Why men not wear any proof for showing they are married?

surekha: You have asked a difficult question. I had to make search in the internet on this. Still I am not clear about the answer for this. Why it has been followed for ages that men are not compelled to wear anything similar to mangalsutra of women. In South India women wear mangal sutra and also metti in the leg fingers--in both legs on the second finger they were mettis made of silver. I tried to put the link for image of this. I could not get. It is because metti is not a costly item. ONE REASON: Number of women has always been less in all the countries. To tell the men look go and find out some other woman -- this sytem would have been followed. good day.

Hello, I think noting is wrong in it. If women are wearing proofs of married life, Why a men not. You suggest what is good for men to wear. In my opinion a chain in neck of men with photo of wife or with name of wife. What is your opinion. If it is right one go to market and buy a chain now.

Hi there! You are right that when there are symbols for a woman to show that she is married, there should be some symbols for men too, so that others could know that he is married. However, as far as I know, there are no such symbols here in India. You should be cautious when you are attending a party with your husband that other women do not mistake him for a handsome unmarried guy ..... Lol! (till he specifically discloses to someone about his marital status, she or he can not come to know)

Hi surekha, He doesn’t have a wedding ring? Then make one ring for him quickly. Don’t forget to put your name in the ring. In our place (native) men are wearing a wedding ring and wife’s name will be in the ring. Keralites are very fond of wearing gold ornaments and it is true in case of men too. They can wear their wedding ring but in other places of India mean hardly wear gold ornaments and wedding rings.

Here couples exchange wedding rings the day they get married. A lot of couples do wear them, including the men. There are some men who are not accustomed to rings so sometimes they do not wear them and or because of the type of work they may do it becomes difficult or not allowed to wear their rings and or any type of jewelry. My sneaky ex-husband use to always remove his and when I use to question him as to where it was he would always say he took it off to wash his hands at work. I knew better based on the route our marriage was going. The funny thing is that mysteriously it would appear and same pattern all the time. Anyways yes here both couples do wear then and some just out of preference do not. My personal thought with it is that it is a symbol of the bonding of love we would share together. I would not get terribly upset of per se if I had a husband not to wear it for preference purposes, however, if I were to wear mine proudly, I would hope he would too. Also while at parties and or gatherings usually upon first meet, the husband should immediately introduce his wife to all who he is mingling with. Good luck with your new movement to have this instilled in your country.

I think the guys should have something that shows they are married it just makes more sense

surekharathi, “Life is either a daring adventure or nothing. Security is mostly a superstition. It does not exist in nature.” - Helen Keller Honestly speaking, I wonder if there's really a thing called true safety as far as our lives are concern. To me, whether wearing a "Mangalsutra" or a "Ring" may send the message that the bearer is married but I do not think he/she will be safe from temptations or tempted individuals from trying to establishing relationship with you. Now, you are a good woman, but I think you will agree with me that a good woman doesn't guarantee you a lasting relationship. In fact, irregardless of the position we are standing at, nothing guarantees you an eternal love - it's all a matter of choice and self acceptance to stay faithful and observe fidelity. On a harsh note, if your man wants to cheat or get cheated; he can cheat you or be cheated with/by someone just going to the library. Likewise, on your part as well. No offense. It's not the environments or some ornaments - it's always the person.

Very interesting you wear a necklace to symbolize you are married. I do see some Indian women here wear a wedding ring when they come into my work. Are rings a symbol in your culture? My husband has gone thru 2-3 wedding rings. The problem is for his job he is not allowed to wear wedding rings on the job for safety reasons. He lost one in his pants pocket that he turned into the uniform company. Then we got a cheaper one and he lost that one as well because he needs to take it off for work. Honestly I'm about to see if I can get some henna from a lady at work and draw a band on his finger that way it's not a tattoo but still something that people can see. I don't like him to be without his ring.

hi surekharathi what a great idea here in the United States a lot of married couples bought wear marriage rings But again a lot of men do not wear a marriage band at all. It would say a lot of unnecessary forays of women seeking a man whose already taken.Some women do not think its taboo to wade in and try to court a man who does wear a ring , A savvy wife sort of reminds the husband that he is already taken and to send the man hungry woman on to chase a single man.she is not caustic but gently persuades the man hunter lady to look else where for a husband. it really helps if one's husband does not flirt back at the husband stealer.

I had to look up the word 'Mangalsutra' to find out it's meaning. It is a very beautiful custom. Nothing new that the woman wears a symbol she is married. As yiou know, many places have wedding rings for both men and women but many men do not wear their rings. Some are just not comfortable with jewelry and some even say they are dangerous..for example if they work in construction or with machines they could lose a finger if the ring gets caught somewhere.. I question are these just excuses, but I don't want to falesly accuse anyone...

Men should wear wedding rings, it is a sign that they are spoken for. Many women here get mad if their husband refuses to wear a wedding ring or loses it. It is a way of showing that he loves his wife and wants to show it.

Well I didn't what is a Mangalsutra until now that you mention it and I made a research, I see that the married woman have to wear that for ever and that it represent respect and obedience to the husband, parents and God. But I think that both of should have the same thing because, what does means that only you have to respect and obey and he doesn't have to do nothing? I admire you because you can deal with a situation like that, because for me it doesn't work, if I have to respect he have to respect if I have to obey he have to obey and show the same symbol or one similar. "A woman have to be intelligent, have charm, sense of humor,and be kind.And the same qualities are required to a man." I believe on that quotation everybody is equal.

hiii talkative women Nice question really in India no proof for married husband so you should invent new idea about wearing the proof..and tell to all men to implement it.. otherwise tell to Govt. to create this rule to wear something husband also as a proof of married..

In many cultures man wear a ring just like the woman so you know he (or she) is married. Why that is not the case in your culture I don't know. Perhaps if you would have rings he would not wear it because he likes to get attention from women. There are enough men who leave the ring at home or take it off if they go out. A men needs the feeling he is still attractive. Women do need that too but most men don't care about that (if you are married already there is no need anyone looks at you anymore). Personally I think it is for both important to know you are still attractive and also other people still see you that way and as a individual person. Not as the wife of.... You are way more then that. I don't need to be married to feel safe or wear anyting to show I am married which make me feel safe (I never heard about that expression before). I think it's free to husband or wife to wear a ring to show the outside world you belong together or to wear something else or nothing. Love is in the heart and not in a ring, clothes etc. Nor is marriage.

Some men here wear wedding rings, but not all of them do...

There is no such tradition in mine we used to wear ring in ring finger to tell the world that we had married but that is not a must me and my hubby don't wear any ring He give me ring but i just keep it in my drawer

In my country both spouses wear gold rings to show they are married. But my husband lost it very early as he said it bothered when he worked. But I didn´t mind. I knew he was my own and noone elses. He knew better that to look around

Hi bhabi.. Man no need to wear anything to prove that they are married because we are more trustworthy..... lol just kidding.

dear sis, Here in my country couples wear a wedding ring. And one can recognize a wedding ring from an ordinary ring, so if a man wants to cheat and date with other girls and said he is single...he has to hide the ring or remove the ring from his finger. Or, even if the man is married and is wearing a wedding ring and a girl still flirts with him...there is no use even if the man is wearing a wedding ring or not. Same with women,women also wears a wedding ring. Actually, a wedding ring is a twin ring...both the couple wears a ring with same design and with their name and date of wedding day engraved inside the ring. have a good day

Forgive me for being ignorant but what is Mangalsutra? In western culture men and women wear wedding rings as a sign of their marriage. I know that surgeons and most of nurses don't wear rings because of hygienic rules in hospitals.