How do you control your anger?
By kendedes2011
@kendedes2011 (2712)
Indonesia
September 22, 2011 12:35am CST
The passionate anger that is detrimental to your own and if not immediately "thrown" will result in pent-up stress that impact on physical illness. Reduce your emotions in the following ways:
1. Write down your mistakes.
The diary helps you find the root cause of aggressiveness and anger. Sometimes your anger comes from past events, not what you're facing now. Jot down your thoughts from feelings can help you find the subject matter.
2. Do not respond personally
Place yourself in the position of others when you view the world from the perspective of someone who makes you angry, your cynicism on them will be reduced, in addition to joining the social world can relieve temper and learn to empathize with others.
3. Loosen up to 10%
If you do not give the slightest tolerance to a fault, you are potentially stressful. Give leeway of 10% of the target. If something bad happens outside of your target, plan new strategies.
4. Loosen the body.
Spend 10 to 15 minutes to loosen your nerves. Sit in a comfortable chair in a quiet room, close your eyes and inhale deeply. Tighten and then relax the muscles in your legs. Do it on a sore body part, other than that routinely practice "yoga"
How about you ....?
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14 responses
@Zer0Stats (1147)
• India
22 Sep 11
Anger is rare for me.Even though,by recognizing what makes me angry,as much as possible,I avoid allowing myself to be put in that situation and/or circumstance.
@surekharathi (14146)
• India
22 Sep 11
Friend yesterday I read a discussion do you any remedy for angry person and today you asking how can control our anger. When I feel I am angry and I annoyed loudly I told to my husband please give me hug then I will clam and really my anger is keep quite when my husband gives me hug.
@jpso138 (7851)
• Philippines
22 Sep 11
Very nice suggestions. I think those are all effective depending on the person. In my case, I usually just take a deep breath and let it go. Sometimes when it really does not work, I just tell myself to relax.. anger does not solve any problem and it will just lead to more problem or perhaps we may end up hating others or making other hate us. Well, I know it is easier said than that. I use to get angry and usually make a big fuss about it. Somehow, as I go through with life, I realized the value of self control and keeping my anger at a minimum. I do not say that I do not get angry, after all, we are all humans and are affected always by emotions. But as much as possible, I try my best to control and do not let anger ruin my decision.
@TrvlArrngr (4045)
• United States
22 Sep 11
take a cooling off break. Go for a walk, or a long drive, blast your music, sing a long, call a good friend, whatever it takes to get you calm again so you can think it through rationally.
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22 Sep 11
Hi there...
Follow these 3 simple steps:
1. Count to 10 when u are getting upset and everyone knows it...and it really works
2. Do something that makes you exhausted (don't break or punch walls) :)
3. Do deep breathing exercise until U relax a bit.
@Princelierocks (817)
• India
22 Sep 11
Taking control on anger is the biggest challenge for each one of us. Those of us who are high tempered at times tend to make mistake and later feel guilty about their actions they have taken. Anger is a form of hatred and a psychological fell in one's mind to take revenge and hate the person. Well talking about my anger honestly speaking i don't get angry very much. Just at times when the situation is critical or if things go beyond the limits i get angry. My prospective of handling anger when iam very angry is first of all i tend to look things in a normal and a positive way cause that's the first very key of mine to handle anger. Then whatever the situation may be i tend to forget it with a flow of positive thoughts running in my mind. After that i look on to do something interesting that keeps me well acquired with my activities such as play a video game even if it is late at the night i just try to cross my limits to slow down the anger in whatever the situation goes around so this is how i deal with my anger.
@jeannames (303)
• Turkey
22 Sep 11
Before I become a silent.Incident,which angered me to miss my eyes. I relax. Then happy. Then go out. Okay
@gengeni (3308)
• Indonesia
22 Sep 11
Before handling anger, I find what the cause of our anger.
What I get is:
- frustrated
- A sense of great fear because the existence feel attacked or Manipulated
- Felt pressured by a security threat
Then I practiced first by recognizing the anger began to slowly emerge from the second to the thought Azizah. I appreciate this feeling of full concentration.
Way then I get is:
1. closed his eyes for a moment, breathing deeply, trying to concentrate on the breath flow in and out.
2. immediately take the white water conditioners.
3. pray in faith.
4. monologue in the mind to fight the feeling that came with the analysis of logic: I come on to any anger, it is clear this would not solve the problem.
5. If still not successful, I will immediately go for a moment from the situation, and repeat steps 1-4 above.
This only do I have to say.
Hopefully useful.
@najibdina29 (1309)
• Indonesia
22 Sep 11
Usually I compose myself (one with nature) by means of a breath (as close your eyes and body should be relaxed), hold (imagine the air entering through the nose, past the lungs, and CO2 that comes out again from the bloodstream into our noses, then exhale it very slowly. Do go on, so the focus shifted. and with a mind that is calm, we can examine what the real problem and what solution.
@saparidiki64 (594)
• Indonesia
22 Sep 11
My way in the face of anger, first, I think myself the place deserted and tried to calm down. And try to self-correct my mistakes would result from my anger.
Second, if my anger is unstoppable again I tried to write me a sense of irritation into an article. By writing I am free to write me irritated feelings in a book without hurting the people around me. And then I hand over my upset feelings to God in prayer. Due to feelings of anger pray it will be stopped and the problems I was going to be reduced.
@silpatenneti (72)
• India
22 Sep 11
When i get anger i just take a deep breath until i get some realaxation,then i think why i get anger,then i think is there any use if shout on them,then i realize that if i shout problem raises it will not decreased,and more over happies goes on and frustrates us. By realising this i will keep com,but lately i will discuss about that when everything is cool
@ferbjohn69 (1127)
• Philippines
22 Sep 11
I also write how I feel to release my anger.But if that didn't work I go to my room,lock the door,shout my how I feel,and punch the pillows hard.After I do that my anger usually fades away.
@befrindwithme26 (5805)
• Philippines
22 Sep 11
i have an idea how you can control your anger..First you have to slow down if you are angry at someone,don't get bitter easy,
Relax .In my experience, i t was hard to get it through but i pray about it and also give it to God my bad character.. and als willing to change my anger..now i am not very easy t angry but slow..
