we really don't have feelings, you know.
By saphrina
@saphrina (31551)
South Africa
September 23, 2011 9:26am CST
Okay, this might upset some sensitive people, so please ignore some of the things that might make you faint while reading.
First of all, women are human. Really we are certified.
We have feelings, we do get hurt, we do take a lot of crap in life.
Not only from boyfriends and some husbands cheating, but at work places, family and sometimes so called friends.
Now, how much do you think women can take?
Should we just smile and accept everything that happen to us or is it time that women should start showing that we surely had enough being treated like this?
Any good ideas, as i am a bit pissed to think right now.
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35 responses
@purplealabaster (22091)
• United States
23 Sep 11
Wait, I am very confused now. I thought that women were supposed to be all "emotional" and not able to handle anything, which is why the men have to make all the decisions. Now you are telling me that it is really the women that are responsible for pretty much everything and the men only can handle one ... maybe two ... tasks at a time? When did all this happen?
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@purplealabaster (22091)
• United States
23 Sep 11
I am living in this century ... or at least I thought I was. Maybe I have invented a time-machine that has sent me back in time to a previous century and I just haven't figured it out yet. If that is what has happened, then I might be the richest person in the world ... if I could figure out to get back there and collect my earnings, that is.
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@bhabycatch013 (9150)
• Philippines
23 Sep 11
dear,
It depends how I am pissed off they can make choices actually
they can end up in hospital bed or coffin
We have moods since we woman are the beautiful and most understanding creature we take everything as long as we can but once we fed up the heaven can be hell
I think you need some vodka right
hugs
@sarahruthbeth22 (43143)
• United States
23 Sep 11
I have learned that I do have feelings and they are Just as important as other's feelings! I also learned if you do not speak up and tell the person what's up, what they did wrong , they will Never know. So my advice is to tell him/her what they did to hurt you and see how they react. If they are genuinely upset and very sorry, Then forgive them and move on. But if they either don't see what they done that was so wrong or they try to blame you for being " Too Sensitive" then tell them to take a flying f@ck at a rolling donut and walk away. They are not worth your time. You are a kind , smart , funny woman and you deserve to hang with people you appreciate you!
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@jaiho2009 (39141)
• Philippines
23 Sep 11
dear saphy,
Oh well sweetheart, the last time I am fed up,I kicked his butt out of my face and out of my house
@jaiho2009 (39141)
• Philippines
23 Sep 11
I am sure I had given a good kicked that serves him.
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@urbandekay (18278)
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23 Sep 11
"we really don't have feelings, you know."
I know but you do such a good impression, I must also compliment you on your ability to imitate thinking too!
all the best urban
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@urbandekay (18278)
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24 Sep 11
Seriously though, the real question is are you a slave to your emotions or master of them
all the best urban
@buddha3 (1026)
• India
23 Sep 11
Any misbehaviour with women shouldn't be tolerated. Mainly at work places they are not treated well. ( of course only in few places). I've seen people try to gain undue advantage of a woman's problems at work places. If women hit back such things will reduce.
I can proudly say that I've never treated any woman or anybody in general badly :)
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@primeaque86 (8108)
• Philippines
24 Sep 11
Then you must show what you really feels, every person has the right to do it, regardless of gender :)
@primeaque86 (8108)
• Philippines
24 Sep 11
Hurt, that must be feeling that would knock me down then
@zukichucha (991)
• United States
23 Sep 11
I used to hold everything in because I did not want to argue with my husband, friends or co-workers. But, what happens with that is you keep quiet and thoughts and feelings bother you and build up until you explode out of frustration. Also, I was getting insomnia, anxiety and migraines. So now, as soon as something bothers me I let people know. It is not what you say, it's how you say it. I have learned that you don't need to argue or be nasty for people to know you are unhappy. Sometimes, they don't even realize they did something wrong until you tell them.
@zukichucha (991)
• United States
26 Sep 11
I actually feel like a different woman now. I used to be very temperamental and withdraw and get depressed because I could not communicate. But guess what? Life is too short to let people or yourself for that matter make you down. I also thought people were psychic btw Loretta. LOL
@kitty42 (3923)
• United States
23 Sep 11
Hello friend,
Well what a great topic, so being the woman that I am yes I agree and I also demand to be respected oh yes no matter who you are you will respect me considering. The fact I am a respectful person who respect others no matter who they are for sure you will respect me.some people are very happy with the status quo so they will accept any and everything as long as they feel they are alright its sad but true I see that alot, woman letting men talk to them any way they like, I can go on and on just know it will not be me I was not born to be disrespected by anyone depending on the situation not even my MOM sorry but It is what iIt is.
