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im sure it was not an easy decision for her to have to make either but i think that is a very responsible decision for her to make if she could not provide for the child it is smart for her to try to give her child the best life possable but i think if she were not prepared to have a baby she should have not been sleeping around in the first place especially being so young but i think for her to give the child up for adoption she will have to have the fathers permission

Being a good mother depends on the mother herself and not on the circumstances surrounding her. You could be poor, you can be young, you can be physically disabled or what problem that besets you but you can still be the best mother in the world. In the same token, you could be very rich, of good physical condition, of right age and have practically not much worries in life, but you still can be the worst mother ever. So this means a woman whether she be rich or poor can be a good mother. Money or the age or whatever is not actually the issue. In the case of that young mother who would give her baby to her neighbor, I can't really judge her because I can't read her heart. It could be true that she really wants better future for her child but to say that she is not being a good mother is a revelation that she is immature. If she knows she is not a good mother then why doesn't she change herself to be a good mother to her child. Instead she is giving up her child. She can always be a good mother despite her young age anyway. I've seen many young mothers who become good mothers despite their age. It is motherhood that gave them the maturity. It is their child that inspired them to change into better persons so that they become good mothers. I hope that young mother (who obviously became a mother although she is not prepared for this role), is not giving her child to the neighbor because she wants more freedom for herself rather that really wanting her child to have a better life.

Hi SW0605, That would be a tough choice. At 17, she is very young and struggling. It sounds as if she loves the child but realizes that it is maybe more than she can handle with going to school and also providing for the baby. It sounds as if she maybe doesn't have a lot of family support at home?? It would be a difficult decision. I imagine that if she goes about this the legal route then they would give her plenty of councel to make sure that she is making the right decision for her and the baby. I can say that I would not be able to do this but then again, I'm not her and I did not get pregnant at 17 and still in school and trying to raise a child. If I had, I really think that I would have had plenty of family to help me get through that difficult time. This girl may not have that. I'm sure it is a hard and painful decision. I couldn't really judge her based upon what I think I would do in that spot.

I think that it is very sad that the Mother of the child does not feel as though she is able to give her own child the life that it deserves, however if the child is going to have the best chance possible of a better life, then that is what should happen for the good of the own child. Although it might be hard for both the Mother and the child at first, it will be much better for them both in the long term as they will be able to get the most possible from their lives. The most important thing is the welfare of the child in a situation such as this.

It all depends on how her situation is . if she knows she will not be able to be stable and take care of her child then giving the baby up is a good thing. but if she can take care of it and just doesn't want to she needs to grow up and take on the responsibility that she brought on her self.I am also a young mother i have my daughter at 17 but i also dropped out of school. but i am not 20 and i am getting my ged and continuing my education and going to a community college for human services.. it is not easy begin a young mother but any one can take care of a baby when if they want to.. they can choose not to and that's when u get people giving away there kids for no reason..