Showing gratitude when someone helps
@Professor2010 (20162)
India
September 23, 2011 1:30am CST
When someone helps me, I always try to help back in some way or other; it is expected from a civilized person. I and Kalyani took the herbal medicine for more than a month, it cost 1500 rupees per day, but there was not even one percent improvement, I talked to the doctor he said you continue for 3 months more. I said, you had said the medicines will show effect in one month, now you say, another 3 months, sorry I won’t continue.
Now a homoeopathic doctor, 
a very close friend and well wisher from Tirunelveli district in South India has sent homoeopathic medicine, this is combination of several medicines. I am grateful to her for the help; I will help her in some other way.
I somehow feel it will work for our peripheral neuropathy problems due to diabetes.
Sometimes the same medicine given by one doctor doesn’t work, but if given by another works, though the reason is not known, I have practical experience of this.
[b]What is your opinion on this?
Please share your views and comment on this.
Thanks in advance.[/b] Professor ‘Bhuwan’. . 23/9/2011
a very close friend and well wisher from Tirunelveli district in South India has sent homoeopathic medicine, this is combination of several medicines. I am grateful to her for the help; I will help her in some other way.
I somehow feel it will work for our peripheral neuropathy problems due to diabetes.
Sometimes the same medicine given by one doctor doesn’t work, but if given by another works, though the reason is not known, I have practical experience of this.
[b]What is your opinion on this?
Please share your views and comment on this.
Thanks in advance.[/b] Professor ‘Bhuwan’. . 23/9/20111 person likes this
15 responses
@hardworkinggurl (37063)
• United States
24 Sep 11
Hello Papa!
Hmm it look at this way that sometimes when someone is caring and understanding the same medicine might have different approach on it works. I see you first doctor did not want to explore the reasons why it did not work and or give you sufficient understanding as to why he wanted to wait. Perhaps your very close friend sending some wonderful positive energy and so hoping this helps for some reason it really would make a difference.
It is like cooking with love or simply just to cook. A person could feel obligated to cook and make the same meal for two different persons and it will not taste the same. It is like thinking that when we cook with love it makes a world of difference and tastes better too.
Somehow I am relating this to positive energy, reinforcing the medication to work. I too am hoping that you and Maa start getting better as well with this.
Have a wonderful and blessed weekend Papa!
Hmm it look at this way that sometimes when someone is caring and understanding the same medicine might have different approach on it works. I see you first doctor did not want to explore the reasons why it did not work and or give you sufficient understanding as to why he wanted to wait. Perhaps your very close friend sending some wonderful positive energy and so hoping this helps for some reason it really would make a difference.
It is like cooking with love or simply just to cook. A person could feel obligated to cook and make the same meal for two different persons and it will not taste the same. It is like thinking that when we cook with love it makes a world of difference and tastes better too.
Somehow I am relating this to positive energy, reinforcing the medication to work. I too am hoping that you and Maa start getting better as well with this.
Have a wonderful and blessed weekend Papa! 1 person likes this
@PointlessQuestions (15397)
• United States
24 Sep 11
Oh, I couldn't agree more with this. Being a cook, I can tell the difference if I am just cooking to get done or if I am cooking with all the love in me. My family can tell the difference too... my family loves it when I cook.
I believe his first doctor didn't really care about him, but just wanted to sell the medicine. The second person really cares and sent the medicine out of the love in the heart.
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@hardworkinggurl (37063)
• United States
24 Sep 11
I honestly also believe it as how can we tell a doctor something did not work and without full details kindly explaining the reasons as to why. I can understand that some doctors do not have a clue at times and would rather continue experimenting. But a caring and good doctor will take the time to be honest and say I am not sure why it is not working for you.
@tigeraunt (6326)
• Philippines
23 Sep 11
hello professor,
i feel it is always the right thing to do to show appreciation to favors done for you. always saying thank you is a nice thing. and always mean it when it is said.
returning a favor if you can is not a duty.. but will surely be appreciated as well.
have a nice day.
ann
@tigeraunt (6326)
• Philippines
29 Sep 11
hi rich,
you are missed! 
ive been very busy these past 3 days and i didnt have enough time to stay and work in mylot. so this reply is a little late.
surely there is something you'll get when you make responses to my discussion.. not just money! you're already "rich" hence, instead of money, i give my biggest smile for you .. to show i appreciate you being my friend.
hope you are doing really well.
you are missed!
ive been very busy these past 3 days and i didnt have enough time to stay and work in mylot. so this reply is a little late.
surely there is something you'll get when you make responses to my discussion.. not just money! you're already "rich" hence, instead of money, i give my biggest smile for you .. to show i appreciate you being my friend.
hope you are doing really well.
