Is it right atiitude to discsriminate among children???

Hi sj, no it is not normal behavior of anyone to discriminate between the kids. It basically hurts the other child and they grow up. You can have a talk with your parents and request them include both the children, if they bought a toy, they should give it to both saying them its for both and they should share and play.

This tendency is common and it is mainly because of the endearing qualities that the child that is preferred, has. Your son will have to live with this and bear whatever consequences it would have on him although it is categorically wrong. This happens in every household. Sad but true!

Hi sj! I do not think your parents i.e. Grand Parents of your kids will discriminate between them. It may be your perception or outlook, however, if you will ask them, they would say - for them all kids are equal and this will be the case, I believe. So don't bother much about it. Hopefully, you give equal treatment to both your kids?

Discrimination between children, especially when the children are the same age, is always bad. You should speak to the grandparents, but if they are your spouse's parents, that might cause problems. How old are the children? If they are old enough to reason, you might tell your son that because of the way his sister acts, their grandparents probably think she likes them more than he does. Then, you could suggest ways that he could pay more attention to them.

i am only saying what pretty much everyone else has said. its not good, as it reinforces your sons shyness, and sense of being less likeable. but its also easy to see why your parents do this, but its not good for either child as favouritism in families can cause excessive sibling rivalry, and then they compete with each other and just don't like each other. i would talk to your parents, and explain what you feel. though, this is just a thought, but maybe because your daughter is more friendly towards them, they feel she likes them better, so perhaps it is their insecurity that is being revealed here. but i'm only guessing. i would talk to them.

i dont like this sought of behaviour...i have experienced it before...my grandma usually is more affected to my brother they get him whatever he asks for and they will leave me alone

Hi sjvg, It is very wrong to treat one child different from another and be sure that the child that is hurt will remember it. You must tell your parents that it has to stop or they won't see either of the children again, and make sure that you keep that promise. Every child is special in their own right and needs to be appreciated for who they are. It is the child that is treated 'different' that has problems when he/she grows up and often causes trouble for others. Blessings.

No doubt behaviour of your parents is abnormal. We must be treat our children equally. For us they are equal. But it is natural that an active children get more attentions of others.

Awwh that is not fair for them to be discriminated and or like more then the other. Especially coming from the grandparents. Sadly it does happen but as parents we must continually instill in them that they are equally loved. They are quite young but will soon catch on as to the difference that both of them recieve so maybe in a casual nice way you can explain to the grandparents that they need to be careful with this. It can ruin their self esteem. Continue loving and treating them equally and hopefully they will not be affected by this.

It is not a right attitude to discriminate among children.Because even we cannot tolerate if someone discriminates us.Then imagine what would be the mindset of the children if we do that to them.

I think there should be differences in the treatments of a boy and a girl. However, that should not be looked upon as discrimination. There are small things allowed of a boy t act, and vice versa.

I have seen even in a family where some children are favored by the father/mother and others are neglected just because maybe the names given to those favored/neglected children are from father's/mother's side. Its not good to divide children, it causes psychological problems to neglected children and they might feel they don't belong in a family.

I think "discrimination" is a hard term to use in this case. But it sounds as if the grandparents like your daughter more as your son. I don't think it's fair to treat them different although it is possible to do so if they behave different (so different way of raising because of character etc). Is this the case or is something else going on? I think only your parents can tell you why. Might be they are not even aware of it.

i think this happens alot with siblings i know between me and my sister i am my papas favorite but she is the favorite among the rest of my family because she is smart and makes good grades in school and is very tenderhearted where as i am a college drop out and can be rather cold hearted at times i think parents and grandparents should try their best to cover that fact up though and not let the kids see that they are not liked as well as their sibling no child deserves to have their feelings hurt because of that and you should always try to be fair to your children

It should not be encouraged at all, this is not a good sign, we should handle it very carefully, what may happen, as time goes, you son may hate your daughter for this reason, and your son may get demotivated which will impact his future, its normal behavior of the parents but still you know, we can make them understand also..

Hiii sjvj I hate those people or parents who discriminate between children. I have two daughter one is very brilliant and another is not I know it but I never show to her you elder sister is brilliant and why you are not but I always told her woooo you are very intelligent girl and I know you can do study well then she really start the study...

What may be normal is not always right. Discrimination happens. And when it happens, it hurts. I also think that people respond diffferently to different personalities, and sometimes they don't even know themselves how much their discrimination hurts. My son was more easy to love than my daughter because my daughter didn't recognize or respond to love. She also seemed incapbable of gratitude whereas my son exuded gratitude for anything and everything anyone did for him. Which one do you think people wanted most to give to? My daughter wanted everything, but nothing really stood out that she loved. She was hard to buy anything for because I don't even think she knew what she really wanted, but whatever we came up with never seemed to delight her, but anything we gave Jason seemed to make him very happy. You could see it all over his face. He was a boy and four years younger than Sarah, but she seemed to measure fairness by whether she got just what he got, even if it wasn't something that was really suited for her. If she could, she would have wanted the price tags for everything to add them up to see if we were fair. We saw each child as in individual with different needs. I think most children are very good at measuring who they think has the short end of the stick compared to someone else -- sibling or anyone else. The thing a parent or teacher hears most is "That isn't fair." Each child is his own judge as to what is fair. Do your parent always seem to favor your daughter? Or does the son sometimes get things your daughter doesn't? Your parents may not realize what they are doing or how sad it makes your son. Maybe you should share with them in private how they are unintentionally making your son feel bad. Maybe they can find ways to let your son know they love him just as much.