Why do people make fun of others for looking 'ugly'?
By Judy890
@Judy890 (1644)
United States
September 14, 2011 4:04pm CST
Why do a lot of girls luck out with their looks? Not everyone is born attractive and probably will never become that way. I know some may say "Beauty is in the eyes of the beholder", but, honestly, that doesn't always give a boost of confidence. Everyone wants to be accepted. So, why do people continue to bully those who aren't as blessed with beauty?
1 person likes this
15 responses
@bounce58 (17385)
• Canada
14 Sep 11
It's just the insecurities of kids. When they see that someone else is in a far worse condition than them, say beauty wise, then they would make fun of them so that they could boost their own stock.
And then there's their failure to recognize that they are actually hurting other people/kids.
@Rosa26 (2618)
• United States
27 Sep 11
I think that everybody have something special that make them look nice.
When I was younger I used to think that I was very ugly because my nose is very big, and I have three sisters and their nose is nice.
But when I grew up I realized that my nose is nose is nice for the people who love me.
Sometimes those feelings are just in our mind, and is a symptom of low esteem.
Low esteem is very debilitating and may be a symptom of depression.
This may mean not thinking very highly of yourself.
How to solve that? We have to change our attitude toward us.
How?
Write a list of all the good things you can find in yourself, maybe we can find difficult at the beginning and what we can do is write the list with the help of another person.
I hope this can help.
@thanks1961 (7035)
• India
15 Sep 11
If we are beautiful or handsome, we NOT got it as per our wish or though our request. It is the gift of nature and as we all know, we all are not look alike and it is impossible and this is one of the great marvelous thing in the matter of creation. How many millions of people are lived, living and yet to born and live. Still we can say some similarity or identity, but not exactly as it is.
So we are no one to blame other on their shortcoming or weakness. We all try to beautify what we have and again we all cannot do anything like how Michael Jackson did. We should say thanks to the Nature as we are gifted with a beautiful qualities and that doesn't mean that we should hate or isolate those who are not so dignified with their physical appearances. As you mentioned, beauty is not only in the outer side, sometimes we can experience it from their minds also.
Thank-s
@desertrose16 (600)
• United States
15 Sep 11
Those who make fun of others for being ugly have are very insecure themselves. Everyone is created equal in god's eyes. Those who are very insecure need to take a good long look in the mirror before the say anything about the way anyone else looks. Because they, themselves could be plain looking instead of how they perceive themselves to be. In other words, do not judge anyone else when you could look just like they do.
@thatgirl13 (7294)
• South Korea
15 Sep 11
Not everyone does that but yeah I don't get why those bullies do that. I mean beauty is not everything. And the thing I hate the most is when they bully the girls when they are "ugly" but after a couple of years when she's turned "pretty" everyone wants to be her friend and whatever.
I hope you get me :)
@Triple0 (1904)
• Australia
15 Sep 11
Too bad the world isn't perfect. There are a lot of selfish people out there and beauty is a hot topic for girls. Especially in teenaged girls, beauty is their source of confidence and nothing else seems to matter. It's beauty that attracts the boys and girl's rely on beauty to judge themselves and others. Just because their blessed with beauty, they think they're on top of the world. Some girls are like this but girls I know at school are never like this. Bullying is such a childish thing and I can't believe people in high school and even in the workplace still bully others.
@cream97 (29086)
• United States
14 Sep 11
Hi, Judy890. It is all because people are insecure and they don't have any manners. Deep down they are most likely intimidated by the person that they are making fun of too. I have been teased ever since 3rd grade and it has never been a fun thing to go through. It is not fair that someone makes a person feel less than themselves when they really have more going on for them, than the other person does anyway. It is very cruel to make fun of others.
@BlueGoblin (1829)
• United States
15 Sep 11
Humans are just cruel. I don't know why we continue to deny that part of human nature. We all want to be the center of attention. We all want what is best for us. Sometimes belittling other people gives us a higher status. Lately there has been a campaign to stop this type of bullying. It will fail because humans can't help themselves. How do we except children to stop bullying when adults do it constantly? How do we prevent children from recognizing human differences? How do we prevent ourselves? It is impossible. You see an ugly person and you're already thinking "My God that is an ugly person."
@maezee (41988)
• United States
14 Sep 11
Appearance determines everything in this day and age, at least it seems that way. Our society revolves around how we look and so of course people who don't fit in are going to be made 'fun of'. I find that a lot of the "pretty" girls who are all made up and dressed nicely - well, once you take that makeup off... EEK! I'm jealous of the people who have natural beauty and don't have to try too hard to have it.
@frontvisions101 (16043)
• Philippines
14 Sep 11
Most of the time, if not everytime, you will be judged based on how you look. It's kind of unfair for those who doesn't really look that pleasing that's why you'll notice, those who don't really have the looks make it up for attitude. They know they won't liked by how they look so they improve their attitude towards others for social validation.
@kry893 (222)
• Canada
15 Sep 11
Perhaps those people think they have an 'advantage' over the others just because they are good looking. They think they're better and have the upper hand when it comes to certain things. It isn't nice at all to think that beauty is everything and it isn't. It's who we are that actually counts.
@Ankitdhama (103)
• India
15 Sep 11
They feel vanity on their beauty and think that they are best in all aspects so when they see someone who is not like them they start to make fun of him/her. They feel happy in this. But no one should do that because God's every creation is beautiful.
@Ankitdhama (103)
• India
15 Sep 11
They feel vanity on their beauty and think that they are best in all aspects so when they see someone who is not like they start to make fun of him/her. They feel happy in this. But no one should do that because God's all creation is beautiful.
@eseulhan (199)
• Philippines
15 Sep 11
I really do hate people who are likde that. I had an experience where the one that i love have been bullied and criticized by others. I kept thinking why are there people like them, even though Im not the one involved but still it hurts me so much that i use to think of shouting at them or punching them on the face. Physical appearances has the capability to fade as one grows old, but attitude may or may not change. For me inner beauty is more important. I sometimes say, if you could only borrow my eyes you can see how handsome he is.
@Adoniah (7513)
• United States
14 Sep 11
It often turns out that these "good looking" girls are lacking in something else, and there is a bit of jealousy in their attacks on the normal looking girl. Once she gets a little older and realizes this, she will not suffer at the little jerks. There is someone out there to be a friend to everyone. Eventually they find each other.