When will I get time for me?

You take the words right out of my mouth.. I already have that problem for 27 years and if I am honest already much longer (since I took care of my mother, sisters and baby brothers). I am tired of it. I am afraid that being a mother means you always have to be there, not a single moment for yourself not even on the toilet or if you take a shower. It was easier as my kids were very small, they knew I wanted to read for 1 hour alone so they had to keep themselves busy during that time. This year it was the first time in my life I was out alone without kids. Amazing they did not miss me 1 single moment. So next year I will have vacation alone too (next to vacation with my kids) and I am trying hard to get time for me. So yes I send them away again if I want to read or learn and I tell them they have to wash the dishes do and clean up. Otherwise I will never have time for me. So my advice: write down what you like to do. Make time for yourself. During that time nobody can disturb you. Start with 30 min or 1 hour. And remember: time for you is not: shopping, housekeeping etc.

You should take a step back and think about all of the things that you're doing for your family, and think about whether you really need to do it or not. I know that when I first moved in with my partner, he was happy to let me do everything around the house and he didn't tend to help out at all without me having to nag at him to do things. Eventually, I found that I was absolutely exhausted and unable to function as well as I should be able to because of it all. I spoke to him about it and we agreed that he would take some of the responsibility. Things have been better since then, so maybe you should see if you can get somebody else to take some of the strain from your shoulders.

I don't know your situation at home but, I would take a bath and just sit there and relax for 30 minutes and think about nothing. Thinking about nothing is good for you especially when you're busy all day. Your brain just need to slow down for a minute and take a deep breath.