Friends are hard to find these days?.

Hi sj That's why I am still in contact with my school friends and college friends. About college friends I am still regularly meeting them. And I meet my school friends too but rarely. I think those old friends are better than finding the new one. Yes it is hard to find new friends .. But I guess I am lucky in this case. Don't worry sj.. You having good friends here on mylot.. including me. You can share any problem and I am sure you will get the best help.

I agree true friends are hard to find. But to be honest even as I was still at school I never had those real, true friends. Even at that time I did not call everyone my best friend or closest friend. Perhaps I had already at that time a different view on how a close, true friend should be? I think this is what it is all about. I know I am a great friend, you can trust me and I will always keep my promise. But the thing is nobody else would every do the same to me. I meet enough people who say they have so many friends but if I ask further one they are surely not what I would call a true friend. So I don't think a true friend is hard to find these days, it always been like that, it just shows more if you get older. If you get older you deal with other problems as you do as a little kid, you have other expections about who or what a friend should be. As a little kid you call everyone your friend even if you only played with that other kid for 1 hour. So.. I changed. I am not looking for a true friend anymore. I am able to live alone and make myself happy and I believe in my own power and possibilities. I know people and with some it's great talking, with others I go to the cinema, there are people I email every day, I know a lot about them and they about me but we never met eachother in real life. All these different people together make that 1 big true friend. That is fine with me and it's also safe. You will never loose them all at the same time. If I help out others I only do this if they are spontanous and helping me out too. I don't feel the need anymore to prove myself, I don't expect a thank you or so ever anymore. This makes life way easier and I don't have that stress of missing a good friend anymore. So my advice for you: only help out others if they do the same for you, stop looking for that great, good friend. A stranger can brighten up your life also. Find different people to do different things with but above all: love and accept yourself the way you are. If you do that and believe in yourself you will seldom feel lonely anymore.

Yes people these days tend to be a lot more busier and not taking the time to really be true friends, at least this is what I have seen and been experiencing. Sometimes we too can limit ourselves towards our friends, so it is best to also keep in mind that friendships are two sided and not only expect them to reach out. I know you are buys with the wife, children and work so it is sort of hard for now to be able for you to go out and socialize like you did when you did not have many responsibilities. Cheers my friend and hoping that you get some good true friends. Remember like everything in life sometimes it happens when we least expect it.

The older you get ,the harder is to find good friends.The friends that you make as a child,or in your school years are the ones for life.If after that ,in your adult life ,you manage to make some good,lasting real friends, you are lucky.I was lucky enough to make a few rel good friends,since I came to Canada.I try to keep in touch with my school friends,now on Facebook,before by regular mail.Now people have such busy lives that they rarely find time for friendships,and I think that is a very big loss.

I do agree that good friends are hard to find. I guess we have to look in the right places for sincere, honest and true friends. People aren't as kind and caring as they use to be. More and more people are concerned with there own lives than they are with others. I do have friends who are genuine and I'm thankful for that.We all are busy and have our own lives but they are there for me when I need them. I hope that you are able to reach and find the type of friends you need.

True friends are now rarer than diamond.Many fake friends come when you are at the top,but when you are falling many will go away.And those who remained are the only ones who are sincere.Expect those who will remain can be counted using your one hand.

you can still find friends, but you will hardly know if they are being true to you or just playing you around. I have been with many friends, and somehow I already memorized or already sense who are true to me and those who are not. I am lucky to find friends online, they are mostly the person I get close too and have unusual bond. I have been meeting different friends in the past. Most of them just use me, most of them were my closefriends that change their attitude at presents because they are already grown-ups. Some of them were bad before and now they have learned so many things in life, they are already matured and they had help me in little ways somehow. Yes i believe it is hard to find friends, however that is not an excuse for you to be a good friend to your friends and future friends.

You are right, true friends are hard to find. But I'm lucky to have a good friend like my bestfriend. We've been friends for almost 15 years now. We have ups and downs, sometimes we quarrel but that's part of friendship.

Friendship is need based these days.Also with so many online activities that requires the least amount of commitment people opt for such relationships.

True friends are very-very hard to find these days! The reason is the fact that due to hard times man has become selfish and with more of the survival instinct. That's why actual so-called friends offers help only to those from which they can receive back something. This is not real friendship. True friends offer help when it is needed and without any other condition or interest.

yes you are right now a days peoples become more selfish and feel jealous for lots of things,but my most of the school friends are still my best friends but most of my college friends are selfish,and that is why i hate college they are selfish and coward...!

Yes it is hard to find god friends in this these..It is true that some are too selfish,and they just want others help,but if you are needed help n one helps you...don't like such attitudes..maybe you can find your best friend but not easy to trust every thing..

I feel the same way as you before, when I was still hanging out with the people whom I thought are my real friends. But now, I decided to just hold on to my long & old time best friends than to find another best friend which is very hard. I got 3 best friends. But since we we're in different class, I decided to make new friends with another people, I found 4. (By the way, my 3 best friends are still helping me even if we're not in the same class.) The newly friend I made we're fine for me. We get along well. But after I transferred to a different school, they forgot about me. But, my 3 old best friends remain the same. Hope you can also find some friends who are for real and will always be there for you. :)

hi...yes its true and i can relate that coz its happened also in mine,its so sad that you care for them but they don't...its my first time,i find friend that made me so sad,maybe she don't like me to be her friend.

To me, I still have my school friends and I am glad they are the same. they still help me when I'm in problem and vice versa. But what you have said is absolutely true. people these days are so selfish and all they think about is getting better themselves and money. That's all there is to it now days. it's just so sad.

hi, i have a selective few and not a long list and I am very happy with all of them. its hard to find true persons these days as they tend to be more selfish as mentioned by you. Keep doing good things to others and you will get the best in return..

Hello sjvj I am fanta and fanta is not selfish only funny and I care to all mylotters hahah....just joking but I care to my all friends and family members. You are right no most of the friends are selfish and good and innocent friend is not in the world. Now everyone is busy in their life they have no time to share the time with their friends but why you feel this you have lots of friends in mylot like me ahah..

yes it really is hard to find some good friends now a days and keeping the old ones is the best thing that we can do. people you may have known now might just be befriending you because of their selfish wants of having something but as old friends whom you've known for the longest time may have genuine friendship so always keep in touch with them but if you feel like lonely like no ones around? you can always hangout in mylot there are sure good people here

Firends should be someone who has the same common idear with you and will support you forever. We don't need to have as many as friends in our life and sure we will not. But only few truly friends in our life is enough. I have two friends in my life so far. Even we don't contact with each other very often. But once we hit some problems and need each other, we are willing to do anything for each other. The feeling about the true friendship is amazing. I like it. Relax and enjoy your life. Have a good night, dude! ^_^

I, too, agree that good friends are hard to find. I am the type of friend that will do anything for my friends to help them out and be there for them. Unfortunately that quality can bite you in the butt as that tends to attract the type of people who like to take advantage of it and leaves you empty. I have found that my true friends are my family. My oldest sister and my husband I consider to be those I confide in and talk about everything with. They are always there for me through thick and thin. Once you develop those true friendships hold onto them and don't take advantage of them for it's truly precious. I have some close friends from high school but we live so far away so we rarely see each other. There are a lot of selfish people out there...and honestly, lets face it, we are all selfish wroth one thing or another, but just remember there are also just as many kind souls out there too. Hang in there, I know it's tough when you feel like you don't have many friends! I will be your friend! :)