Making Mistake
By lampar
@lampar (7584)
United States
September 24, 2011 11:53am CST
Everyone make mistake in their life, but some people tend to make repeated mistakes many time over again, what's that one mistake that you are making repeatedly in your life that you think is detrimental for you to achieve success either in business, personal relationship or professional endeavor so far, if you ever come out with a solution to deal with this personal misstep and how you deal with it. Thank for sharing your personal experience right here.
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@se7enthbird (8307)
• Philippines
26 Sep 11
i do always makes mistakes regarding choosing people who will join our band. but it is hard to change because you never really know a person and his capabilities unless you test drive that person in the works we have. it is hard to find a singer who is as dedicated as we are in the group and as loyal as we are. singers in our band come and go. we are five guys in our group, 4 of us plays the instrument and 1 guy sings. we always look for female singers and although we always get they also leaves at once and find another group. my wife said that it is really hard to handle a female when all of us our male. i just hope we find someone who will stick with us no matter what... but then again of course people wants to go where they think the grass is greener. but sometimes looks can be deceiving.
@lampar (7584)
• United States
26 Sep 11
I can understand why a band member want to leave your group after a while if he got a better offer somewhere else, but to prevent the same mistake happen again in your band, isn't it possible for you all to sign a work contract before using him as guitarist, drummer or singer first, let's say he must be in the group for at least a year or three years after he was chosen, if he disagree, then you should choose the second best candidate. As far as i am concerned, it is common to see people to leave for greener ground in one career or job, it is nothing personal.
@epicure35 (2814)
• United States
25 Sep 11
Yes, we all make mistakes and must learn not to repeat them. One of my personal mistakes that I have repeated was trusting someone in my family to keep their word re specific matters. This has not yet happened. I hope that soon it will change because it not only hurts me, but the whole family, including the person who has not yet learned to be trustworthy.
@megamatt (14292)
• United States
25 Sep 11
I really try to learn from my mistakes. I think that there are only so many times where you can make a mistake and it is going to cease being a mistake after a while. It is going to go for a mistake to be completely and utterly careless to say the very least. At least that is the thing for me. I think that there are many times where once a mistake doesn't register but if it happens again, it does register.
The most triumphant example was there were times where I was younger where I tried to think that I could smooth over arguments. The problem was that no matter how hard I tried, the situation did seem to get worst. I think that I might be the world's worst mediator in many ways. So yes, I learned the hard way, which is why when two people I know have an argument I'll let them duke them out.
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@lampar (7584)
• United States
25 Sep 11
I think a mistake will cease to happen again only when we realize that the consequence is significantly grave to us and other, if not, normally people will continue to do the same mistake until it affect themselves badly. Probably you don't consider it is a mistake in the first place, then you continue to argue with intense passion, only after several time, you only realize the outcome is significantly worst than your intention. It is better off to cool down instead of argue, a much better result may have achieve.
@kingparker (9673)
• United States
25 Sep 11
A personal lesson must be learned from my mistakes that I made repeatedly from the past. I should never trust anyone to borrow them money. The first mistake I made, trust this friend of mine, who also work with me. We had this business idea to chip in money, we both apply for a business credit card, but it was under my name. He max up the card, and never pay for it. What a scammer.
Second mistake, that is a girl I really like, and all her purpose ever wanted to know me, to use me, and want me to pay for this and that.
Third mistake, recent friend of mine, who is a Honduran, his name Julio Gonzalez, desperately need help for money to buy a ticket back to Georgia here, he promised me to pay me back the money he owe me. I get online to buy him a ticket, and I firmly believe he is already back. He never answer my call, never respond my facebook message, what another scammer.
So, with all these repeatedly mistakes I made, I should not trust anyone with money anymore.
@lampar (7584)
• United States
25 Sep 11
I can understand your situation, all these incidents had no doubt raise your suspicion on anyone who want to borrow moeny from you . I probably will do the same not to be so trusting anymore especially to an ordinary friend or stranger. Cheer, my friend!
@aimcroft (22)
• Philippines
25 Sep 11
being short-tempered for most occasion.. I am really having a hard time lessening it. To lessen it, I control myself by remembering God's words. So I tried to be patient and limit the words or actions that I do whenever I get angry because I'm afraid that someday, I'll regret something because I lose temper on things.
@lampar (7584)
• United States
25 Sep 11
Yes, Your short temper can cause you to get angry easily and quickly, it is better if you can learn to control your temper and take thing a bit easy before all hell break loose and regret your action later. A quick to angry person tend to do many grave mistakes that will harm self and other, glad knowing you are working on your short-fuse; aimcroft.
