Are People Who Are Judgemental Happy In Their Own Skin and Life?

I really don't know why people are the way they are. Everyone is judgmental to a point. Kind if like comparing them to yourself. Like if someone you work with doesn't carry their load and it falls back on you because you work with them. You could be working twice as hard as the other person but you get blamed for whatever is wrong. That would tick me off big time.

When you criticize people for acting a certain way or saying certain things, aren't you being judgemental yourself? I'm not saying it's just you...we all do it. I've begun a few discussions accusing people of this or that, usually actions or behaviour that gets under my skin, but then I have realised that I am being just as bad. Maybe it comes back to the old adage - "If you cannot say anything nice then don't say anything at all."

Sometimes I think you are spot on, with people who are very judgemental being unhappy with their lives. To a certain extent we are all judgemental I guess. This issue is a complex one with a lot of physchology in it. Some peole are brought up in ways that will almost certainly encourage extreme sensitity, and unless they look at their own personality, they are unlik;ey to change. I try not to make any racist comments, as I am not racist, but on the odd occasion people have hinted that I wrote a racist type comment. It is very hard to not offend some people, despite my best intentions.

HI Tina, In my experience, people who are judgemental are rarely happy, but alway have some criticism of other people or events. It stands to reason really.. How can one be happy if their minds are focused on criticism. Criticism is very negative. Some do it because they feel that can do better, but even if they can, they would be far happier if they gave others the space to learn as they once had to. I amd a Zen practitioner and pracice daily meditation and one thing that this meditation has taught me is that as souls, we have our trials and lessons to learn. The most powerful lesson is forgiveness, but it is also the hardest. To forgive those who judge and criticize is difficult, as we want them to stop doing this. I have also learned that we have to find our own ability for compassion as it is not something that can be taught. As a teenager I can't say that I had much compassion. I wasn't cruel or anything, but only interested in my own little world. Then when I started meditation, I developed compassion and feeling for the plight of others - no matter who they were or where they came from. I've got to be hones and say that to feel in such a way came as a surprise to me. I had empathy and had never experienced it before. Nobody taught me to be that way, because it was already within me but hidden away. I discovered that if I could support others in trouble, the rewards of giving were a gift to me. To give is to receive... This I discovered is so very ture. _Derek

People who are judgemental are afraid of themselves. I think people who are judgemental are lacking in these areas themselves. If a person is talking in a way that is not appropriate I move away from this person. Not impressed and not wasting my time. Judgemental or cutting to the good stuff?

My son just started kindergarten this fall. And their class is a bit multicultural. There are whites, asians, blacks, hispanics, etc in the class. Yet when I see them, specially when I go to pick up my son, I see that the the kids can see past the color of their skins. They all get along. They share things, they play, and they even hold hands together when they are walking. Maybe everybody should go back to kindergarten?! There is something so pure and innocent at that young age, that it is great to see that there is no judgement, yet.

I don't think judgemental people are happy at all. I think they think that they can gain something they do not have in their lives, by attempting to take it away from others, bringing others down to their level, instead of bringing themselves up to the level of everyone else. If they were happy in their own lives, they would not have time to be judgemental of others.

Totally agree! I also work in an enviroment where there is people of different race and background....sometimes others are very judgemental...and say things they shouldn't. So I know what you mean!

Naw, I think judgmental people are mostly unhappy and insecure....

Hi Tina, I totally agree with you on that! Color is only skin deep and if people would just look at a person for who they are rather than what they look like the world would be a much better place. So many problems in the world seem to be related to race or religion and that is really sad. We should be happy with the diversity of our planet instead of trying to make it as if we are all the same. Thanks for bringing this up!

