If someone has wronged me, should I try to take matters in hand
@sanjana_aslam (4187)
Malaysia
September 20, 2011 6:52am CST
and attempt to punish or leave it.
well it depends on the situation or the problem right ??? .... this totally confuses me .. most of the time i will just walk away from those people and cut all connection with them ....
My reason for this is coz i have very low self confidence, i am afraid that the person might come up with arguments which i can not handle ....
I guess there are some issues that we can ignore but when it concerns our pride we should stand and question
how about you .... u stand and fight ??
10 responses
@eseulhan (199)
• Philippines
21 Sep 11
For me holding grudge against someone is bad. Also, taking revenge to someone means you are no other but that kind of person too. For me, if someone has hurt me or did grave offense Il just pray for him or her and ask GOD for their forgiveness. I know forgiving is so much hard, i might not talk to them anymore or talk to them but not like before this doesnt mean i have hold a grudge against them. Fate just give them what they deserve.
@SIMPLYD (90722)
• Philippines
21 Sep 11
Actually this really depends on the problem. IF despite efforts to settle a personal problem with someone , the problem cannot be settled, then its best to just let it be and let time heal the wound.
If it is a legal matter, where it couldn't be settled amicably then you let the court decide.
But never ever take revenge, because it's not yours, it's God's.
@strawberrychocodahi (4818)
• Philippines
20 Sep 11
If someone has wronged you, then talk to the person straight so that you can settle it once and for all. I don't like to just assume my feelings and avoid a person who is involve because that will not solve the problem.
If someone has caused me wrong, I will approach him or her straight and talk the matter. I don't like avoiding the person, what if that person didn't even have a single clue that you have been offended or wronged. I don't keep pride, pride is the number one enemy that hinders a good communication and to solve the problem.
Fight? for what? It does not matter who is right or who is wrong, for me I settle the issue first, there will never be any conflict, problemo solved!
@daud4ms (218)
• United Arab Emirates
21 Sep 11
yes, it depends on the situation. like you I also have the feeling that i may not be able to handle the arguments in return. I am a peace loving guy, so fighting would be the last thing in my mind. What i normally do is, that I just stop talking to that person & ignore to whatever he says. Many times this works out with me and the person who argued come to me and we behave normal again.
@granite_butterfly (448)
• Canada
20 Sep 11
Retaliation sometimes carries its own consquences depending on the situation. I believe that one can stand their ground without seeking revenge. As the old saying goes, "The best revenge is living well." It takes strength to walk away and you are the better person for doing so. There is no harm in revenge fantasies so long as you don't act upon them. You can heal your pride without avenging a situation. My opinion is that you are wise to walk away, no matter the reason for doing so. Don't do anything that would make you feel like a lesser person in the end.
@tiina05 (2317)
• Philippines
20 Sep 11
hello,
If I know that I am wrong I usually walk out and then realize that I was really wrong that I must change it. But when I know that I am right I stand my dignity and tell them what I am really fighting for. This is the time that when they dont listen to me I cut all the connections to them because I know they will realize soon that they are wrong and I was the one who is right? it is really depends on the situation for me.
@huilichan8 (1378)
• Singapore
20 Sep 11
It depends on the severity of the matter. If it is something trivial, I will just let the matter rest. However, if it concerns my reputation, I will probably stand up and defend myself.
@sheetal2900 (336)
• India
20 Sep 11
listen if we are right we should not leave we should stand and fight for it. Which i do and i think you too should stand and fight against your weakness