@Nita06 (3)
• United States
25 Sep 11
One mistake I keep making is spending money to find online work that works. I want to be optimistic about finding one that works and one I can actually make money from and stop giving my money to. I feel like I have made the mistake of giving out too much money from false promises and I keep falling for it. Right now I have just stopped searching so I guess I will have to do without an online job.
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@lampar (7584)
• United States
25 Sep 11
Hi! Nita, i am sorry to hear you fall for the online scam repeatedly, it must be very frustrating giving out so much money hoping to make some money online, i understand that those online scammer are too good for you to beat, hopefully you can exercise extra caution if you want to search for online work again next time, remember never pay for any online work, you are the one supposed to get pay for doing online work , not the other way around, no matter what promises the website promises you.
@mods196621 (3652)
• Philippines
24 Sep 11
Mine is about money. I always waste money coz i cannot handle it in proper way..I always lose it when i have a huge amount because of family needs. And i have a very low income. That is why this could happen always.. but i can handle the situations, coz i know how to work and i am earning also. The thing that i dont like is everytime it happen i am in miserable stage if financial crisis. Money is tempting that is why but i never do wrong or mistakes when it comes to my work,, i am honest. Only this happen when somebody in my family give us financial aid. Mishandling of budget. Anyway you can avoid it if we had a lot of income and less expenditure.
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@lampar (7584)
• United States
25 Sep 11
HI, mods! you always waste money when you have huge amount with you, that must be really su*k. I really hope you find a way to overcome this repeated mistake, so that you wouldn't lose or waste it the next time you have a huge amount of money again. Try learn how to budgeting yourself from a financial expert or investment guru may help you to avoid this mistake again.
@ckyera (17331)
• Philippines
25 Sep 11
Hi lampar!
Sometimes even if we know that we made a mistake we just fail to accept it and instead of correcting we just tend to reason out for it.
I think doing some mistakes is normal in our lives and that way we learn. Sometimes we do repeated mistakes because we are also affected by our emotions, emotions that sometimes make us stop thinking. lol!
Well, sometimes we just need to learn things harder way !
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@lampar (7584)
• United States
25 Sep 11
Hello, my friend! I strongly agree with you. We tend to commit the same mistake over and again due to our own inability to control our emotion, Whenever emotion inside us begin to run high, we do it again without letting our logical and analytical side of our brain to make the decision, only regretted of what's happened later after we calmed down. It happened quite often among us.
@lou_is (665)
• India
24 Sep 11
Even me too in that category who tends to do mistakes repeatedly but now i got it so i apologize to my friends and my family that i won't repeat my mistakes in future. I never look back just keep on going and doing the mistakes then my daily life taught me how i am and what i am doing. So now i came to know what i am and how i should be in the upcoming days. Thank you for posting this discussion because of your discussion i am able to share my feelings. Once again Thank you
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@telmesh (1793)
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24 Sep 11
Hi lamps yes we all make mistakes but I'm sure some people don't realise that they are making a mistake. We can all see it but they are blind especially in love. Some girls always pick the guy that will mistreat them but they can't help it because they like that sort of person. Some guys will always drive fast so that if there's a problem on the road they won't have time to avoid it but they still drive fast because they like it.
@vikku2001 (258)
• India
24 Sep 11
Hello lampar
Mistake is never bad id you learn something from it and never do it again.Mistakes always give us some lesson but the repeated mistakes will give the same lesson that we already have so why anyone have to do that mistake again.It will just harm us.Even every successful person have done many mistakes but they don't do any mistake again.So they get success.Just learn from them and try to don't repeat it.
@lampar (7584)
• United States
25 Sep 11
I agree with you, vikku. I think probably most people don't get to choose to repeat their mistakes, either they are unaware of their own mistake, or they just don't have the solution to avoid them or just careless to take precaution again. Your guess is as well as mine.
@best2011 (210)
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24 Sep 11
yeah sometimes it really happens people tend to commit the same mistakes all the time mayb because they are too carelsss .. i think people should be mature enough aand realise that they should leanr from the mistake and not to commit the mistake again which might harm them .. so, we should always try to learn from our mistakes and have faith in our abilites that we will really do well nect time
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@lampar (7584)
• United States
25 Sep 11
I agree with that, many time people who make the same mistake over again due to carelessness even though it affect badly on their future undertakings and ventures. I can never comprehend that, except think that the same repeated mistake is actually not so grave in nature and resulted in bad consequence.