what you post reflects who you are
By emjay86
@emjay86 (640)
Philippines
September 14, 2011 9:10pm CST
Facebook is virtually public. There are a million chances that what you write on your wall or the pictures you post may be seen. I can agree that definition of who you are may be interpreted through these.
I have been posting about my troubles lately. My friends know I am emotional.
What about you? Does your friends say so that way to you too?
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21 responses
@thatgirl13 (7294)
• South Korea
15 Sep 11
Yeah well I think it does reflect who you are. Lately I have been writing too much about love and lyrics of love songs. And to be honest these past few days, I have been reminded of my one sided love, who I never confessed too and it's been killing me inside. I don't know it's been couple of years now and why is he bothering my mind right now!
@thatgirl13 (7294)
• South Korea
17 Sep 11
Hey thanks you so much for your kind words but I think that is not possible now. You see I used to crush on him couple years ago and was through with it. He is a good friend of mine and have been friends since 6th grade. I have no idea why the feelings are coming back after all these years now!! I know we have no future coz we are in different countries now and I really don't like the idea of long distance relationship. Anyway I hope you have better luck in your relationship than me. Go and take a chance and confess to your love. Who knows, they might be feeling the same for you too!! Goodluck
@emjay86 (640)
• Philippines
18 Sep 11
I still am happy that one is capable of loving even if the love is not exchanged. I thank you also for wishing me luck in my future relationship. In my unrequited love moments, I did tell the person what I feel, and apparently they don't feel the same way..huhuhu. It hurt but at least the news is out. Also, our friendship is still there. :)
@emjay86 (640)
• Philippines
16 Sep 11
OH one-sided love. I have always been in that shoes for so long now. I guess it's pretty damn hard. I am still loving the person though, simply grateful I am capable of loving. I hope you continue to do too. It is tiresome in the long run but I hope it keeps you happy. Hope more, that it wouldn't be one-sided for long.
@gloryacam (5540)
• Philippines
15 Sep 11
My posts there are coded rants. I'd post the lyrics of a song which contains some lines about what I'm thinking. Somehow, somebody always seems to get what I mean. So, I guess that would mean that I'm not really a direct person, huh?
@gloryacam (5540)
• Philippines
16 Sep 11
Good point. And if they know me enough and the situation I'm currently in, they would read between the lines and know what I'm actually saying. Well, I'd still say I'm not a direct person because I don't just type in there what I'm actually thinking or feeling. I have to course it through the words of others.
@beaniefanatic13 (5076)
• Grand Junction, Colorado
17 Sep 11
I really don't post anything personal on Facebook, I comment a lot on news articles there. Ones that really irritate me. I have my profile so only my friends can see. I post a lot of pictures on there so my family can see what's going on. I don't think that a lot of people can see my profile due to how I have it set up. I only have family and a few friends on it. I don't accept friends requests from people I don't know or I don't want contact with.
I would say I'm passionate on there when responding to news articles.
@beaniefanatic13 (5076)
• Grand Junction, Colorado
20 Sep 11
I have never understood why people accept everyone. Personally I don't care about what others think of what I think, only those that are close to me. Not that it changes my mind on what I think, but that I value their input on what I have to say. I don't care if the person that I have never met likes or dislikes what I have to say. I just don't want nasty things stated on my wall by people that I know nothing about, just because I have different beliefs than they do. Which is why I stay out of politics and religion here for the most part. People are mean when you don't think the same as them. That's my 2 cents worth.
@emjay86 (640)
• Philippines
21 Sep 11
Yes, topics about politics and religion tends to lead to unsettled discussions. It pains me to know that some people who seem to have opinion other than ours are narrow-minded. They never welcome the possibility of knowing something new or learning better things. Differences does keep us closer at times but at other times, keeps us drifting farther from each other.
@OpinionatedLady (5965)
• United States
15 Sep 11
I think maybe in some cases you might get to know a person's personality on here but I think even more you learn who they want to be. People spin things so people perceive them to be a certain image they have of themselves. One could put up two different discussions about the same subject, saying the same thing but how it is written can turn the person it is about from being a saint to needy or evil. It is all in the eye of the beholder. That said someone can take a simple phrase as one thing and the next as something completely something else.
@OpinionatedLady (5965)
• United States
21 Sep 11
Not just as scams though I think there are some who "become" their fantasy selves via social networking. They can be whoever they want to be, or wish they where. Tall, handsome, pretty popular etc.
@emjay86 (640)
• Philippines
16 Sep 11
Having read your post, I might agree. I heard there are people out there seeking for someone else's doom. They somehow manage to fake their identities on facebook, I guess that is one negative side of social networking. One can mask his/her own true self.
@jeztrose (1405)
• Philippines
15 Sep 11
i often post on my wall what i want to say and feel.. it makes me somehow feel relief whenever i feel down..it's my way of letting my emotion go. i agree that sometimes it reflects who you are.. but in other cases it depends.. just like when you are very angry to a person.. and you cannot control yourself anymore and you tend to post an immoral words or insult that person..we cannot tell right away that you are bad.. maybe it is just a result of being so angry that made you do that..
@OpinionatedLady (5965)
• United States
21 Sep 11
they can also feed the gossip mill as well. We learned that when a friend put up one of there "chain" posts about cravings. Two days later her grandmother called crying about how everyone knew she was pregnant but her!
