Is it necessary to make happy others all the time !!??

Hello my magnifier friend you are right not every time we feel happy and not our mood is good so our parents or relatives should know this.. Why everytime they force us to do any work without our wish.. but dont worry I know you will manage it and feel happy like your magnifier eyes

Hello Ananda, Hope you are doing good. Yes, this is a problematic situation. Believe me, I also have the very same nature. We can't say no -- In fact, this is not a good sign . I have done many mistakes due to this nature of mine. I have suffered a lot due to lack of courage of saying no. Although, I have read and heard many times that one should have courage to say no if he/she wants to get success in life, but all is useless. When the time comes, I am helpless like you...

If it were me, I would think that I shouldn't always make them because of the fact if I am too nice to them, they will have me "under there control" so I would say "no." Not in a mean way but in nice way of saying it. Doing that they might want to get everything from me.

Hello AKP, This happens even with me but i always feel that i cannot make every one happy and always i have to set priorities to whom i should please and to whom not.But surely you should have kept your cousin on priority and should have gone to his place for dinner. I always keep my closed relatives on priority. How about your cousin is he still keeping that big mobile hehehe.

yeah .. its good to make others happy but sometimes we also have to say someone No... because this world is really strange .. there are millions of unhappy in this world .. so you cant think of making them happy. but still you have a good cause .. i really appreciate it ..

No. If you're gonna always make others happy then what about you? Whats gonna happen to you? You will make yourself miserable if you let this continue. That's the same as allowing for someone else to decide what you will do in the future. Lets say for example that in your family on your mom or dad's side either which one, everyone are lawyers. You decide that you want to be a nurse but you know if you do that everyone in your family will be mad at you. You choose to be a lawyer. What do you think is gonna happen? Your not gonna be happy with that career choice and probably won't do as good of a job in it or quit it. You have to live for you. That doesn't mean tell everyone no all the time but it surely doesn't mean tell everyone yes either. You will end up being the go to guy or girl all the time. You are a human being not everyone's push over or door mat.

Hello anand, Your cousin wanted you to be there with them tonight and he knows your nature well and threatening.. not a bad idea either… it is not all a big issue, if he is happy with your visit then why you want to deny the happiness…I don’t think your uncle arrange another party very soon… just go and eat well…. Just forget about other parts as I can’t say ‘no’ to others. These are your family members, not other people.. so enjoy your dinner. Am I late here

Sweetie, you need to start putting your foot down. There is nothing wrong wanting to make everyone happy, but you have a life as well. And everyone around you need to respect your space as well. Now go whip them.

It's okay to say no, once in a while you just want to spend time alone and away from family and/or friends. It's not like you haven't seen them or are selling out, you were at his house the day before he should understand and not make you feel guilty just because you skipped out on dinner today. Don't feel bad, you spent time with him the night before its not like you've sold out on him or haven't seen him in weeks. But I understand what you mean about saying "NO". I sometimes I have the same difficulty, but I have learned to sometimes say no. Because I have noticied at times that while you have difficulties saying "NO" others have no problem selling out on you.

No it is not necessary to make everyone happy all the time. It is okay to say no. My girl has the same problem, she cannot say no to anyone and that gets her into trouble.

I think one has to learn to be honest all the time, even if it will hurt the others. At the end of the day, truth will always prevail. With lies, whether it be white lies, or yellow lies, or blue lies, or whatever lies, it will still be a lie. Better the truthful. That is what I believe in.

You need to place yourself in a way that will balance the situation. You are making it hard for yourself because you have felt already the rejection without explaining first your side, you set to believe that they do not definitely accept no for an answer, well in fact you are the one who made the reasoning for them.Respect and befriend yourself first so that others will do the same for you. It is like saying do not do to others what you do not want them to do to you and so why are you forcing you, yourself to do things against your own will.

Hi akp! at some point you will realize that you have done too much for someone, that the only next possible step to do is to stop. leave them alone. walk away. it’s not like you’re giving up, and shouldn’t try. it’s just that you have to draw the line of determination from desperation. what is truly yours would eventually be yours, and what is not, no matter how hard you try, will never be.

Hi! I think it depends on the situation; sometimes there is no way to make everyone happy no matter what you do, sometimes you can quite easily, and others you do have to stand up for yourself and say that you need time for yourself. Whether it be reading a book, trying a new recipe, or whatever that you've been meaning to do fut for some reason haven't. I think it is perfectly fine to take some time for yourself (especially before the holiday season arrives) but there seems to be an unwritten rule; don't abuse it. As I also have a family I do try to take some time for myself but try to keep it to perhaps a couple of hours at a clip. That way I get a few things done and no one is hurting.

No, I can't say "no" easily , but I 'm learning. I've learned that as I age, my ability to do several things at once diminished. I just don't have the strength or the energy I u see to have. If I can't do something well, I'm not happy. If I'm not happy, how can I make anyone else happy?

Necessary? It's not even possible. It's not possible to please everyone all the time. You have to do what's good for you or you're not going to be able to accomplish anything.

I think that there comes a time where there needs to be a line drawn about how far you're go for others. And when it starts becoming a rather horrific strain on your own happiness, that is really as good as any place to drawn the line. Granted, I'm about as guilty as anyone else, as there are many times where I am too nice for my own good. One of the hardest but most necessary things that we can learn is how in fact to say no. And granted, that could be a rather huge struggle when you really think about it. Yet there comes a time where we got to draw that line. There are times where it hurts but when we are putting a strain our own happiness, yeah that could be a bit of a problem.

I use to be like you not wanting to displease anybody I find myself sometimes half heavy heavyhearted saying yes. When I become older I realized sometimes the first one that I got to make happy is myself. Learn to define your limitations.

Hi ! I think it's not necessary to make other people happy. We cannot please every people we know and we have to think also our own self. I think you are a kind of person who are sensitive to others feelings. And I admire you for that.

well, i am not good at saying no too but sometimes i had to stand firm with my "no" especially when there are things that are ought to be done first than other things. sometimes i would say yes but would not assure that i can make it on time. like urgent works. as with invitations like that hmm.. your cousin is a bit childish. i think she/he would understand that you did not come. don't worry that would just pass on. :)