Great topic
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@sunnycool (12714)
• India
24 Sep 11
And here i conclude for the 999th time .... that few things never change
@purplealabaster (22091)
• United States
24 Sep 11
I hope that some things change every once in a while ... like your clothes, for instance.
@purplealabaster (22091)
• United States
24 Sep 11
Jlyn - I thought you were strong enough on your own that you did not need whips. Besides, doesn't a lasso automatically come with your wardrobe?
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@sheetal2900 (336)
• India
23 Sep 11
Actually today's women do not accept everything that happen to them And i am quiet sure that women show that what they can do i anyone treats them badly. Women are not felt sensitive because these world will not able to live her with peace, she have to fight for everything in today's era. In past women were quit shy and do not say anything people use to exploit them but now that era has turn and new era has came of women
@Hatley (163776)
• Garden Grove, California
23 Sep 11
hi saphie yes indeed, we are not dummies and we are not things we are people who are fed up and will not take it anymore.We can and will fight back.
@cynthiann (18602)
• Jamaica
24 Sep 11
I know that I am so late but have been trying to play catch up a little today. Normally I can mylot before work and at Midday and after work but my boss has put me under so much pressure that i became very fragmented and of course the work took so long. I was taking work home to d I tell you that I am holding on until my mortgage is finished paying for then I will give in my notice and would like to kick him in his ice hole sometimes we have to smile especially as jobs are so hard to get and I am not financially stable yet to retire.
@cynthiann (18602)
• Jamaica
24 Sep 11
I don;t drink whiskey. Can you make it Gin or Vodka with a splash of tonic water?
@cynthiann (18602)
• Jamaica
24 Sep 11
Oh, I passed the muffin man in town coming to work today. Do you want a seasoned muffin?
@andy77e (5156)
• United States
24 Sep 11
I've worked at several places where it was dominantly women. Honestly, I can't stand working with women.
Women stab you in the back. They run around and gossip about everything. What did she say? Can't you believe that! What did he do? Did you hear about? That guy did this wrong! This guy said that about her!
And on and on and on.
Women are the first to run off and tell some manager about every little thing you did wrong. Accident or otherwise, they stab you in the back as much as possible. They'll hover around your work station just to spy on you to see if they can catch you doing something.
And finally, they are horrible managers. Demanding the impossible, never giving anyone a second chance, never allowing you to have your say in matters.
I hope I never have to work with, or under, a women ever again. Horrible experiences.
@purplealabaster (22091)
• United States
24 Sep 11
I have worked with women like you described here, but all women are not like that - I have worked with women completely the opposite of what you have described, so I know for a fact that they are not all the same. Similarly, I have worked with men exactly like you have described here, so it is not a phenomenon reserved solely for women.
Also, guys gossip as well. They talk about girls and what other guys are doing, etc. They talk about what happened last weekend or what went on at the party. That is still gossip.
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@saphrina (31551)
• South Africa
24 Sep 11
Shame sweetie.
That must have been horrible.
I have to admit that some women can be a real pain in the butt in some workplaces, but it's not all of us.
Here, the women managers are great to work with actually. Seems there are a difference in countries then.
Hope it will be better next time if it happens that you have to work with them again.
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@allknowing (136481)
• India
24 Sep 11
Saphy you seem to belong to the old school of thought where it was said women should be seen and not heard. That is history now and atleast in my circle I hardly find anyone who would suffer in silence and why should they anyway. Al this crap being ladylike - walk like a lady, talk like a lady, lady, lady, lady. What's so special about that? Be a human being that's it.
@allknowing (136481)
• India
24 Sep 11
I have a confident walk and someone said that I walk like a man. Grrrrr
@AJsMom (157)
• Philippines
25 Sep 11
Women are made to be the ones who feel more than men do. During the old times I think women are more tolerant to pains caused by husbands and perhaps some to boyfriends because that is how society expects them to be. But in today's generation, women have learned about their place in the real world. We may take some pains but never again will allow anyone to be battered all the way and all throughout. We still feel because we were born this way. However, today's women have learned their rights and have learned to love themselves too that they can only take enough. We may give chance or chances but we now count and we know when to put an end to all these sufferings. And fortunately to some, their eyes are so wide opened that they wont even give anyone a chance to hurt them in anyway. These are the kind of women of today. We use a bit of heart and a lot of mind.
@AJsMom (157)
• Philippines
26 Sep 11
When I was in my teenage years, I would always use a lot of heart and so little of the mind. When I reached early adulthood, I would use half of the heart and half of the mind which confused me a lot, LOL! Fortunately now, I wouldn't have to apply the less heart and more mind thing because I am in a good situation with my married life. But if I have to, I will always resort to that formula. :)