Guys... Im clueless
@Jackieholder1 (84)
September 15, 2011 4:30pm CST
So I just got a role in my college production, and I play a great character. During call backs, I started crushing on this one guy, turns out he gets the role and im in alot of scenes with him, even give him a kiss (on the cheek). I think he is attracted to me but i keep getting so nervous. Im shy when it comes to relationships and very clueless, i can never tell if a guy likes me and i never know what to do when i like him. Im the traditional type where I believe the guy should approach the girl, but as my best friend put it i can be intimidating, she told me that i have an air around thats un-approachable and its true because other ppl have told me the same thing. Idk what to do. I cant talk i dont know how to flirt and i feel so stupid because when i try to tease him i feel like im being mean. HELP!!! I just automatically liked him and that never happened to me before, i usually figure out i liked a guy a year later and he already has a girlfriend by that time.... I dont really want to mess this up, because i would like to get to know him, even as a friend..... Im such a dork.... sorry.
4 responses
@ShepherdSpy (8544)
• Omagh, Northern Ireland
16 Sep 11
Over analysing the situation with the other person is what prevents a lot of relationships from getting off the ground..You're crushing on the Guy,and you think He likes You..You have a ready made opening here-get talking to him about your roles-You get to kiss him as part of the production (although platonically!) so see if He's on the same wavelength..catch his eye and smile..if he smiles back,get closer,see how things go... good luck!
@ShepherdSpy (8544)
• Omagh, Northern Ireland
16 Sep 11
Does He greet you when He sees you,smile,hold your gaze,or touch your arm or back if he arrived behind you? anything that would bring him within your personal space and wanting to stay there is a positive indication..being receptive to him being near you is all the hint he should need..after that,it's his move if you don't want to ask him out for a coffee..
@Jackieholder1 (84)
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16 Sep 11
m doing that right now, over analyzing... yep. But i think all i need to know in this great big mess of words is: 1) what hints is he giving me? 2) how do i give him hints 3)whats the point of hinting? If im a straight forward person, but i want him to make the first move.
@moonflower9 (1)
• United States
16 Sep 11
I know exactly how you feel. I was really shy around guys myself. One day, I wrote an email to the guy I was crushing on, explaining that I would really like to hang out with him. He responded by asking me on a date, and now, many years later, we are married! Sometimes it's easier to start with a written communication, since it eliminates the awkward face-to-face interaction.
@Jackieholder1 (84)
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16 Sep 11
thats soooo cute!!!!!! Congratulations!! Im not so much awkward once i start talking.if you read that first really long comment, idk if you want to do that...
@stealthy (8181)
• United States
15 Sep 11
I'm a guy and I was very shy all through High School and beyond into college. As a result I did very little dating in High School or college. I was also clueless when it came to being able to tell if a girl liked me or not. One of the few dates I had was taking a girl to a dance and a friend of my mother told my mother that she overheard the girl on the phone in a store telling someone that she had a date with me and that it seemed like a really big deal to her. Even that knowledge didn't help my shyness much but it was good to hear. It sounds like you may not be as shy as you think if you are in a college production. How shy is the guy? You never know, he might be shy, too. If he is, he might be like me and can't tell when a girl is flirting with him. So just talk with him; about the production, your parts in it, ask to rehearse your scenes together, you don't have to include the kiss. Maybe spending time with him and showing that kind of an interest will get the message to him and he will respond. Good luck.
@Jackieholder1 (84)
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16 Sep 11
He's not shy, can get embarrassed. We only really have break time to talk, otherwise we all get yelled at. And usually it with everyone there, like a group thing about random stuff. Im trying to talk more, but im weird, sometimes i talk up a storm like here, we have a discussion, and other times im doing random stuff. But most of the time im really had to talk to, it like awkward silence.... I feel pressured to talk and i literally think in my head what do i talk about with this person, now this isnt just him but other ppl too. Mostly ppl i dont know well. Because the people i know,a re fine with me all of a sudden asking idk, "why aren't elephants pink?" and they look at me like im nuts but we talk about it. I guess i get self conscious around new ppl.
@resutaa (144)
• Philippines
15 Sep 11
You don't have to act like another person just to see if other people like you. Remember they like you for who you are and not by what you are. I know girls have senses about this. If the guy likes you, he will find a way to meet you, talk with you, spend time and if he became sweet to you ask you to go out or have time together specially if he somehow show feelings like caring, always makes you smile simple things to remember but its already challenging to us men. We are not expressive interms of emotions. If you see this on him, the only advice i can give you is that dont be to hard on him appreciate his effort and spend some little time for him but not to much it might seems that you would be looking like an easy to get and it makes us guys turn off make some little challenge for him if he can't withstand on it then he is not serious get my point?.. And find some time to look charming but not to the extent that your looking like another person just show your natural beauty. ;) Hope an advice from me, a guy would give you an idea...
@Jackieholder1 (84)
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16 Sep 11
Im not trying to act like a different person, I just get idk scared, nervous, idk what u'd call it. I need to actually break down my walls, the challenge is there. Its those hints i have to read and give that confuse the heck out of me. im a straight forward person, like me (yes) or (no), but i would never do that, because im old fashion and i believe the boy should court the girl. Make him work for it yes.
