trust: can you get trust back?

September 15, 2011 3:07pm CST
I went threw divorce and with my ex husband i trusted him but was betrayed.now i have a wonderful guy but its hard for me to trust he wont do the same things. he desvers it but its hard to give it.
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Netsbridge
@Netsbridge (3253)
• United States
21 Sep 11
Yes, you can always learn to do things again. Though as humans we tend to be moved by our experiences (and a good thing), you can however learn to judge people based on their own actions, not actions of others. It may take time though to acquire this ability. Do just be too hard on yourself.
GemmaR
@GemmaR (8517)
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18 Sep 11
I think that it is possible to get trust back, but you have to really forgive somebody for the things that they have done in the past to be able to trust them again to the extent that you did in the past. If you haven't forgiven them, then you will find that you will keep referring to things that have happened in the past every time you have an argument in the future, and this will mean that you can't get past the things that have happened to you in the past. You must be careful that this is not you, or you will never be able to be happy in your relationship again.
sender621
@sender621 (14894)
• United States
17 Sep 11
Trust can be something hard to gain, hard to lose and hard to win back. It may take more effort on the one who must trust than the one who wants to be trusted. Once trust is broken, it's a harder mountain to climb to have the trust back in the relationship.
Nezavisima Deskata
@nezavisima (7408)
• Bulgaria
15 Sep 11
I think it does not matter that he is your ex. if you can count on him as a friend as a person and to maintain friendly relations in what better than this. I am very glad when people like that after any association remained lifelong friends. nice day and good luck!
vickylao
@vickylao (46)
• Philippines
15 Sep 11
Hello mommytam, Speaking of TRUST, this is really hard to give and I do understand you now but I guess you have to gauge first the time that you've been with that person because once you've given your trust and you trusted to someone, you might be vulnerable. I believe that you don't want to be hurt again. Maybe it's too early to say that you have to trust him, on the other hand if you're willing to trust and willing to be hurt again then just do so.But I guess, it might be very good if you have to know him really well then after that you can fully trust him. In addition, at that time you are be ready in any circumstances.