proposal after break up !!
By rbose621
@rbose621 (54)
September 17, 2011 3:18pm CST
we broke up 1 month ago ! not offcially but i stopped talking wid her and started ignoring. but again i fell into a dillema again ...yesterday she came to me and started a normal conversation and in between she started askin me questions like " do u hav any gf ??" n all ,but then she proposed me ! i told her i have think abt it !! wat shld i do ?
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5 responses
@hardworkinggurl (37063)
• United States
18 Sep 11
I think that a proposal soon after a break up is something that really needs to be thought out carefully. Firstly you have to think clearly as to why you broke up in the first place. A proposal will not take away what ever issues need to be worked on if any.
I would say that if you have to think about agreeing or not that perhaps this is not the right time to marry. Most couples ready for marriage have had time and have been heading in that direction so a yes and or no usually comes instantly.
Take your time and hope it all works out for you.
@soulist (2985)
• United States
18 Sep 11
I agree. If you need to think about agreeing to marry someone then its not right. The first thing you might want to think about is like hardworking said is why you broke up in the first. What caused you to think that the relationship was not going to work out. If you broke up for some reason, then marriage might not be the best of ideas.
@hardworkinggurl (37063)
• United States
18 Sep 11
Great advise soulist! Those are my thoughts also because if I am ready for marriage and my partner is the one, I would not hesitate.
@Judy890 (1644)
• United States
17 Sep 11
She proposed to you really? I always that that was the guys job. I find it weird that you two broke up and she proposed to you. I think she should've waited a while like have a few dates with you talk about what happened in the relationship, she moved way to quick. Please take a while to think about this. Marriage is serious.
@Netsbridge (3253)
• United States
21 Sep 11
Why did you breakup? The reason for your breakup should govern your decision. If teh breakup was because of something serious and very important to you, then you may be best avoiding rekindling the relationship.
@sender621 (14893)
• United States
17 Sep 11
Be sure of the feelings that you have for each other. it sounds like she may have wanted something that did not pan out and going back to you is her safety net. don't rush into something that may not be right for both of you.
@waflay (2737)
• Nairobi, Kenya
17 Sep 11
You have left the part that caused the break-up, its hard to determine which angle to take in order answer your question but I think there was nothing serious that caused all that... what I mean is, non of you had a third party(girl/boy friend) somewhere beside your relationship. I this case, its okay if you sort out the problem before you commit yourself in continuing this relationship. But if the break up was as a result of cheating, then it depends on how much you trust your partner. Its so hurting to always think your gf is with another person when she is not with you and you might end up hurting yourself more. Make sure you iron out the mess before you keep your relationship going.