When friends change

Could it be due to menopause? I am just thinking aloud here. I have ever heard that women who are experiencing menopause tend to have a short temper. Or it could really be due to the issue of bedbugs. I think it's gd to leave her alone for a while for the sake of your own (emotional/mental) well-being. Let's see if she gets in touch with you. If your friend treasures her friendship with you, she will get in touch with you if she doesn't hear from you for a while (cld be a few wks).

I can definitely relate with your situation. I have a friend whom I've known for almost 10 years. But recently, I feel that this friend don't want to have a communication with me at all. I'm not sure his reasons though but I leave it that way. I don't want to force myself to someone who don't want me to be friend anymore.

Let her be alone for quite sometime first. Then when she calms down it is best to talk to her about how you feel with the way she is treating you. If she'll take it against you, then, I believe it is high time for you to move on and get a new friend. what I am trying ot say is that you can not just leave into her life just like that. every relationship needs a closure. Just wait for the perfect timing. It is not necessary to think what she thinks or how she'd react. Go ask her when she is more sober to talk to. Goodluck.

She might be lashing out at you because you are good friends. A lot of times people that are under stress take it out on the people closest to them. Take a little break, she may need space and you might need a break also. I am sure she will still want to be friends but try to be patient with her in the meantime.

Hello! You are right to let her be and give her space. If you are ment to be friends it will all work out but also sometimes people in our lives were only ment to occupy a small portion. And about the bedbugs she needs to move if its infested and di not bring furniture, they should be burned.

It is very sad when that happens, but it is common and it happens to everyone. I have had friends that I was very close to, best friends, and just like that (bam!) they change and you don't even know them anymore. It could be something that happens to them, someone they meet, etc etc, but something makes them see the world around them differently, and they start to act different. Sometimes your friendship can survive, and sometimes it is just over. It's happened to me, and I still miss those friends.

I think I would give her her space a little because of what I read, she is probably stress that her apt owner don't seem to be doing great job about the bugs. She probably cannot sleep because of the bugs. Since when has she beginning to act rude? Has she moved to or did the bugs problem happen the same time she was beginning to be rude? Maybe that says it all she is stress of the irresponsible apt owner. Or maybe although the bug things are a problem to her, it might not be that. She probably is doing or facing something else that she is getting stressful and rudeness. Other thing is, talk to her, ask her if she is mad about something that she is rude. Maybe ask her if there is something to her. Good luck and hopefully that friend will start hangout with each other again like before.

Sad to say I think your friend desperately needs help. I don't know what kind but she sounds to be in dire straits with those blasted bed bugs. Does she have contents insurance that will cover the cost of replacing things in the event that all her stuff must be destroyed? She sounds to be in a terrible state...exhausted, worried and probably depressed. Can she come and stay with you for a while? Does she have family or other friends she can visit. Is there some sort of emergency housing she can get under the circumstances? There must be something that can be done.

You're probably wise to take a breather in this relationship. If, after some time apart, things improve, great! If not, then maybe it's run its course. Good luck.

Maybe your friend in undergoing something but is not ready to share yet. Just let her be for the mean time. I think she will be the one to reach out for you if she's ready to talk about it. If you still feel a little uncomfortable about how she is acting maybe you can confront her about it too. You have been friends for 14 years and that is really long and I am sure she knows that you are a friend who is willing to listen and be with her in tough times. Godbless your friendship.

Hi marie: All I can say is that, there must be a reason. People are always changing, sometimes like this is just negative. I guess something might be happening in her life that has affected as a person really bad. Give her an space and when you find the perfect moment ask her to be honest and ask her what makes her act this way pointing the things that have changed on her because, probably she would deny it. ALVARO

Do you know how to contact her son? As I read everything said here, the first thought was that stress and sleep deprivation together can cause this. How would you feel if you thought your house was infested with bedbugs, you couldn't sleep, and you couldn't think of any way out of your situation? Becasue she's so tired, she probably can't think logically about what to do or how to find a new place, etc. Maybe she can't afford a new place to live on the income she has. She can make anyone start snapping at people. Sleep deprivation due to pain, I believe, is partly what caused one of our best friends to shoot himself, because it made it impossible to think straight anymore. The other thing that occurs to me is that she might have had a small stroke, a TIA (transient ischemic attack), that is the precursor to a bigger stroke to come. If she were my mother, I'd see that she got to a physician as soon as possible to be checked out for the personality change, which is often one result of a stroke. But if her son is not around her enough to be aware of the change, he probably will do nothing and just think his mother is mad at him if she treats him the same way. If I could, I'd talk to the son and see if he is aware of the change. Each of you may be getting the same treatment and be thinking you're the only one getting this snappiness from her. It could also be a side effect of a new medication she is taking. In either case, her son should be aware of all this because she may need medical help.

People change... I had a friend of nearly 20 years, it ended in a rather rough way. sometimes I miss my friendship but not enough to reach out and try to bridge the differences. My friend started to become rude and disrespectful, saying hurtful things and it was in the end his cruelity to my child that did it in. A joke is only funny if everyone is laughing... teasing small children into tears is never a good sign. so thus the friendship ended. Perhaps simply saying "you know I found your last comment rude and hurtful" might open the door to discussion. if she is short temptered with you, it might be that she is hurt by something you have said... perhaps to start the conversation simply ask "is there anything I have said or done to have upset you? I noticed that sometimes you're a bit sharp with me" Just an idea...

Well,people change ,even she/he your close best friend still change..And it depends how they change.. And i do not know your friend why she act different towards you..and maybe there is something wrong.. You can leave her and just do not contact it,and let your friend contact you and just wait and what is the result... and it is up to you..

Hi marie, one thing I have noticed in life is that, however much a person may be stressed out and react differently ,the basic nature doesn't change. There may be some small changes depending on the prevalent circumstances, but , they revert back to their own self once that blows over... I feel that it is better to leave your friend alone for a few days or weeks and see if she makes the first move , and definitely try to explore and make new friends.All the best

Sounds as if something is bothering her. You can ask her about that but can not force her to tell you. A real friend will always be a friend no matter if you meet daily. You can write/tell her you will be there if needed. Perhaps it will take some time or longer till you have contact again or close contact. During life you will have so many experiences and it's normal you learn from it and it will change you. Sometimes the change is temperary other times it's final. If 2 people don't change into the same direction or are not able anymore to understand each other friendship is over. That doesn't mean you wasted all those years of your life. Like you said you both learned a lot from each other. So the best thing you can do (for both of you) is not just sitting there and grieve or be angry or asking yourself how or what or why but by go living your life. Tell your friend you will be there if needed and wanted and go on with yours! You will see you will meet so many people, some will stay for a day, others for some weeks or months but they are all worth to meet, to share with and to learn from.

My advice? Give her some time. Me and my bff get into this type of situations sometimes. She might be the best friend I could ever ask for but there are times personal problems in my life get to me and I become extremely rude, uncaring and evade her for days. My bff does this too when she's soo stressed out she just needs some space. Giving each other some time does work because eventually you'll miss each other and speak again as if you had never stopped talking to each other. Maybe it's because me and my bff are quite bipolar and understand the mutual feelings but it all depends on the friendship.