So mad right now!!

My boyfriend is almost 19 and is still treated like a little child. His dad is really controlling and doesn't really let my boyfriend do much of anything. He thinks that my boyfriend should just be working all the time. As long as my boyfriend lives in that house, he has to do what his dad tells him and there's not really anything that we can do about it unfortunately.

He's tried telling him how he feels..his dad could care less. The dad has some major issues in my opinion, he has to control every single situation or else he gets angry. I've never seen someone as miserable and unhappy as his dad. Nothing is ever good enough and he constantly b*tches about every little thing. I already know it's straining their relationship because my boyfriend can't stand his dad

Can't he just tell his dad how he feels? If I were him, I would feel suffocated! How does he manage to listen to his dad all the time? Doesn't he feel any grudges? I think he shld let his dad know how he feels. Otherwise, I think it's going to cause their relationship to strain in the long run.

It's funny you mention his dad letting him be a man. My boyfriend is almost 19 and his dad is constantly talking to him about being a man and growing up. What I think is funny is the fact that the dad wants him to be a man so bad yet he treats my boyfriend as though he were a child. I know my boyfriend desperately wants to get away from this and I think this is the reason why he wants to go into the military so bad..to be free of his dad. The dad is always really nice to me but I always get the feeling that he'd rather my boyfriend working than spending time with me. I've told his mom this (we have a really good relationship) and she always promises me that his dad loves me and loves me and my boyfriend together. I think that because the dad is a workaholic, he wants my boyfriend to be the same way. I think it's ok to work and make money, but when it interferes with spending time with people then I don't think it's right. Life isn't all about working 24/7, you want to be able to enjoy your loved ones. His dad definitely doesn't see it this way and thinks work is the meaning to life. My boyfriend has tried to speak up for himself but it gets him nowhere. His dad is stubborn and doesn't think anything he does is wrong, which is a problem because he doesn't see the things that he's doing wrong. It's a very frustrating situation and I can't wait for my boyfriend to be able to get away from his evil dad

Hang in there! I'm sure that this working 2 jobs means that your bf would soon be able to afford to get a place of his own. Which means he doesn't have to listen to his dad anymore. Which means more time for you.

I don't think it has to do with making my boyfriend more responsible. Before this second job he worked 5 nights a week at a restaurant. His dad is a major workaholic and sometimes will work almost 20 hours a day. So for him, life is all about making money and working 24/7 and he thinks everyone should be doing that. My boyfriend hates working 2 jobs but he has no choice but to listen to his dad since he still lives at home. Working all the time means nothing to me if you can't ever spend time with the one you love. I'd rather live a comfortable lifestyle and be able to enjoy time with the guy I love than have all this money but no time to ever do anything but work. But what can you do? Some people (like my dad's boyfriend), are just plain messed up in the head lol

Sometimes I truly feel that the dad just doesn't want us together. He hardly ever lets him do things with me and whenever I'm at his house and the dad's there, he has my boyfriend do chore after chore and I have to sit there and watch him do work. The dad is always nice and friendly to me and I do my best to fake my niceness to him lol. His mom swears that the dad loves me and my boyfriend together and thinks I'm really good for him. But sometimes, I just don't know. I do know that the mom loves me and thinks my boyfriend has really changed for the better since being with me and she always talks about us getting married. It makes me happy knowing that she likes me so much but I could really care less about what the dad thinks. I honestly have no respect for him at all and I think that what he does to my boyfriend is just another reason to stay with my boyfriend. Sort of as a way of saying "haha this is one thing in your life that you can't control and no matter how cruel you are, it can't break us up".

He's almost 19. It's just so expensive where we live that it's hard to make enough to pay for rent and all the other bills he's already paying. He's going into the Coast Guard soon so maybe then he'll finally move out on his own and get away from his horrible dad.

That's what I think too. And his dad is always telling my boyfriend how he wants him to grow up and be a man. Well, it's kind of hard to be a man when you have a dad that tells you what you can and can't do. To me it's just crazy. I live with my parents still but they're pretty easy going about things and let me do the stuff I want because I'm 19 and I'm old enough to decide for myself. My boyfriend's dad is just a major control freak and isn't happy unless he's in control of everything around him.

his dad should not be controlling what he does then. i mean he can set some ground rules cause of him living there.. like not being out all night and stuff like that but he shouldn't tell him what to do . he is an adult and he can make his own decisions.

My boyfriend knows how much his dad bothers me. But really, there's nothing neither of us can do about it. His dad is a major control freak and has serious problems. He always has to control my boyfriend's life and tells him what he can and can't do. I can't stand this man at all and it makes me sick to even be around him. As long as my boyfriend lives in that house, he pretty much has to do whatever his dad tells him.