Apology not accepted?
By xtedaxcvg
@xtedaxcvg (3189)
Philippines
September 18, 2011 11:06pm CST
I was involved in a battle of words with my ex co-workers via facebook and it was indeed a heated argument. I figured that it wouldn't stop unless I do something about it so I manned up and sincerely apologized to them through private message. Unfortunately, they still throw hints of insults but at least it's more subtle than before. What should I do?
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7 responses
@GemmaR (8517)
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19 Sep 11
I think that it sounds as though somebody needs to grow up and let things go. I often find that people who feel the need to insult others tend to lead sad and lonely lives, meaning that they need to do things such as this in order to feel big. You should try talking to them, and saying that you apologised and therefore don't understand why they haven't let the subject drop. They are being pathetic, and really should learn to let things go once they have been sorted out, as life really is far too short for things such as this.
@xtedaxcvg (3189)
• Philippines
20 Sep 11
I've already tried talking to them and it didn't work. I guess that's just how they are. Well, I'm happy that I've already disassociated myself from them. Thanks for commenting.
@megamatt (14291)
• United States
19 Sep 11
I think that some people don't want to accept an apology no matter what. They feel a bit insulted by the situation. Perhaps they don't think that we are sincere for whatever reason. Or perhaps they are far more offended by the slight than you could realize. More so than it is potentially fair but there you go. There are a lot of people who hear an apology but doubt it.
I think time will tell exactly how much healing is going to be. Of course there are times where an apology is made but all it does is patch up things slightly. Until the point where there is another eruption that is going to cause a lot of trouble and agony for everyone involved to say the very least. The insults are just covering up how much hurt the party may feel. At least that's what happened to me in the past.
@xtedaxcvg (3189)
• Philippines
20 Sep 11
The sad part is I was the one who got hurt. I wasn't doing anything to offend them and in fact was trying to help them. I believe I was the victim here so that hurts me the most. This just shows what type of people they are. I should have seen that when I was still friends with them since they seem to say bad things behind other people's backs. Thanks for the comment.
@xtedaxcvg (3189)
• Philippines
20 Sep 11
Exactly what I've been doing. Plus, I made a promise to my wife that I wouldn't engage them in Facebook anymore so I think I'm fulfilling my promise to her. Thanks!
@xtedaxcvg (3189)
• Philippines
20 Sep 11
Good thing they stopped giving out negative hints about me so I guess the dust has settled. But I guess if something would agitate them then they'll start spewing bad things out again. Thanks for the comment.
@xtedaxcvg (3189)
• Philippines
20 Sep 11
I guess what they say is true: Your co-workers aren't your friend. Thanks for the comment.
@befrindwithme26 (5805)
• Philippines
19 Sep 11
Oh,,but you did apologized and that person still hint you something,i think this person still in hatred,anger...
Because if the person did not accept your apology,it means still in anger...
So just to not do it or avoid it in the future if there is something disagreement with your co worker...Because it will worse..
@xtedaxcvg (3189)
• Philippines
20 Sep 11
I've been restraining myself in replying to their nasty comments. I think that my apology won't be sincere if I decide to retaliate. Thanks for the comment.
@gelayagui98 (1336)
• Australia
19 Sep 11
Hi xtedaxcvg, apology does not always mean that you are wrong and the other person is right. It just means that you value your relationship more than your ego and despite of valuing your relationship and still not accepted its not your fault anymore so cheer up don't mind them. when you're tempted to lose patience with someone, think how patient God has been with you all the time.....Good day!
@xtedaxcvg (3189)
• Philippines
20 Sep 11
Thank you for the very inspiring comment. I guess this is where our friendship ends since they're not accepting my apology. At least I know now what they feel and I can move on with my life. Thanks again.