (969)
United States
September 14, 2011 11:23am CST
Do you think that love for our parents is a link that is made by birth (with most cases - well when children do not hate parents or there is abuse, exceptions are always there). Or is our love the product of the fact that we spend time together and this way bonds between parents and children is formed...
If that is so is it the same with our partners? If we were sticked together with a random person (good by heart and a normal person normally) that the result would be love eventually no matter who the person is (physical attraction excluded here)...
I am interested in your thought...
12 responses
@Angelee_27 (3460)
• United States
14 Sep 11
I love my parents because they gave me life. They are the ones who brought me into this world, and I would not even be here without them!
Also, I love my parents because they have always loved me and took time in their life to raise me the best they could.
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@TalkIsCheap (40)
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14 Sep 11
This sums it up for me and also why wouldnt you love your parents they do everything for you until you are able to take care of yourself..but some parents can't be loved because they are cruel to kids for example Casey anthony
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@Angelee_27 (3460)
• United States
14 Sep 11
I agree.
Some parents do not deserve their children's love! You can't abuse your child, mentally, physically, etc... and still expect love from your child!
Parents who abuse their children are not parents at all, and should not be allowed to raise their child until they get help and change their ways.
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@alnilam (969)
• United States
14 Sep 11
So you agree too that that our love to our parents is not given by birth but is something that builds up over the ages because we live with them? What are your thoughts on my question about our love to our partners, husbands and wifes?
Also I would not say that being thankful is the same as loving - many are thankful for the gift of life but not all love their parents because of that.
@pahak627 (4558)
• Philippines
14 Sep 11
I agree with you that the link made by birth made us love our parents. If we compare our love for our family to our partner, love for our family is unconditional whereas love for our partner will disappear due to aches that they constantly give us. But I love my children more than anybody else.
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@alnilam (969)
• United States
14 Sep 11
Might be that our love for our partners might not be as strong because (well usually) when we get togheter with them both of partners are individual beings with personalties already developed and might not be compatible. Whereas with our family we grow together and mostly build our character in a way that it works well with the family (puberty excluded lol) - this naturally does not apply to all families but think it would for most - given they have a normal not too stressful life.
That said, do you think that if you would be growing up with your future partner this kind of marriage has a better success rate?
@reinykwan (350)
• Indonesia
15 Sep 11
I love my parents, whatever they do to me.. sometimes my parents reprimand me but it is not mean that they didn't care to me, they reprimand me because they love me, I believe that. I love them in all.. no exception
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@zeeshan_zmunir (49)
• Pakistan
15 Sep 11
i love my parents because they giv me birth u know how much difficult our mothers have spend during our birth u know the people after ALmighty ALLah are only are parents who help us who understand us
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@nasapiyush (147)
• India
15 Sep 11
parents are the prestigious thing that have given by the God to us . So I love my parents from the soul of the heart .
love to the other person like life partner is other thing . They can't be compared with the parents . So love your parents and respect them with grace.
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@zaq110111622a (25)
• China
15 Sep 11
I love my parents very much.For onething,as you all say,they bring me to the world,because of them,I can enjoy the colorful life,feel fresh air and do everything I want to do;For another thing,my parents teach me to be an upright man even when I was a child.I should be grateful to them aslo because they help me understand the idiom "no pains,no gains"
All in all,I will do my best to afford my parents a comfortable life,I won't let them down.
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@ladygator (3465)
• United States
14 Sep 11
I guess we do have a bond because of the whole fact that they made us, nurtured us while we were in the tummy and cared from the very beginning to be sure that we would be as healthy as they could. In most cases the parents show us how to love by their example of how they loved us. And others. I think the love grows in time as we dont even know how to love when we are first born. And for along time we are only selfish to our needs. When our parents take care of us we then love them. I dont think that until we are older and actually have a life of our own and have to do things. Then we really appreciate everything that they really did for us. I do think that the person who may not be a natural parent would be loved in the same way if they took care of a child. And the love our partners grows over time and we kinda pick them. I guess once that time is spent the love gets stronger. And then if we marry them it then turns into a stronger and more fulfilling love that turns unconditional.
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@frontvisions101 (16043)
• Philippines
14 Sep 11
Maybe that's the case because we've been brought up by our parents since we were little. That's where the link begins, I guess.
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@cow_boy29 (236)
• United States
15 Sep 11
hem i dont know i just love them so much like i love my life
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@kccrystalsachi (117)
• Philippines
14 Sep 11
I love them as they deserve to be loved - more than anything else because it is from them that we owe what we are right now, especially by the values they have taught us and the way they guide us as we grow up.
@cowgirl03051979 (918)
• United States
14 Sep 11
hmmm this is a really tough question i think this kind of love is just natural its kind of like when you find your spouse that you just cant help but love no matter what and its the same kind of love that parents have for their children i personally dont have a good relationship with either of my parents especially my father and dont get me wrong i love them both very much but its a distant love i have for them its like the more i am away from them the more i love them
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@eseulhan (199)
• Philippines
15 Sep 11
Of course! Simply coz they are my parents. Without them i wouldnt have been in this world, i wouldnt have bee what i am now today. Thanks to them! Even though they were too strict with us, i still do love them. I could give my heart away but never do my parents!