how much is too much in disciplining a child?

Philippines
September 21, 2011 9:41pm CST
i asked that question to myself last night when a relative of my husband sent her 13 year old daughter into our house.she want the kid to stay with me for a while because she stopped sending her to school, her daughter, she said is into a gang and already have a boyfriend. and the most sad thing is that her husband bald the kid, he cut her hair so it will stop seeing her group of friends and boyfriend. the kid is even hurt physically by her husband for discipline. the kid was crying last night, she wants to go home but her mother said she can't. she must stay far away from her friends. i know i don't have the right to judge them, but i have a doubt on the kind of discipline they are doing, i think it is too much for the child's young mind to go through. i wonder what would be the effect of it to the child psychologically? is the kind of discipline they are doing could do good or make the child's attitude worst? how about you, how did your parents discipline you? how did it affect you? please share your ideas.
6 responses
gk655321
@gk655321 (236)
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22 Sep 11
That does seem like they're going too far. I think I'd rather show the effects of gangs and show her how it will only lead to more trouble and if she stays away from that kind of stuff show her how much better her life could be.
churchill1980
@churchill1980 (764)
• Philippines
22 Sep 11
i agree to both of you. reason why i have a big doubt on the correctness of their actions. i don't see why a child should be disciplines that way, she's still too young and needs guidance. she may have trudge the wrong way, but i think getting her bald and hurting her physically and emotionally will lead her to the right path. how i wish the parents will realize it.
aerous
@aerous (13434)
• Philippines
15 Oct 11
I think they do with kids is not a disciplinary action but make the kids most anger to them... They need to ask the kids to what reason why she is acting like that so that they may know what steps they can do settle the problem... Parents should always understanding to their kids...It's hard to be a parents but parents always be patient
bingskee
@bingskee (5234)
• Philippines
22 Sep 11
when the child gets a broken bone, or a bruise on the face, when he cannot even walk from the spanks he got. these are only a few, and this is too much.
inertia4
@inertia4 (27960)
• United States
28 Sep 11
Well, what about this analogy, what if that harsh discipline is what caused this child to join a gang and hang out with those kind of people in the first place. Just a thought. But, if she is a rebellious teenager, and she decided this on her own, I agree that some kind of punishment is needed, but not hitting nor cutting her hair. I think if there is open communication between child and parent, then the child would never be afraid to ever come to the parent for advice. I think you're on the right track, I also believe that is not the right kind of discipline.
deer04
@deer04 (96)
• Philippines
25 Sep 11
All you have to do is pay attention for her and gave her a comfort and love. the 13 years girl is lucky because she have you right now.. teach her well on the right thing that she need to know and understand.
dancingtear
@dancingtear (14)
• China
28 Sep 11
I don't agree with that couple .My parents always treat me as both child and friend .So I treat my baby in the same way .He always says that he loves me and I'm his best friend .So he discuss with me about his worries and share joy with me .