@kawaiineko (117)
• Indonesia
20 Sep 11
ahahaha agree...nice though
but, its not always on facebook...but depend on typical who the person use...my friend always using tumblr to show pictures...about anything...even she upload some pictures when she cries alot--with a lousy reason...she cried alot..then take a snap then upload them...and yes that tumblr linked with her facebook, so not only her friend in tumblr, but her friend in facebook could see it--that she soooooooo sad...eeewwww
@kawaiineko (117)
• Indonesia
21 Sep 11
public affection peharps..im with u, thats is toooooo much....no need it....i dont know...its just seem she like did it...yes she is pretty and have alot of friends...so she believe anything that she posted will get much atraction and reponses from her friends...i do have alot of friends too, and some of ppl there have much more than me....i still accept a wierd status, or someone who posted their status for every single minute...but when she (that my friends) did it,..post the picture..whereever whatever she doin--especially when she feel saaaaddd...something ive just laughing.....its seem silly to me...ehehehe...*forgive me my friend :p
@00fear (3216)
• United States
15 Sep 11
I don't really put much on my facebook account like pictures or post because I know they may be people who are not even my friend who can look at my stuff. Like when I was going to add my brothers as my friends when I first signed up (they had signed up first than me), I was able to look at there post and pictures. I just go there to answer my friends messages or chat with them. Maybe I'll comment on there wall but I don't think I'll ever put pictures or say stuff on my wall. Who knows though, maybe I will in the future haha.
@secretbear (19448)
• Philippines
17 Sep 11
Hi emjay!
Yes, of course. What we posts reflect who we are. Even those quotes we just copied and pasted in our wall, it still reflects who we are. Posts that came from us definitely reflect who we are because that's what we think, that's how we think, that's what happened to us or happening to us, that's what we've experienced, it's part of who we are. Posts that we just copied somewhere also reflects who we are. It's probably that we liked that quote, we can relate to that quote, we believe in that quote, and that reflects a part of us.
@secretbear (19448)
• Philippines
19 Sep 11
That's very nice of you. It's always nice to share something that you think will help others.
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@JenInTN (27514)
• United States
17 Sep 11
It is a virtually public site. I am very cautious about what I post there because of the access that people have. I guess it is supposed to be personal but I have a hard time being public with my private life. I don't know why really but I tend to be very guarded where facebook is concerned. I work with a lot of people that send friend requests just because they want a peek into your personal life. I am not crazy about that. To be honest..I am hardly ever on there anymore.
@lovinangelsinstead21 (36850)
• Pamplona, Spain
24 Sep 11
Hiya emjay,
I use youtube sometimes to convey the way I am feeling more than anything else and I will "like" other People´s comments too but not all the time.
But these are People that I already know so they know what I am trying to get across to them.
I stay out of any discussions on there too I just put the odd photo on or a youtube video mainly music or an appreciation of someone and that´s it really.xxx
@lovinangelsinstead21 (36850)
• Pamplona, Spain
28 Sep 11
Hiya emjay,
Best way to express what you are feeling sometimes a bit of music from youtube can say a lot more than what you could write about.
I have been on FB today but not really very much just to "like" a couple of things and away. He he he.xxx
I like most kinds of music so there are plenty to choose from or excerpts from Films from before they can also say a lot.xxx
@chiwasaki (4694)
• Philippines
18 Sep 11
I think what you post in Facebook somehow reflects your personality. In my case, I usually post jokes and funny quotes. My friends know me as a cheerful person. They know that I'm a happy person who loves to make them happy.
@emjay86 (640)
• Philippines
16 Sep 11
haha..A nonsense person is someone I consider posting every now and then about his actions, most recent events. Such updates that are highly unnecessary and not worth posting, he posts. People find this funny but sometimes, too much can be really too much.
@huilichan8 (1378)
• Singapore
15 Sep 11
Yes, at times my friends say that I am emotional.:) And I definitely agree that our posts reflect who we are.
@huilichan8 (1378)
• Singapore
16 Sep 11
I like what you said abt '...product of the heart...' Hv a grest wkend!:)
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@paula27661 (15811)
• Australia
15 Sep 11
I don’t go to Facebook all that often so I have never posted anything of a real personal nature there. I have done so on My Lot though. I have no idea whether I come across overly emotional; I know I can be when in my offline life sometimes. I think that one can learn a lot about a person by what they post here because for many of us it can be somewhat easier to open up via the written word than the spoken voice.
@emjay86 (640)
• Philippines
16 Sep 11
Yes, writings are considered to be highly appreciated when words just can't be expressed verbally. I find the message sweeter when written. Much more, one would recognize the sincerity in a handwritten note. With the effort and emotion along with it.
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@ronadelle (1547)
• Philippines
15 Sep 11
This is really true because my bestfriend would usually post everything that she feels on facebook. I was trying to scold her sometimes because I'm seeing some people who bash her and she gets affected by it. And then she asks crying why people control her from expressing herself? I told her that it's okay to express herself since it's her freedom as long as she's not getting affected by people who says something about her. She has been judged of being so emotional too plus she's 25 years old and the world knows everything that happens with her relationship. I don't know, this is just my opinion. Because I value my privacy so much. I post something that I know that I can handle and I want to protect myself from being judged.
@emjay86 (640)
• Philippines
16 Sep 11
Yes, I believe facebook lets you post what's really on your mind. But somehow, what is on your mind must be screened. There are opportunistic people out there and somehow, seeing your fragility makes one an easy target. I hope your friend understand that freedom comes with knowing one's limitation.
@shanemae (1025)
• Philippines
15 Sep 11
my friends are aware that i am emotional too. and i agree too that what you post on facebook describes who you are. why not? it says "what's on your mind?" so what you really post is what you feel or think on that very moment your typing. lately i have not been updating my account so nobody knows now what i am up to.
@gshyam1247 (81)
• India
15 Sep 11
it all depend on your priorities on how you think and how you think about others some people do just for fun,some people for showcase,for fame,for criticizing.it may partly reflects your thoughts but not 100%.main motto starts to be in network goes till critics, its all web2.0