Hi, KrauseHome. Many people that are judgmental are not happy at all. I don't understand why some people are so hateful. It is like they refuse to accept anything positive that can make others happy. Some people just want to see others just as miserable as they are too. Well that isn't going to happen! I enjoy being around many people from all over the world. To tell you the truth, I have met many wonderful people from foreign countries that have accepted me as an individual. It feels really good to be able to get along with just about anyone, no matter, the color of their skin, gender, culture, creed, heritage, beliefs, norms and status/role into society. People judge me all of the time. They even try to get into my business by coming by my house just to speak to me. When I really know the REAL reason why they came, is just to check to see if I still living in the same location that I am at now. Well, I am still here. The only way that I move from out of this mobile home, is if God allows my family and I to vacate elsewhere, until then, their speculating into my life needs to stop! I don't understand why some people are so judgmental. Only God can judge us one by one, not people on people. Honestly, KrauseHome, I love white people. I lived in a neighborhood that had many white people that lived where I was living too. My second best friend was a white girl. She was the most nicest female that I have ever met, that was of a different race than I was. We got along so well. She made me many beautiful crafts that I could use to take home with me. She was very creative and intellectual. She was very nice, mature and respectable to me. We used to walk from our classes together. I felt really sad after she left. As the years went by, I was mistreated by people that was of the same race that I was, or at least was. I am not fully African American as the people that hated on me were. I was teased by African American people and what made it so bad sometimes they even had white people laughing at me too! I don't mean to sound mean, but that is what they did to make me feel like I didn't belong. I have been through so much of prejudice and mainly it was by African Americans. It is so sad that people can be so hateful to a person that they don't even know or have never started one simple conversation with. Everyday, I wish that the world was a better place for everyone. I dislike seeing people discriminate against others because they know that they would not like the same thing done to them either! I don't understand why people may do the nasty things that they do to others. I do know that, God is watching them and someday if they don't repent, they will suffer terribly.

I am sorry to say that you might come in contact with people like this no matter what job you are at. There is no basic difference between people of any color, except how they are raised. Some people are raised to feel superior to others, and some people aren't happy with themselves and they transfer it to others.

I am not a racist and i hate it when some people are being discriminatory especially when it comes to the color of the skin. I think those people making judgments are actually insecure and not happy with what they have.

We should consider that we cannot please everyone. There are people who are judgmental because they are insecure. You don't have problem, it is there problem. Let them have cruelties in their minds at least you are not the same with them. Judgmental people are never get contended on what they have. They need to look good always because they don't want that people could have a comment on them. They loved to judged and condemned yet they don't want it to happen in their own selves. It may sounds like unfair to you being judged by other people who don't even know you, yet you need to understand that we can never please everyone. It may be irritating yet they are used to it and we just need to understand it.

I do not know if it is genetic or environmental. I tend to think it is environmental. They are repeating comments and behaviors that they grew up around. You have to try hard to make the choice to be different from your family. Lucky for us people do this occasionally.

I am sorry for how people behave. I am in my own country and from my extremely limited experience[mine is confined to my interaction with my son's friends and these people are very highly qualified], I always find a camraderie that transcends barriers of race or religion. You are talking of interracial interactions. WIthin our country there are many resentments harbouring on account of upper caste and lower caste and superiority and condescensions along with it. In our region, there is a marked animosity towards this so called upper caste because some hundred years ago the lower caste people were looked down upon. It is all a bygone story but peole just indulge in this anti-"so and so" just for the sake of it. People become judgemental within families. What do we do about it? WHen it hits our ears , we try to interact less.We can do nothing other than this. WHere it cannot be avoided, it is really a problem. Judging needs to stop and people do need to let things go but unfortunately, people's reaction is always based on some justified and unjustified prejudices arising out of their personal interactions and experiences.

I think some of them are. Some people are judgemental because they are wise to people and know they could be better than what they present themselves to be. Other people are judgemental just because they like to make others feel bad or they just do not like to accept people for who they are.

I tend to believe that it is has to do with how they were raised and or their surroundings. This may not be true for everyone but I noticed the few that I have personally encountered have are all the same in the family. I can understand people having their own opinions and or being judgmental, but what I do not get is why hurt others in the process.

I think people who are judgmental are not that happy with themselves. They tend to judge people, because they themselves , have flaws that they do not want to accept. So, they bring on to people their frustrations, and gets happy judging a person negatively. Sad, but it's true.

I think there are differences in cultures and where people live and grow up. There should be or we would all be the same and that would just be boring. Sure, sometimes those differences cause conflict but that does not mean we have to fight over it. I have a neighbour which is loud and it use to annoy me very much. They speak Spanish and make a whole lot of noise in their conversations. That is not the way I was raised nor behave but then I thought, "have they harmed me?" The answer was no. Now I have accepted their ways and am not bothered by their differences, after all, as the topic says I can be happy if I let others be themselves and still maintain the way I want to be. I do not hear too much up here about the colour thing where I live in Canada though. Maybe that has something to do with the winter where everyone regardless of skin tone is white. It is true, honest. :-)