Broken Family

Ours is really hard to explain. Not physically broken, but broken in thought? Its complicated but i consider my family to be broken. To give you all a view, my m0m and dad are together living but they dont sleep in one room. The lot where are house is, has two houses in it ours, and my aunt's house. I have two younger brothers but my father kicked them out and no longer considered my his son so im the only one left.( im n0t saying my bros are rebellious, it has something to do with my fathers attitude problem). We are still lucky, coz me and my bros never become rebellious and addict. I am always staying at my aunts house together with my bros and cousin, though my things are still in our house. Only me can go in there. Im always sad but i just dont think of it. Sometimes i get jealouse everytime i saw families going to the church and mall together. It has been so long and i dont think we can ever do it again.

It is very sad, the best thing is to try and create good relations now, a new family as friends are brothers and sisters that we can choose to have.

hi. it is okay. mylot can be a channel to a lot of concerns. this is just one of them, and i believe that some members will be willing to share a thought or two, and even encourage you to go on with life despite the predicaments. though i did not experience this (and is not experiencing this with my marriage), all i can say is we have our own burden to carry. it comes in many forms, in many shapes, as they say. what is important is to be able to have courage, enough to be able to get up from the situation and move on. it is of no use to brood about the situation because as you do, it gets graver, and you get more frustrated or depressed. divert your attention to other things that you could spend most of your time with. i do not have anything in my mind now as suggestion but do it. find a way to divert your attention. stay strong. have faith.

I'm from a broken family too. I have accepted my parent's separation because I know that there's nothing I can do to change it. My father has chosen his other wife over us. I won't deny that my mom and I are still bitter about it but we don't have any choice but to move on. My mom worked hard to pay for my education and still support me and my family even after i got married. My husband feels this bitterness and assures me that it will not happen to us. I do hope so, for the sake of our family but I know that whatever trials we face, we must overcome and move on. And I know that I must overcome and let go of this hurt because it hinders in my happiness and in my relationship with my family. I may never fix my deep relationship with my father, but at least we can have a cordial one.

i'm sorry to hear that dear gela. well, you did not spoil my day. it is very ok. you can express yourself freely here in mylot. feel free to share and listen to the advises and opinion of your fellow mylotters. we know that you have been feeling difficult these days and i see that the only thing you should do is to be more faithful to God. be strong and just keep the faith. you know, just think that God sees your family as a strong group that He gave you this tough problem. well, there's a number of the cases like you have so don't feel too alone. if you find yourself in deep darkness then just remember to call Him above He will surely answer your questions in His own good time. always remember too that He will not be giving you problems that you cannot handle so feel blessed you are given a tough situation cause He sees you are strong. be strong too for your family do not let anyone of your family see you depressed because that will only hurt them more specially your mother. be available for everyone of them specially your younger siblings who might create a bad thinking because of what had happen to your family. always talk to them and let them express what they feel. it always help when children are explained well of the situation. well, i do not come from a broken family. i am very much happy with mine. i am just a friend here who would want to help you out. God bless you friend and welcome to mylot! :)

hello gelamso..just be strong and have faith in God.i know He won't leave you. just think about your sister and your mom, you still have them. you should be strong for them and for yourself.pray always and listen to God's words so you'll be guided.i know you'll get over this..may God bless you always.

You will get over it soon. As many children from broken family have, AS I HAVE =) Thank you for sharing this with us, and it is a great start for you to start moving forward when you are able to share it with people, your friends or not, etc. Let me know if you want to chat, i'd be really happy to talk to you... but of course, i know you'd be able to stand this, you'll get over it sooner than you think you will. =)

Hello friend! Don't worry you did not spoil my day when i happened to read your discussion this morning. I am also a product of broken family. My mother and father broke up when I was 5 years old, my bro is still months old during that time. My mother is so helpless, she was a plain housewife then, and thinking of what to feed her children without income is so disappointing. That lead her to gave up my younger brother to someone who is capable of giving the food and the life that he needed. Good thing, he was adopted by our close relative, thus they are no stranger to us. It's been years and decades already, thanks God we finally made it through that storm. I and my brother finished our studies and fortunately landed a good job. Before when I was still in Grade and High School, the issue really matters to me, I was so affected by the situation, I cried a lot, but doing something that could ruin my future never entered my mind. Good thing, I was surrounded with nice and supportive friends. Yes, I was kinda traumatized by the situation, in fact I was very choosy, i really promised myself to have a perfect family on my own. I think this is also the reason why I got married late. I was so busy finding the perfect man for the perfect marriage that I have been longing for. But to tell you honesty, there is no perfect man for that perfect marriage. However, God really prepared someone who is not perfect but is capable of making our desired marriage into a perfect and blissful one. I think we have to work on it in order to make the imperfect one to be perfect. ;-) Now that I am quite old enough to understand the situation, I came to realize that there are really some things that are not meant to be. In fact, I am so grateful now that my parents got separated or else I don't know, i cannot and don't want to imagine what would be our life then. If given a chance, I would still choose to be this way, I would still choose to be a product of a broken family. Know what my friend, open your heart and bear with it, you may not understand it now, but am sure someday you will. Just consider this things as your motivation in making your life a better one. Don't worry if they are not present during special occasions in your life, you are not alone in that aspect. Just be thankful that despite of that, you are well and safe. Don't dare comparing yourself with others that are greater than you, it will just burden you, instead, try to compare yourself with someone lesser than you, by that you will come to appreciate what you have right now. Don't worry, surely God has prepared something better for you in the future. Just like me. Am so blessed and grateful for my husband and my family now. I could no longer ask for more, Except God whom i hunger every second of my life. Chill my friend and be positive ;-)

well Im in the same situation really. I grew up mostly with my grandparents while my mom was out doing whatever with her cousin. My dad really didnt want us around and when we were there, he used to yell at us, hit us etc. Not very happy childhood. I did spend time traveling with my mom during the summers tho when I got a little older, which was nice. But as far as the family spending time, there was only a little bit of that and then once family members started to passaway, things started to change. No more family get togethers, no more sunday dinners etc. Really sucks, and now i have.. well had a relationship with my dad and my stepmom which is now torn to peices becuz I let my children stay with them for the summer and they arent trying to let me have them back. Huge mess!!! I try to think of the fun time i had with my grandpa and my friends. All the places i used to go and things i used to do. Its hard to deal with the past trust me. Its hard not to think about it, but think of it this way. If and when you have your own family just try to do better and learn from the mistakes that they did and do the best you can. :)