Hair coarse and stiff

So my mom must have hair like you and she loves the shampoo and conditioner that says for women of color ( not be discrimantory). It seems to work really good for her and makes her hair smoother and not so coarse. They also have oil and she used oil in her hair everyday and its by paul mitchell kind of expensive but worth it too. She puts in a couple drops everyday in her hand and runs it through her hair. She also doesnt wash her hair everyday but maybe every two or three days depeneding on how oily it is of course. SO i would try some of these things and i hope it works well for you and goodluck.

yup .. correct, use shampoo .. but with a separate conditioner ..! try the tips that I always do, you try to mask your hair first, but make your own mask! easy, take the bananas, mash, then apply evenly throughout your hair, from root to tip of the hair, massage a bit, ....., let stand 10 minutes before you shampoo, use conditioner after it properly! good luck

Firstly, you should not use any products such as mousse, hair gel, or hair spray on your hair. Those usually cause your hair to stiffen, and not be soft and limp. Secondly, I would recommend using a shampoo and conditioner specifically for making your hair smooth and shiny. This kind will make your hair not only smooth and shiny, but soft and limp as well. Thirdly, applying a leave in conditioner to your hair after your hair is towel dried will make it soft. I prefer "aussie: hair insurance" brand. It works really well for me. I hope this helped!