He was a strange or a miser?
By Polang
@tkonlinevn (6462)
Vietnam
September 16, 2011 12:04am CST
We usually have small parties at home on weekends. We invite neighbors to attend.
Typically, they donate money to us to buy food and drink, or bringing food to. We eat together and chat happily. I find that small parties make us more close and know each other better.
He is also our neighbor. But he never voluntarily participate the parties. Unless we invite him when the party was ready.
He often said that he does not like parties because they are expensive. But when the party is happening, he used to go through in front of us and turn back again. And of course, he would not refuse if we invite him.
He was a strange or a miser?
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8 responses
@vikku2001 (258)
• India
16 Sep 11
Hello tkonlin
We can't be sure about his nature as it is always very much difficult to predict about others.But his behavior is clearly showing that he is miser because if he really don't want to spend money on parties but for the sake of meeting people he can spend a little much.And after all he always come to party he is surely a miser.
@tkonlinevn (6462)
• Vietnam
17 Sep 11
He both wants to eat and don't spend. Is he maybe a money-bags or a miser?
@vikku2001 (258)
• India
17 Sep 11
Yes sure he is both.But he should improve himself as in the way of saving money he is loosing his friends and relations.
@SIMPLYD (90721)
• Philippines
16 Sep 11
There are really people who are not fond of attending parties, much more if it will make them spend out of their own pocket.
By saying that he don't like parties because they are expensive, it means that he doesn't want to spend on them actually. He may want to mingle with you guys, buy he doesn't want to spend. He's a miser after all. 
@tkonlinevn (6462)
• Vietnam
17 Sep 11
At the beginning, we don't think that he's a miser. But after many times we invited him to attend the parties and he didn't refuse without spend a little, we think that he's strange and miser.
Should we invite him the parties for the next one?
@SIMPLYD (90721)
• Philippines
17 Sep 11
Well, if he is a good company, why not. Perhaps his presence is enough to compensate for his not contributing to the expense. He is after all, only 1 compared to many of you.
But maybe you can jokingly suggest to him " Next time friend, what will you bring also? "
@skysuccess (8857)
• Singapore
16 Sep 11
tkonlinevn,
I don't think I can judge who he actually is and neither should you.
Some people just does not seem to be the reciprocating type and as you've already stated in here that he just does not seem to be keen on attending in the first place. Besides, I am sure you are not looking for any donations for the organized gathering to actually expect anything from him.
Your other neighbors may just feel that it would be a good gesture to show their appreciation by donating money for the food and drinks but let's not forget that he is unlike your neighbor. Also, you cannot use your neighbor as a yardstick to determine who he actually is.
Everyone is different and some just need to be told while others are almost receptive to automatic. While there may be some who are just slow to catch or literally does not know how to reciprocate. Besides, if you need to collect something for the gathering, then I have to say that it would be your part to mention this to him and let him decide if he wants to attend, since he needs to be told what to do here.
@tkonlinevn (6462)
• Vietnam
17 Sep 11
Hi friend,
I don't use my neighbor to determine him. I only see on what he did. He said that he don't like the parties, but when they're taking place, he often go around intentionally and we must invite him. Of course, he never refuse the invitations.
I also want to say that all people give what they have such as meat, vegetable or fruits for parties. If they don't have, they don't give food this party, but they'll give them at other one. Nobody is the same him!
@cream97 (29085)
• United States
16 Sep 11
Hi, tkonlinevn. I have never heard of an miser before. It seems like he is not a person that enjoys contributing. He does not like parties because it is expensive, because he does not want to hand out any money at all. This is what I think about this situation here.
@tkonlinevn (6462)
• Vietnam
17 Sep 11
I don't like to say that he's a miser. But I feel upset when he said that he don't like parties but he didn't refuse our invitations. He also do the things which we must invite him moreover we don't want to do that.
@naseemkum (1803)
• India
16 Sep 11
Completely a miser. He just want to participate without donating anything. As he wants to enjoy in others money. Rich people prefers parties they are proud about that. But miserable people always find fault in those things because they want to invest if they ready to participate.
@tkonlinevn (6462)
• Vietnam
17 Sep 11
Because you said to the investment, I remember that he never won't buy anything which he can't sell with some profits. Even what the things he use, such as cell phone. Maybe he's a good investor?
@DiaJ88 (170)
• Singapore
16 Sep 11
I think he is just a miser. He doesn't want to participate and donate money into making the party. I think he wants to save most of his money and not spend on it to make a party. Usually parties will have lots of food and drinks. He is able to save money for dinner by attending the party. I could say that he is a strange miser actually.
@tkonlinevn (6462)
• Vietnam
17 Sep 11
Maybe you're right. Because I don't see he spends money for eating or drinking or parties to people here. Or he wants to save money for a target which we don't know?
@cerebellum (3863)
• United States
17 Sep 11
He could be either. He may just not feel comfortable at parties, or he may just be too cheap to donate. It also could be a little of both. It must be a nice neighborhood to get together all of the time.
@sinawaliboy (271)
• Philippines
17 Sep 11
I would agree that he is a miser. Not really an anti-social though since he would go with you guys if he is invited. I don't want pass judgement to this dude. What I'm seeing from him is that may parties are not really his thing. Maybe other social events might entice him later on if you happen to have one and invite him.
