So I´m worried and bi*chy!!!

Sister I can feel, what you are feeling right now.. Giving samples for tests, or undergoing a scan, waiting for the result in the report is real scary, we think of negetive things only and this causes the stress, come up dear Margarita Have faith on god, you are not going to die.. Thanks for sharing Best of luck. Professor

I can only imagine how stressful this is for you! I would want to know upfront what I may be in for so that I could come up with coping strategies and make appropriate plans such as taking a nice holiday once treatment is over if all goes well...I am praying for the best outcome possible for you marguicha and I hope everything will be well with you again. In the meantime I would suggest engaging in activities you enjoy to try to relax your mind a little if at all possible. I wish you the very best...

Marguicha...I SO understand all of the stress that you are going thru...been there, doing that since my tests began on July 25th..and just two more days to go! Others have said here to keep busy, I can't be any busier from morning 'til night...but somehow these "doubts and fears" that are so fore-front in your mind, just take over all other thoughts. I don't know how you are doing in the sleeping department...but lack of is making me extremely b**tchy! Sometimes I wish that "decision" day was further in the future...then I want to get it over with...just don't understand myself. I, so pray, Marguicha that there are completely POSITIVE results from all your tests...and that you have the strength to get thru this stressful time!

i'M SO SORRY U HAVE THIS TO WORRY & BE BIT*CHY ABOUT. I have never had cancer for have had a few life threating problems. I learned to take one day at the time & be thankful for it. Count your blessings , marg, i know u have alot . U know i wish u the best. jo

Hi marguicha, I think I would prefer to know too, at least I can do some planning or at least engage in some efforts to improve things. On the other hand, no news may be good news. It would be good if you talk to somebody, join a support group, maybe that will help to reduce your stress.

I have gone through a very critical phase in my life but my reliance on Jesus made it so easy and smooth . Miracles happened when we all(whole family) started praying and wholeheartedly depended on Christ . The New Testament gave us inspiration and I firmly started believing that things will improve although medical science said that it was almost a marginal case . I know you are strong and this no advice . I just shared my experiences .

I can't blame you for being worried! I would be too. In fact I am. I have been on temoxefen for almost a month now. I think it might be helping since some of the pain that I had been having since August has gone away and the area that had been hurting was the area where the largest tumor was. I guess I will find out if I'm right on the 7th. I have also been getting acupuncture so I don't know if it is one, the other, or the combination of the two that is helping, but I haven't had to use the binder they gave me when the pain started in a couple of weeks at least. I don't want to have to wait to find out if all this is working, but if the way I feel means anything, I think it is. Have a great week!!!

i think i would also like to know than to wait. so keep yourself busy but not too much that will stress you more. take care.

By waiting to hear and worrying, you are wasting your own time. You know that you are ill, and you know that there may be an unfavorable outcome. You need to get living whilst you can! Spend time with your family, or do a hobby that you enjoy. Maybe even do one of those things you've never quite been brave enough to do. You only live once, so there's no point in wasting this lifetime with worrying!

I think the better way to move from stress is to get busy with your favorite stuffs... what you like to do or whom you love most... just get busy with them and your stress will be over. All the best. take care.

That restlessness is natural. Go with the flow marguicha and wait. Keeping your mind occupied could be one of the ways. How about listening to some soothing music that you like or keeping in touch with your friends.

Hello marguicha! Oh my the waiting and not knowing makes me a very stressed out person. I absolutely loath waiting on just about anything. I have improved in some areas where if I know I can't control certain things that I try and accept and simply wait. It still does not deter me from feeling stress and antsy sometimes though. I do hope all goes well with the test results and that the time awaiting does not stress you any further. There are no words of comfort I can offer as I would be lying if I said I would just wait and see. I too would be so stressed in just the need to know. My prayers are with my friend and really do hope all results come out well.

Not knowing what the future hides for us is always a thing one can worry about. In your case , the results of the tests can give you hope or maybe not. The minimum you can do is to enjoy the now , and try to do what you really want in life , do what is important to you .Almost no one can tell what the future holds for him. Many people make planes for the future , thinking nothing can go wrong , and are not worried most of the time...but some of them get a surprise. I am sure you want to stay alive and enjoy the holidays with the family and remember many happy moments. That is a very important goal in life. So maybe you can focus on this , you can just decide you feel good and happy for the family , invite them more often , buy toys for your grand children , and you will be happy seeing them loving you. I think maybe the boddy will kick the cancer out. The power of thinking and emotions is strong and can effect our reality.

Hi,sorry to hear you ... i hope that thew doctor will not late ding to care your chemo..They should be on time and not to delay , i thought that they do not need schedule for patient because it is emergency..I know and feel that you are not well, and hope you are cure soon...hope and pray to God is the key to have better healing..thank you...

Well part of me would prefer to live in denial forever. But yeah, I'd want to know.... Hopefully you have something and I just haven't gotten to that discussion yet...

What I would do is try to become busy, if you can help others that works best. Even just giving you time talking to people or even reading to them, is an easy way to help. I know that you must not have much energy so you will only be able to give so much. But if you can work with people who are much worse off then you, it sure helps to put your life in perspective. Keep talking to yourself and telling yourself that no one knows what tomorrow will bring, your time will come when it comes, just like the rest of us. And you might look at tapping.com and learn how to tap away emotional stress, I find that this helps even with my constant pain. Blessings.

Hey how do you do? I hope you're feeling better now. You really should do things you love in order to save yourself from stress. Stress cause a lot of illnesses and could probably worsen your current condition too. I am not sure but I think the fear you're dealing with now is "fear of the unknown". Fight it. Gather strength from your love ones. Pray. It might somehow ease the fear you're in right now. Take care my old friend. shadow41

marguicha I hope you get well soon

you will be ok!take care of yourself!