Do you feel you are a follower, an individual, or a leader?

i would consider my self an individual i like to form my won oppinions. I like to have my own thoughts. I am by no means a leader at all. I am very much not a follower though i really dislike people who spend their whole lives chasing after the dreams and opinions of others

Hi! chrystaltears, i would like to share that when i was younger or during my student days, i was never a leader, i could not remember even once that i became a leader. When i graduated from college, i was forced to work in a Non-Government Organization and i was given a job where i had to decide on my own, organize people and implement projects on my own. This experience has taught me a lot of things including how to be a good leader.I am 52 years old already and i have managed a lot of projects and currently, i am the head of the family planning department in the NGO i am working with. So i could say that there is no person that is born a leader, all of us can become a leader, only if we try.

I never followed very well, but I lack the temperament to be a leader - I was always kind of a loner...

I'm definitely an individual. I'll do something the crowd are doing, but only if it's what I want to do at that time, and it's my choice...e.g. I don't do it just because that's what everyone else is doing. As for leading, I quite frankly can't be bothered as i feel that people have to find their own levels and their own answers in life. Not sure why I'm this way...perhaps having led my formative years during the 1960s gave me a sense of inner freedom? That might not be the right reason, but it's the only one I can think of.

I am a nonconformist by all standards. I will only do those things that suit me disregarding society norms taking care at the same time that my style of living does not inconvenience another. I always ask this question "Did society take your permission while setting those norms which suit a few. As a sequel to these thoughts I composed the following poem: THE INVINCIBLE YOU You need not be a committee member To awaken people from their slumber Your deeds, your actions play the role To churn the feelings in a soul. Wait not for praise nor fame Alas it’s not worth the game Just live your life a good one too Let people see what you do It spreads like fire just you wait When it happens you feel great! Live the word of divine life There’s joy in struggle and in strife. People watch the way you live They feel happy when you give You are the drop that makes the ocean Keeping the world ever in motion Society never consults you Making rules that suit a few Take the wand in your hand And create for you a happy land Worry not what people say Please yourself in every way Let not the world order you To be happy is your due You play your role as good as you can Spreading kindness in your lifespan Do your bit and do it well Let your actions cast the spell! And when the day comes to part You can say it from your heart I have been fair, truthful and kind. A better world I’ve left behind

Hello, Chrystaltears I've just been reading all the posts and I'm sorry you have been feeling so low. I'm sending you Love, Light, Healing and Peace about the situations you have found yourself in. Know that we are all loved and valued even though sometimes that love doesn't come from where we expect it to. I no longer dance to anyone's tune. My life has taught me many hard lessons but I now completely trust my own instinct and intuition about both people and situations. Blessings!

Perhaps this is why you can't say no lol. Zoology tells us there are alpha beasts, leadrs, and beta beasts, their deputies, and the rest are followers. But many species have a category of beast who will not fit any of those, the outsiders I like to think of them as. I am an outsider: I will follow someone if they can earn my respect, particularly intellectually, but not automatically and they have to be pretty special. I believe I have the knowledge and intelligence to lead, but others don't react to me as a leader, I don't have any charisma and my body shape and staure lead people to dismiss me (just another fat old fart). If they try to react to me as a deputy or a follower, I will ignore them unless they mostly agree with my perception of the issues at question. So, I end up permanently on the outside, usually being critical. Unfortunately, this gets me a reputation as a troublemaker and my criticisms are ignored. These days I don't bother much, just live separately from the normal social interactions. Lash

i am an individual who is both a follower and a leader. i believe in the saying that to be a good leader, one has to be a follower. i was raised in a poor family and striven hard to do things on my own. the challenges probably had molded me into being a strong-willed individual.

I am neither a follower nor a leader.... i am an individual and wish to live the same because i truly believe that everybody in this world is unique and vivid. I have self determination which i think my plus point to be an individual. Have a nice time.

I could be a follower and i could be a leader also. But for sure i am an individual who does things on my own without having to ask the assistance of others for things i do. If in a group , i can be a follower, if what the group decided is also of my thought and liking. But once i know that it would fail, i could also lead them to a better plan. It's a case to case decision. But what i am sure is , i am an individualistic person. I do things on my own.

I think I am a Team Player :D who have the capacity to work as follower which can work in his individual capacity and can shine within a team and have the capacity, courage, skills and passion to become a strong leader. So now you tell me what you think about me? can I have the ability to go through the whole process with ease and comfort?

As i want to say i want to feel those three stages. When i born till my young age im a follower of my dad he is a first leader to me. As im at my 25 now i seems to be individual had ability to choose correct decisions. Then i want to be a leader to my son as what my father did to me.

I never been a follower. Already as a kid I was not, I did not, I preferred to be alone and do it my way. I never believed just by the word what others said, no matter if it was about religion, life experience. I am a great organizer and leader, people do follow me but I do think I am and individual. People might need me but I don't need them. I can solve my own problems, always did already as a kid. I never had the problems other people have with their kids or at work or what ever. I know myself too good that I know what kind of job I am good at or whit what kind of people I can work together (or not at all).

actually i think that im a leader the reason is simple that i have very few role models and basically i try to make my own plans .. im selfish kind of person so im not motivated by the other leaders .. im only motivated by myself .. so thats why i can call myself leader on the other im always ready to share my expereince with the other people .. so these are some of the things due to which i think that im more like a leader than the follower .. basically many younger siblings and friends follow my style etc ..

Well, I feel I have all these characteristics. So does everyone. Depending on our situation we keep changing our role. I follow when I do not know what has to be done and when someone is there to guide me through the crisis. I am individual when I put forth my opinion. I am a leader when I take the role of guiding and leading people around me, with the little knowledge that I have.

I admire those people who recognize that they are born leader. i never have this kind of thought or idea. i think i am a follower and individual. i have learned to follow as a kid who had parents who showed me the way. I trusted them and i followed them. knowing this, i also learned to lead others. if the situation calls for my action to lead, then i do it. but i am more of a follower and individual. i like to be independent and on my own at times.

Growing up I didnt think I was leadership material. I was quite reserved and was content about working in the background. I knew that I was smart and intelligent, but I was happy to follow and support others. However, years ago I became a member of a church which taught me to be more confident. I became a leader of different ministries for many years and people have remarked that I had exceptional leadership qualities. I truly believe that to be a good leader, one has to learn from being a good follower first. Being a good follower first allows me to submit to those even higher than me. Leaders are not always born, they can also be made and molded from people who never thought they could lead as well.