Unfidelity !!!! Guys are always responsible?
By eseulhan
@eseulhan (199)
Philippines
September 24, 2011 7:50am CST
When we said unfidelity most people think its guys always at fault. But a relationship was established between a man and a woman, while indicating that the woman has had its share. Why are guys always at blame for being unfaithful? Is it their nature to be a womanizer? But to think, the problem is isnt the man or woman, its all about whats prompting them to do it. Anything in life allow us to be unfaithful, maybe it's hard to live coz of it but it's harder to betray our partner. But
instead to betray, we could discuss together and find solutions, if it isn't possible to continue together it's more better to separate than betray, right? What do you think?
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10 responses
@sunli123 (538)
• China
26 Sep 11
It is not easy to maintain a good relationship, love, mutual respect, common interests, both parties' love abilities, loyalty, communication ways, and fortune are all required. So I don't think it is only the guy's responsibility.
@alottodo (3056)
• Australia
25 Sep 11
I Am a female and I came to the conclusion that men do not consider "cheating"when they sleep around...even when they are married...their excuse is " I only had s**k with her but I love you! to male is a separate thing...s**k have nothing to do with love...they may love their wife and children...and they don't want to lose that! soooo when they are found cheating their excuse is I love you...she is nothing to me.
I know women cheat as well...but that is different...a woman that cheat is often looking for love and understanding and companionship and that attention her husband[ because he is cheating] can't give her!...in my opinion I don't like cheaters I would prefer to separate than betrayal! but that is just my opinion any way.
@ravinskye (8237)
• United States
24 Sep 11
I don't think it's so much that guys are always responsible, I think it's that woman are more vocal about it. If a woman gets cheated on, she shares her feelings with friends and family so everyone knows the guy cheated. If a guy gets cheated on he keeps most his feelings inside so not as many people know about it. I think these days it goes either way, but it is running wild in relationships. My best friend had her husband leave her and found out he had been sleeping with everyone but her. I have another acquaintance that just separated from his wife who was cheating on him. There are many different reasons and situations that lead up to people cheating. Sometimes it's a one time thing that they didn't mean to cheat, sometimes it's that they'll never be faithful to anyone. My best friend knows for a fact that her ex husband is already cheating on the girl he left her for. Sad.
@Harold_ks (1673)
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24 Sep 11
In most cases of infidelity, man is usually caught guilty that's why most people think that it's always guys who's doing it. But there are also cases that women were the ones caught guilty. So I think men and women are just equal, they both encounter temptations but it's always up to them if they will fall to it or not. It's just a matter of self-discipline that if you already have a partner, you should stick to him/her and accept him/her 100% and those things that you don't want your partner to do to you, do not also do it to him/her. Respect should always be present.
@Triple0 (1904)
• Australia
25 Sep 11
Yeah, we always hear that it is the guys doing the cheating and being the unfaithful ones in the relationship. My friend has had two boyfriends cheat on her behind her back and I really felt sorry for her. The first guy was a total rebel and the second guy was a really nice guy but he lost feelings for her and decided to go for another girl. So we often refer to this stereotype because it's always the guys getting caught, they're not very good at hiding it. Girls do cheat as well, it all depends on the person. I don't get why people cheat, especially if you're still in a relationship. It really hurts the other person. It's so much easier to talk to the person, discuss your issues or break up.
@huilichan8 (1378)
• Singapore
24 Sep 11
Guys are not always unfaithful BUT they are usually the ones who betray their wives or gfs. I am not trying to sound judgmental here but it's a fact. I agree with you that separation is better than betrayal when it's no longer possible to stay together.
@reco13 (605)
• Philippines
24 Sep 11
I don't believe that men are to be blamed when this happens. Both parties are responsible for themselves. Trust and honesty should be the foundation of relationship. I hate hearing stories of unfidelity and I must say that when this happens, it must be worked out immediately. If love still remains, I know that the couple will still end up together.
@allknowing (137671)
• India
24 Sep 11
Infidelity works both ways but men cannot hide it the way women do. Women keep it under wraps as society believes that women are beyond doing any such things. This is actually wrong as these are wrong signals that will not help set matters right.
@courtknee525 (3742)
• United States
24 Sep 11
Guys aren't always the ones to cheat in a relationship. I've heard about plenty of girls cheating on their boyfriends or husbands just as often as men. Maybe people think men cheat more because they're the ones that get caught...I really don't know. All I know is that girls cheat too. My boyfriend had his past 2 girlfriends cheat on him when he's the most faithful guy around.
When someone cheats on the person they claim that they love, then they don't truly love that person. In true love, you don't want to hurt that person and also, if you have your true love then you don't need someone else, just the one you love.
@godfisher (14)
• China
24 Sep 11
i agree with you,but i want to say that cherish your partner.if you fall into some problem,you may try perspective-taking.