Is your Mother-in-law a Monster, a Friend or just Indifferent?

MIL are not Monsters they are just Mothers who assume they are loosing control over their son, her son overspending on another woman and not her, her son dont have enough sleep taking care of another woman, her son works hard for another woman, her son is not fed with good food, her son has lost weight, her son is sick, her son is this, her son is that ~ she is overly Mother for her son There is no such thing if you are good your MIL will be good it is just stupid 'cenderella tales' life is happily ever after thing .... My mother is a MIL and she cant behave badly towards our SIL because me and my sister always scold our mother .. we dont let our SIL work in our house, we ask her to watch TV, we buy for her sleeveless cloths, shorts and sexy inner garments ... my mother cant say anything about my SIL we will shut her up ~ my SIL is never admits she was tired, she has to take care of 4 rowdys at home, she must be given holidays when she comes to our house .... My MIL in different, she says i must dress in this and i must, my SIL laws and BIL are same with their mother .... and FYI i dont dress sexy, or wear shorts or sleeveless in front of their family .. In house i am in track bottom and t-shirt and the heat will bake me, i am totally covered... (a simple eg : everyone was busy welcoming their sister who came home for holidays, i know they wanted to fry noodle so i went to kitchen started cutting all the necessary, then as it was getting late, i started to cook ... ther came one SIL, what are you doing, dont do like this, oh! you spoilt everything, dont put this~ in the end she put it also~ well i am 40 and my office mates enjoy my cooking, my husband loves my cooking, i even cook for my temples ~ i am not stupid, i know do's and don'ts ~ after cooking she asked her sister who just came home on how to make it taste like the shops noodle ~ if only i could use 4-letter word then) (another eg : I dont take MILK, i hate the smell and taste .... they will push me to drink it with questions of why ?? why not?? and there were times they even gave it to me in pretex and i can smell it i am sensative of milky smell, i dont eat some chocolate or ice cream when the smell is strong ... ~ at the same time one of the sisters dont take milk, and they can accept her by saying Oh! from young she does not take milk ~ what is the different between me and her ?? ~ Nowadays i tell them i am like Sister A, i dont like Milk ... they show me the sourplum face ) Conclusion : - It depends on the FAMILY ~ if ther family is brought up to think they are the Best in the WWW then no matter what you do they can never accept the DIL and always find faults - It depends on the FAMILY ~ if the people of next generation (children) can control the parents of how to behave all the SIL and BIL can be accepted as their own brothers and sisters Hope you understand what i am trying to say dear ...

Hi merenwen315! I considered my mother-in-law my best friend. In fact she was the one who told me to consider her a friend instead of a mother-in-law. She said that sometimes "mother-in-law" has a negative connotation that goes with it. And I agree because I often heard a lot of negative comments that mother-in-laws are domineering and intervenes with their children's marriage. So, I can't help but think that way at time as well. I was really touched when she said this. She wanted me to feel at home with her company. But it was not hard because once I got to know her we were talking non-stop! When I was pregnant and my husband was in another country for a training, I lived with my in-laws and I enjoyed every moment of it. My father-in-law is full of sense of humor and my mother-in-law is very talkative. We can talk about anything and everything under the sun! Sometimes we were just surprised that it's almost lunch time and we haven't prepared any food yet! Now that we live in a far city I miss our conversation very much. What I like about her is that she never intervenes on how we brought up our kids. She only gives advice when we ask for it. She respects our decisions and always ready to support whatever decisions we make. And lastly, she shares with me her recipes. She is a great cook and she gives me some ideas how to make a dish tasty and how to substitute ingredients so that I will be able to save. My mother-in-law is like a mother to me. She is also my best friend who gave me wisdom not only in our marriage but in life as well.

My Mother-in-law is not an angry person. She is very concern with her family. But for me, she was a very annoying because she always interfere on my decisions which I took for my children. I really hated she and I'm very lazy to talk to her.

There is a common opinion that the parents-in-law, especially mothers-in-law, often create problems. I don't think that this relationship should have negative connotation. I had hard moments with my mother-in-law but it was only because of her special character.

I get along with my mother in law. We aren't close but we don't have any problems. Which I think is a good thing because I know how some couples have a hard time with in laws. My husband isn't really close to his mother and so I'm not that close to her. I think if he were closer to her then our relation perhaps would be closer. But we get a long fine when we are together.

I never meet my mother in law because she already left before i knew my husband. Many of people said she is a very nice person. She always help others and she have lot of friends. My husband also tell to me her mom's character.My husband said when he was a kid,he is asking for something to her,she become rugged but in the end of the day my mother in law will buy what he want.

i have a good relationship with my mother in law. i think the fact that we live separately and far from each other helps it a lot. i am an independent person and i don't like it when a third party would try to intervene with my decisions. as i have observed, my mother in law has the inclination sometimes to intervene with the decisions made by the wife of his sons. by living afar, we have the chance to miss each other and enjoy bonding when we get to visit them. she is very concern with me and the kids, especially that his son is away from us for work. she would ask how we are doing from time to time. so far for now, the relationship i have with her is doing great, and i love her dearly.

My mother-in-law is friend who lives in Mexico, my girlfriend is in Mexico too living with her mother and I'm over here look for a job once I get one I will save part of the money I make and use it to pay for her to move to a place closer to California so when I get a car I can visit her.

Well I am not married yet so I don't have any in-laws but I do really hope I have a real nice bond with them. Because after all, they will be my future husband's parents and would like to have a healthy relationship with them. And I also hope my husband has a real good relationship with my parents. Yes I do also believe if one is a good person, then you can make things work. But I also believe there are some people out there that no matter how much you try to be nice and good, they will always see bad in you. NO matter how good of a person you are, they will always resent you, it's true.

my mother in law is not so bad she did not exactly approve of mine and her sons relationship at first because there is such an age difference between her son and i (13 years age difference) and she is a yankee and i am a redneck (nothing against yall yankees im in love with one) we just see things differently is all but she is slowly comming around to me when she sees how well i treat his kids from his first marriage and how well i treat her son hopefully one day she and i can be great friends

I agree with you, if your a person with a good character, it does all the connection to other people. In-laws treatment to their new family member depends on how a person acts and responses to his/her in-laws.