@celticeagle (168171)
• Boise, Idaho
24 Sep 11
When someone helps me I always want to do something in return also atleast say 'thank you'. Sometimes I can't always do something in return but I try. The medicine took me forever to find. Went through seven different ones. It was very frustrating and the side effects are such that I couldn't handle most of them.
@lingaypaculdar (337)
• Philippines
24 Sep 11
As for your first line, yes, it is a nice act to show acts of gratitude if someone helps you. It is very shameful on my part to be called an ingratitude. Why, a simple thank you counts and it has no cost.
@sophiecheer (931)
• Philippines
26 Sep 11
I agree that being grateful when being help is one manifestation of a civilized person. And I do believe that helping back when possible is also a great sign of decency and propriety.
I for one, will always make it a point to give back to the person who have helped me. Being a Filipina, we had this character trait "utang na loob". This is one where we feel indebted and feel the need to repay whatever good deeds that have been given to us. For parents for example. Children are expected to repay their parents by taking care of them during old age.
And I do believe that helping back when possible is also a great sign of decency and propriety.
I for one, will always make it a point to give back to the person who have helped me. Being a Filipina, we had this character trait "utang na loob". This is one where we feel indebted and feel the need to repay whatever good deeds that have been given to us. For parents for example. Children are expected to repay their parents by taking care of them during old age. @PointlessQuestions (15397)
• United States
24 Sep 11
I agree, and it may be the placebo effect. You believe in the doctor and you believe it will work. It might be different medicine, or it may be nothing much different than what you already had, but your belief in the doctor and your boosted immune system will help you to get well.
@sukumar794 (5040)
• Thiruvananthapuram, India
23 Sep 11
It is true that that the different disciplines of medicines have their own wonder cures for fatal diseases. Ayurvedic or Homeopathic medicines would work out wonders where modern medicines have turned out to be failures in treating chronic illnesses.
@buddha3 (1026)
• India
23 Sep 11
You are right. We have to show gratitude to those who help us. But return help is not something that everybody expects. Just that feeling of being grateful makes them happy.
I am a rural management student and I am in Andhra on a project. A villager helped me a lot in spite of the language barrier. I could have gone back without informing him after i finished my survey. But I made sure I visited him and gifted him a shirt as a token of gratitude just two days ago and thanked him wholeheartedly.
The contentment i saw in his eyes by helping me was so moving.
@celticeagle (168171)
• Boise, Idaho
24 Sep 11
I remember the amount of time I spent find the right medication for my severe depression. The side effects were such that it took me a long time to find the right one. I have also gone through some mental anguish about taking a medication but I realized I had to due to how the illness was affecting me. I hope you find something natural that will help you. It takes patience.
@bamikalipal (588)
• Philippines
23 Sep 11
Expressing gratitude and appreciation is always the right thing to do. Returning the favor, if and when you are capable of doing it, would be great. No man is an island and we all need each other. For me, life is all about sharing what we have and what we know, with those who need it and who welcome it. Do you know why I'm trying to emphasize "sharing with those who welcome it"? There are those who profess to know everything and those who are too proud to accept help and suggestions. Thank you for sharing your ideas and experience, Professor. Have a nice day.
@marie_cuizon (191)
• Philippines
23 Sep 11
I agree that it is important that we should show our gratitude to those people who helped us. It is also a simple indication that we appreciate the goodness they have given to us. Being helped by others make us feel that we are also important to them. In return, we should also never deprive our help to those persons who needed our help and assistance. Giving help is one way of finding happiness and meaning in life.
@conquer2012 (324)
• China
24 Sep 11
when someone gives US a hand and we will try our best to help back in some other ways. it is a tradition in my country to have the deed. for a harmonious society, i think it is necessary and useful for all to do the same deeds. on the one hand, it proved that you are a civilized person and well-educated; on the other hand, you will be reward by your behaviors.
@huilichan8 (1378)
• Singapore
23 Sep 11
You want views based on the title of your discussion or based on your entire discussion? If it's the former, then I hv sth to say. It's extremely impt to show gratitude to people who hv helped me. I can't stand ingrates and so I wouldn't want to be one.
