Do you really need to talk to your partner everyday?
By laydee
@laydee (12798)
Philippines
September 23, 2011 6:31am CST
In a conversation I had a few days ago, I came to understand that some people appreciated the times when they weren't really required to chat with their mates. I'm not saying that it's bad, but they confessed that they missed the times when they were not required to 'talk' on the dot everyday.
I'm not saying that it's bad, neither am I referring to day-to-day conversations like asking about decisions and such, I'm talking about conversations of talking about anything under the sun or just hanging out with your partner.
Is it healthy to keep your distance? or is it something that should not be given a chance?
I'm a bit more concerned now since my partner also mentioned to me that he appreciated my attitude 'before' when I didn't obligate him to talk to me and we'd just get-in-touch when we felt like it. Honestly, I just like spending time with him, to me it's not 'spending time' at all, it's more of 'being together'. But sadly, it seems like he might be sacrificing instead of enjoying 'our' time together.
I hope you guys could share some light, most especially those who are already married or with their partners for a long time. Your thoughts would surely be appreciated. Thank you in advance.
Have a great MyLot experience ahead!
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11 responses
@befrindwithme26 (5805)
• Philippines
23 Sep 11
Well for me, it depends,if he can do to communicate every day he can,if there is money and especially when he is out of the country..
Sometimes it needs to talk every day to check if he/she are okay and sometimes you are worried,and you want to know if the person is doing well..
It is healthy to have communication always because you can share each others,feeling,share the aches,and also spending time with each others sometimes it helps to be healthy partner..
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@laydee (12798)
• Philippines
24 Sep 11
Well yeah, but he's arguing that there are times when one just wants to be alone and do their thing. But to me, I'm not talking about spending the whole day talking (we can't do that because we have jobs). I'd like to have at least a few minutes or so to just talk before we sleep.
Thank you for sharing.
@shanemae (1025)
• Philippines
24 Sep 11
wow! your partner is being honest with you. well, maybe he need some space now. sounds terrible but why not give him what he wants.
well, this happened to me but my partner actually did not say anything i just figured it out so i gave him space.
you too go give him free time. you'll see after that space he would go after you and would want to hang out with you more often. of course don't give him the gap a little space will do. oh i hope you get what i'm saying. just keep the communication but don't suffocate him with you hanging around all the time with him.
i see that as healthy for relationship because if you would be there all the time your partner would not miss you but if you would give him time to miss you then he would really go after you and check you a lot after you giving him time to miss you. i hope this explaining helped. happy mylotting.:)
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@laydee (12798)
• Philippines
25 Sep 11
Thank you very much for your thoughts. I did ponder a bit about such and I guess I got it wrong when I thought that it was a signal that he doesn't want to spend time with me anymore.
I guess there are just times when I over assume on things and would see the bad side of things whenever he's just being honest. I do try to give him time and I hope that he appreciates me for it.
Again, thank you for sharing!
@sunli123 (538)
• China
24 Sep 11
I am not sure. But communcation is very important in a relationship. Mybe you can try some different ways to "talk" to your partner, like texting messages, online communcation, or just make a call even you are under the same roof. Or you may try some body language like making a face etc, that's also a kind of communcation. For me, it will be weird if two persons under the same roof but have no communcation for several days. Good luck and nice weekend~
@fantabulus (4000)
• India
24 Sep 11
Yes at least in fantas opinion everyday talking is necessary with the partner. Because if we are in same house then how can live without talking. Some people not talk with their parents also but I cant stay in same house without talking with my husband and parents in law both
@sheetal2900 (336)
• India
23 Sep 11
Actually when my husband come home from his work he is so tired that, he need some time to take rest and me too need time to do my activities so that time he relax and after that while dinner we usually watch television so that time also we do not require to talk but at night if else anyone will have mood to talk then we talk about the day or do discussion on serious issue so the whole day goes like this only so no talking to my husband the whole day sometime it happen that even that discussion does not take place between us. But on weekends we rock and chat so i really think if there will be less talking everday, it will rock on weekends
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@silpatenneti (72)
• India
24 Sep 11
I ströngly believe that each and everything should be shared with their partners.if they are hiding from each other,their should be some mistake between them or they don't understand each other.if truly they love each other,their will not be secrets,life leads happily and smoothly.
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@laydee (12798)
• Philippines
25 Sep 11
I don't think it's a matter of hiding something from each other. I don't think that it's something like that. Perhaps like many of us, he just wanted to take a breather or something. You know, the sense of independence.
Anyhow, I know that secrets shouldn't be a part in a relationship, but I do believe too that it's not good to be overly honest. There should be proper balance of knowing what to say and understanding that there are things that need not be said.
Thank you for your ideas. Have a great day ahead!
@dreamy1 (3811)
• United States
23 Sep 11
I'm in a long distance relationship and no I don't feel like talking to him everyday but he pretty much texts or calls every day. I'm the type of person who likes their space and alone time. I don't need to see you everyday and I don't need to talk to you everyday either. I'm fine if I just talk to you once a week but that's me. I like to be alone a lot I don't need someone all up in my face all the time.
@cupkitties (7421)
• United States
23 Sep 11
How can you not? I'd go crazy being around someone and not saying anything all day and this is coming from someone who is very shy. You don't have to talk about your disgusting love feelings, but you do need to say something. My father and step mom have been together over 20 years. I believe they'll be together til the day they pass on and all I ever hear them talk about is the events that take place at their jobs.
@strawberrychocodahi (4818)
• Philippines
23 Sep 11
I'm confuse about what you said, let me borrow it for a while " I'm a bit more concerned now since my partner also mentioned to me that he appreciated my attitude 'before' when I didn't obligate him to talk to me and we'd just get-in-touch when we felt like it.".... 
It's like there's a juicy fried chicken in front of you, but nobody is allowed to touch it nor taste it
. I don't see any wrong when my spouse talk to me on a daily basis. He will even FEAR the idea if I don't even talk to him since he knows me very well that when I don't speak, I am angry
.
I am talking about a day to day conversation, nothing too deep to talk about but the way you converse to each other adds bonding time. You share your views, you get to know more about your spouse and you tend to appreciate the person that he is. But I really am not into the idea of a silent treatment, like quiet by a minute, it really feels strange not to talk about what happened when there are a lot of things to start a conversation, even when you ask him about a text message he received, that's already a start. Do you need to deprive yourself from a precious conversation when in fact this will be a great advantage?
It's like there's a juicy fried chicken in front of you, but nobody is allowed to touch it nor taste it. I don't see any wrong when my spouse talk to me on a daily basis. He will even FEAR the idea if I don't even talk to him since he knows me very well that when I don't speak, I am angry.
I am talking about a day to day conversation, nothing too deep to talk about but the way you converse to each other adds bonding time. You share your views, you get to know more about your spouse and you tend to appreciate the person that he is. But I really am not into the idea of a silent treatment, like quiet by a minute, it really feels strange not to talk about what happened when there are a lot of things to start a conversation, even when you ask him about a text message he received, that's already a start. Do you need to deprive yourself from a precious conversation when in fact this will be a great advantage? @sender621 (14894)
• United States
24 Sep 11
The lines of communication need to stay open in order for any relationship to grow and develop. I think it is important for partners to talk with each other every day. When we stop doing that the relationship suffers and could possibly be heading for the end.
@passion3924 (121)
• United States
24 Sep 11
i feel that speaking to your partner everyday can get old ... if you think that the love and your conversation can last and you dont live together .. then there shouldn't be a problem
